Me (21M) and my gf (21F) have been talking about things we want to try and explore, we don’t know where to look.
My girlfriend and I have been together 4 years, we’re both going into our final year of college where we will be living together. After which we plan to buy a house and start our lives together. From this we’ve talked about what we would like to try sexually throughout our lives, and among other things, we talked about a threesome.
For context, my gf has never experimented with women apart from the average makeout sessions with friends and I also have a relatively low body count because I’ve been with her throughout most of my adult life. As you can see we’re both inexperienced with these sorts of things (we have explored our kinks with eachother). We are very strong, self confident and communicate openly and honestly about everything. There’s also no guarantee she or I will enjoy it but she has stated that she wants to try with another woman at some point.
I also want to stress that we have done our own independent research on forums and online resources so we are taking this seriously and know how important it is to communicate not only with eachother but with the potential person that we invite to make sure everyone is comfortable and safe. We have talked about this extensively and set our boundaries.
Our issue is we don’t know where to even start.
Since we are both in college what circles should we join? How to go about finding something like this? Should I approach or should she approach (I’ve read it’s better if she approaches)? Friends vs strangers? Is it easier to find this in college? Is bars or clubs a good or bad idea? Any other advice is appreciated.
We’re interested in an age range of 18-29, and from our understanding swingers groups tend to float outside of that range and tend to be more mature couples (27, 28, 29 is pushing it for us already), we also would prefer meeting in person (organically) not online, I’m also not interested in other men or watching my gf with other men, she is the one that wants to explore and experiment with women.
As I’ve said before we’re both new to this, so please be kind, we are open to learning and I apologise if anything I said was incorrect. We are also aware of the stereotype of ‘unicorn hunting’ and want to stay as far away from those as possible. We want to do this ethically and make sure all parties are comfortable, safe and actively communicated with.