u/Affectionate_Buy442

32F - Advice on insecurities?

Hi ☺️
I’m relatively new to this, my fiancé and I have been thinking about going to events or meeting people through here, but I’m terrified of being judged.

I’m in my early 30s and definitely have a bit of a mum bod. I’m not hugely overweight, but not skinny either. I’ve lost a lot of weight (over 50kg) over the years, so I have loose skin in places and a bit of an overhang stomach area because of it, which I’m reallyyyyy self conscious about. It’s held me back a lot.

I do love looking after myself, I’m into doing my hair, makeup, tan, dressing nicely etc and I know how to flatter my body shape/clothed figure, so I feel like I can look attractive clothed. But I’m also worried that once clothes come off people will feel disappointed or think I look different to what they expected. I’d genuinely never want anyone to feel deceived or tricked in any way. I’m not out here trying to catfish people 😭

Would love to hear from anyone who’s experienced this from either side, or has any advice/reassurance 💕

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u/Affectionate_Buy442 — 11 days ago

Looking for a club that’s more social/talking than dancing/music :)

Hi!
32F here, me and my 34M partner are brand new to the lifestyle and are exploring our best options on how to start.

I love conversation and prefer a good connection before intimacy, so I’m hoping for any suggestions on clubs we could visit sometime that allow for that. I’ve seen a lot of feedback on high music volume or noise levels and I feel like that could really impact the ability to have a good chat!

TLDR: Club suggestions where I can hear myself and others talk 😂

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u/Affectionate_Buy442 — 14 days ago