r/ThreesomeAdvice

Looking for advice on how to ask my gf to try a mfm threesome. Idk how to ask without making it awkward

My partner and I are in our early 20s. We had our first experience with another man about 2 months ago but now I feel like we can’t meet anyone new. For context, we are looking for a single male that’s bi. but we can either only seem to find men interested in my partner (M) or only interested in me (F). Is this common? Recommendations on where to find a man interested in playing with both?

Hi everyone! My husband (28M) and I (27F) have been a lot more open about our sex life lately, and it’s honestly been really good for our relationship. I never thought I’d be interested in certain fantasies because I used to be completely against them. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized fantasies and reality are two very different things.

One fantasy we’ve both found exciting is the idea of a FFM threesome and for him, a MFM threesome. But mostly FFM on my part. To be clear, we have zero desire to actually involve another person in our marriage. We just think the idea of it is hot. We both know that doing something like that in real life can complicate things, and it’s simply not something we’d ever do. For us, it’s just a fantasy.

Because of that, we’ve talked about ways to enjoy the fantasy while keeping it strictly between the two of us, like using toys, possibly incorporating a doll, or just leaning into dirty talk and roleplay.

The other night we were having sex and really got into the dirty talk. I mentioned wanting him to take me to a hotel and fuck me on the balcony while watching the sunset. He responded that he wanted everyone there to see how good I take his dick, and hearing that surprised me in the best way because my husband has never been much of a talker during sex. He’s usually pretty quiet aside from moaning, but lately he’s been opening up more, and it’s been a huge turn-on. He also seems to be really into the idea of me being fucked by two dicks, like his and another’s. He loves seeing me ride my dildo while I suck on his dick.

Since then, I’ve realized there are moments where I want to lean into the fantasy a little more during dirty talk, but I catch myself because I’m worried I’ll go too far or say something he’ll think is weird. Looking back, though, I’m sure he’d probably enjoy it, especially considering the things he’s already said. I mentioned wanting to see him fuck another girls pussy and how I want both me and her sucking his cock while he cums on our tongues and we swap his cum. I can tell he loves it, but doesn’t say much verbally about it.

I’m still pretty new to exploring fantasies, and I’ve watched some FFM content out of curiosity and to understand why the fantasy is exciting. For me the biggest turn-on isn’t another woman being involved, even though it looks hot, I think it’s more the idea of my husband feeling desired and being the center of attention. I love pleasing my partner and making him happy. If I could clone myself so it was just multiple versions of me pleasing him, I honestly would.

For those of you who enjoy keeping fantasies as fantasies and explore them only with your partner, how do you incorporate them into dirty talk or roleplay? How do you make it feel immersive without crossing boundaries either of you aren’t comfortable with?

Hey everyone, I’m looking for some advice. Me and My GF are based in Europe and in our early 20s, have been together for about 4 years and we have decided to try out every sex fantasy at least once. We’re each other’s first and never done anything with anyone else before. One of the main ones we both have in mind is an MFM threesome. We have discussed this over and over and we both are on board and we find it super hot. She doesn’t mind the whole thing but Even though in theory, I wouldn’t mind it, I personally feel no penetration is the best option.

We considered going to a sex club but, I believe there will be some sort of performance anxiety hence, do you think it is a good idea to invite a guy to our hotel and only let him watch or maybe allow him with the following boundaries too:

Considered between her and the third: Making out, Touching each other everywhere, Touching sucking tits, fingering, eating her pussy, hand job, a lil bit of rough stuff (spanking, biting ass)

Soft boundaries (after discussion if the vibes are right): Blowing the third, her ass being eaten

HARD NO: Penetration and everything else not mentioned

We’re planning to do this when we’re on vacation in Europe itself.

1. Do you guys think this is practical for our first time

2. Where do we find a single guy (preferably older)

3. Is there anything else that could be done which doesn’t break our boundaries and make it hotter for her and me

4. Anything to be aware of

5. Opinion on Being drunk or high

Please Give me your Opinions based on if you’re the man or the woman or the third.

She’s 20 I’m 19 and it’s my fantasy to have one it’s her choice of another boy or girl I really don’t care just would like to experience this once

What is the feeling of having the other cock slipping inside your pussy for the first time, especially when it is bigger than your bf's?

My wife (50f) and I (51m) have been talking about opening our relationship for quite a while now. I am the one that instigated it. After a longtime I finally opened up to her about wanting to share her with another man, and more specifically watch her with another man. Whilst initially reluctant, she has come around to it.

We both came out of a high control religious upbringing, so post that there has been a lot to navigate in just our sex life. So at first this next step was a pretty big jump for both of us. Me firstly admitting my kink and her coming to terms with it.

I knew it was a big step so I took it very slowly and have reassured her, that whether she says yes or no, we are ok. Even admitting early on that even though I wanted it to happen. I wasn’t confident that it would ever happen.

