u/SteadyandFirm1

TLDR: Nice boy in Chicago looking for nice girl to do not nice things to (if she asks nicely) I’ve posted before - met some wonderful people but not my person yet, so here we go again!

About me: Large dog energy, 6’6”, dorito shaped (225 lbs), former college athlete, blue-eyed, and generally trying to do a good job. I have a tight circle of friends and family, work too much, have too many hobbies, and enjoy doing terrible things to submissive girls who like to call me Daddy or Sir, which remains a complicated topic with my therapist.

Professionally, I’m overworked at a large professional services firm — I have a love/hate relationship with my work, but apparently telling people what to do is a persistent trait. That said, I much prefer spending time on my (ever-expanding) list of hobbies, which makes me really question why I sold my soul in the first place.

A bit more about me (non-kink):
I have curiosity, nerdiness, silliness as core traits. I will cook and bake for you, try to learn everything about you, and tell bad jokes. I’m a passionate musician (piano), espresso nut, policy nerd (center-left), too many books, hiker, and occasional sailor, which means I’ll drag you somewhere beautiful and make it more difficult than necessary.

My most recent foray is woodworking — which I describe as “a long-term investment in timber futures” to friends as a way of sidestepping my increasingly large stockpile of lumber, but I can make you an end-table.

What I’m looking for:
My ideal partner wants to feel small in a good way - cherished, teased until she forgets her own name, and occasionally in significant trouble. She’s both capable and quietly dreaming of someone who will take the reins and let her turn her brain off. I love to teach, so all experience levels welcome. She’s probably between 24–35 (flexible), kind, curious, takes care of herself, and of course, submissive. Chicago based is a plus, but not required.

Naturally, she should also want me to cherish, train, and discipline her. Ideal goal is finding my person and an LTR. Physical chemistry is critical, but only the first step. I want to admire my submissive, be challenged by her, and root for her. So something short of full TPE, but open to things that extend beyond the bedroom.

On the dynamic:
Caring sadist with daddy tendencies is the best way to describe me. I’ve found I have a gift for structure and consequences, and use it professionally and personally. My third grade teacher would be proud of my progress but horrified by the application. Good dynamics start with connection, not a kink list, but I have my favorites. Must love spanking and be intrigued by the idea of obedience training. Whether that looks more like bdsm, daddy-oriented kink, or something more traditionally D/s depends on chemistry - it’s all about intimacy, trust, and vulnerability. The goal is a connection that transcends kink - a best friend, adventure buddy, and lots more.

Sundays might involve great coffee, passionate debate on politics or music, and making sure she remembers her place before Monday.

A few quick reviews from friends & family:
“We used to think you were a partner at the firm until you opened your mouth.” — Co-worker

“The piano would be much better without the singing… don’t quit your day job.” — Dad

“Don’t you have something better to do? What’s this for again? WHAT?” — Mom

If this sounds like you, say hi - the worst case is that you get cooking tips or a dad joke out of it

TLDR: Nice boy in Chicago looking for nice girl to do not nice things to (if she asks nicely)

I’ve posted here over the years, met some wonderful people, and I’m back again because kink is apparently an inescapable part of my life. This is long, but hey, detail is helpful, right?

About me:

6’6”, blue-eyed, fit (225 lbs, former competitive rower), senior at a large professional services firm. I have a love/hate relationship with the work, but apparently telling people what to do is a persistent trait. Tight circle of friends and family, generally large dog energy, and I happen to enjoy doing terrible things to cute submissive girls who like to call me Daddy or Sir, which remains a complicated topic with my therapist.

Curiosity and goofiness are core traits. I’ll cook and bake for you, try to learn everything about you, and tell bad jokes. Piano, cooking elaborate stuff, espresso tinkering, center-left politics, reading, hiking, and occasional sailing (which means I’ll drag you somewhere beautiful and make it more difficult than necessary).

My most recent foray is woodworking, which I describe to friends as “a long-term investment in timber futures” as a way of sidestepping my increasingly large stockpile of lumber, but I can make you an end table.

What I’m looking for:

Someone who wants to feel small in the best possible way - cherished, teased until she forgets her own name, and occasionally in significant trouble. She’s capable in her own life and quietly dreaming of someone who’ll take the reins and let her turn her brain off.

Probably 24–35, kind, curious, takes care of herself, and submissive. Chicago is a huge plus, but not fundamentally required. Open to long-term or shorter dynamics, but with a preference for something durable with the hope of lifelong partnership.

Caring sadist with daddy tendencies is the shortest version. I want to admire my submissive, be challenged by her, and root for her, so something short of full TPE, but open to things that extend beyond the bedroom. I've found I have a gift for structure and consequences, and use it professionally and personally. My third grade teacher would be proud of my progress but horrified by the application.

Good dynamics start with connection, not a kink list, but I have my favorites (I’m open-minded and at this point, I’ve probably tried it). Can flex between more traditional d/s and elements of DDLG, but must love spanking and be intrigued by obedience training and a little service submission.

Sundays might involve great coffee, passionate debate on politics or music, and then making sure she remembers her place before Monday.

A few quick reviews from friends & family:

“We used to think you were a senior partner at the firm until you opened your mouth.” - Co-worker

“The piano would be much better without the singing… don’t quit your day job.” - Dad

“Entirely too good at what he does.. I melted immediately” - Satisfied former sub

“You should start a daddy-training academy to teach men how to be a good daddy dom” - Former sub / current friend

“Don’t you have something better to do? What’s this for again? WHAT?” - Mom

Don’t be shy — tell me why you’d like to be my good girl, or just say hello and tell me one thing about you

PS - somebody has been posting weirdly similar dupes of my old ads. This isn’t me (though I did get locked out of an old account)