Initially she struggled with what I assume are the usual things:
- I wanted her to do this so I can sleep with other women. No interest for me.
- It was cheating. Not how I view it.
- it would damage our relationship.

I assured her that none of that was true, except for potentially the last one, but boundaries would be put in place to minimise that.

So now she is open to it, but still has one big concern. Her body image. She doesn’t think anyone would want to have sex with her. Her body image is something she has struggled with her whole life and all through our marriage (21years).

Even though I constantly tell her that she looks great, try to encourage her in this area and her body image is better now than when we first got married, it’s still a thing for her. When I tell her I think she is sexy, or a hot MILF, her response is, you have to say that. You’re my husband.

So, I guess I am looking for advice on how to navigate this. Even though I love her so much and find her attractive. The last thing I want is to try this and it makes her feel worse or even more self conscious.

But, I feel if I can help her do this, that it will do wonders for confidence. Is this likely? Or am I going to make this worse?

So me and my gf have had the discussion of a threesome previously but never went anywhere with it, but the idea has resurfaced and there’s a high likely hood that it will happen. None of the 3 people involved will have had any experience with anything like this and quite frankly I’m looking for even the tiniest bit of advice anything about it will help.

And I know some of yall will probably say rather than asking the same question as everyone else and to just scroll through other posts, maybe somebody will answer differently to mine than to someone else’s so I’m still gonna ask it again anyways

Any help is appreciated

Me and my girlfriend have been discussing this for quite awhile she was the one to mention it first and she has looked for a woman for us but can never find one. We are wondering how can we find someone who likes us both and are willing to have a threesome. She had an app called field but nothing ever came out of it. Any advice would be helpful

Hello all!

Long time viewer, first time poster here.

To get to my basic question: How realistic is a MFF?

Context: Me and my wife have discussed swinging and she is open to the idea, yet only wants to have sex with other women if we are in engaging in an activity of this nature. Me, well...I am selfish and cool with this, cause I cant imagine another guy going ham on my lady, but Im not sure as to the realism of an arrangement of this nature happening in the wild.

I could understand another couple not swapping over this, but are there women who will be fine with this and men who would also be okay with this arrangement as well?

After I (M 28) got acquainted with the scene through my ex- partner, I signed up for a dating app for singles and couples. I'd never been on a dating app before; it never felt quite right. However, the idea of ​​sharing this experience with a couple always appealed to me.

Not even a day after signing up, a charming couple (M 39 & F 32) contacted me, and we got along well and arranged a date in a few days. They seem pretty direct and simple, which I'm happy about for the first time that I'm going to be in a threesome. I look very shy in my pictures, which is how I am when I first meet people, and the more I think about the date, the more nervous I get.

The two of them know that I don't have much experience, and I know that not everything can go exactly as planned, but I'm sure there are many things you can do very wrong. Since my circle of friends is very closed off when it comes to sex talk, and there are hardly any perspectives on Reddit as a third party (M), I would be very grateful if I could get some pointers here, even if they seem obvious.

. My thoughts range from "how do I start, what do I say?" to "how does it all go, which positions, how should I behave, which questions should I ask?"

I hope you can help me. And that everything goes well. If you're interested, I'd be happy to give you an update after the meeting. Thanks in advance.

Hi. Not really sure if this is the right place but considering that there might be people in a similar situation as me then here I go.

I (20M) and my partner (20F) have been together almost three years. I don’t know why but I fantasise her in a MFM threesome with people I know (male best friends, acquaintances). These men I imagine are all well built tall lean men and quite attractive with part of me being turned on by the thought that my partner will enjoy it with them. I’m not bi and I don’t think I’d ever entertain a threesome situation irl either.

So why is it that I fantasise it so much? I shared it with my partner although I hid the fact that I want other men involved. I told her I imagine two versions of me with her instead. She made it very clear that she’d never do it with anyone other than me but she would endorse this fantasy by acting as if a second version of me existed whenever we would have sex.

In a way that fed into my fantasy which has removed any space for the monogamous fantasies she desires (she explicitly preferred that I’d rather not engage in my threesome fantasy though she didn’t stop me). Frankly I want it to stop as well or at least manage it in a healthy way so that I don’t end up ever disrespecting her boundaries.

So I’m looking for advice to see if there are ways to manage it in a healthy manner or if I should just get rid of it. I know many people say we shouldn’t be ashamed of our fantasies but it is sad that I prefer such situations with a person I love so much. Part of me is scared of whether they actually end up liking the idea and propose it irl.

So what can I do and I would be happy to know anybody’s experiences or advice.

So I’ve been having sex with this guy and I mentioned wanting to try threesomes (1 with a girl, 1 with a boy). He found the guys and everything and had me choose which one I wanted. Fast forward to today, he just messaged me that they booked a room and for me to be ready. I’m nervous asffffffff! I’m super excited but very nervous about it. The nerves are more because I’m not very experienced… he doesn’t mind it, he actually prefers it but I mean 😭😭. He’s also very possessive/dominant/rough so everything he says goes whether I like it or not. What do I do and how do I prep??? I literally have like 2-3 hrs before he picks me up.

Vanilla wife just wondering how I can open her mind

I (F25) had a threesome with a good friend and his buddy after a barbecue at their place. It wasn't really my intention to do something like that, but because of the alcohol, we got into the hot tub in our underwear, and at some point I felt their hands on me and didn't say anything against it. After that, things just kind of took their course.

Should I talk to my good friend about it—that it really wasn't my intention—or should I just let it go?

My girlfriend and I are going to Las Vegas next weekend and we've spoke about having a mfm experience. She says its one of her fantasies and I'm open to it. I'm not bi so all the focus would be on her. Any advice on how to find a spontaneous third without having to use dating apps? Can we go to the club or bar and possibly find a third whos open and willing?

Hi everyonee!

Im a bi girl (21) and i have been in a relationship for almost 3 years now with my bf (22) and we are rock solid. I have always wanted to try out a threesome with another girl and him and he is open to the idea now after some time and is comfy exploring it.

I wanted to ask for your experience and/or opinions about adding a girl into the str8 dynamic.
Also the advice if you think its a good idea to find someone I/we already know and try out carefully if she is up to it.

Thanks in advance!❤️

My bisexual wife has agreed to hiring an escort on our trip to Switzerland. Wants a bisexual companion that will focus on her pleasure first and foremost.

Beyond no intercourse between me and escort, everything appears to be on the table.

Plan is to have her meet the woman for drinks and if all good proceed upstairs for fun.

Would love any advice or words of wisdom as this is first time we’ve hired a high end escort. Plan is 4 hours at our luxury hotel

We tried an mfm in the past but the guys were way too interested in talking to me than following through, so we adjusted our methods and agreed that after the initial back and forth on a dating app my husband would be the primary contact. So I found a guy on a dating app (henceforth referred to as guy#2) and after a little bit of talking and with permission i passed his contact details to my husband. A week after a no sex meeting for dinner we got together for the fun stuff. Details... we actually all 3 of us planned a few things prior including sending gifs to make sure everyone was on the same page and then we kinda used that as a guide to make sure everyone got their important wants. We started with me in between them with guy#2 and i kissing and my husband kissing my neck. After the kissing my husband sat back to watch a little bit (his request) while i got started with guy#2 with teasing and then blowing him while he fingered me. That was a few minutes then we rotated to guy#2 going down on me while i blew my husband. Then my husband started fucking me while i blew guy#2 and then they switched off and guy#2 was fucking me while I blew my husband. We took breaks a few times to let me catch my breath, and when we were done we all took a bath to decompress and talk to make sure everyone was good. Then we went out to dinner (which included both of them teasing me and making me blush). Then we went back to the hotel and went in for round 2, which was much less planned but still amazing, and included them cooperating to get me off with their hands first before I got on top of guy#2 in reverse cowgirl and made out with my husband while I was riding guy#2, who then came for the second time of the night and we took another break to relax. While we were relaxing naked on the bed the guys started massaging my body and getting me going with their hands again, then my husband started to fuck me and guy#2 was making out with me while talking me through it. He was telling me to say what i liked and basically coaching me through cumming it was so fucking hot, then my husband said he was close and guy#2 told me to beg him for it, and that was incredibly hot. Then we all were completely spent and tried to wobble our way to getting our shit together to go home lol. I needed an ice pack for my vagina the next day and I can't begin to count the times I came lmao but I'm definitely going to remember this for like ever. We have plans to meet again soon and I am still grinning over the last one.

Communication throughout this process between all three of us definitely played a huge factor. Being able to talk through it and plan made it much easier to transition between positions and definitely created a satisfying situation for all of us.

My girlfriend and I have been together 4 years, we’re both going into our final year of college where we will be living together. After which we plan to buy a house and start our lives together. From this we’ve talked about what we would like to try sexually throughout our lives, and among other things, we talked about a threesome.

For context, my gf has never experimented with women apart from the average makeout sessions with friends and I also have a relatively low body count because I’ve been with her throughout most of my adult life. As you can see we’re both inexperienced with these sorts of things (we have explored our kinks with eachother). We are very strong, self confident and communicate openly and honestly about everything. There’s also no guarantee she or I will enjoy it but she has stated that she wants to try with another woman at some point.

I also want to stress that we have done our own independent research on forums and online resources so we are taking this seriously and know how important it is to communicate not only with eachother but with the potential person that we invite to make sure everyone is comfortable and safe. We have talked about this extensively and set our boundaries.

Our issue is we don’t know where to even start.

Since we are both in college what circles should we join? How to go about finding something like this? Should I approach or should she approach (I’ve read it’s better if she approaches)? Friends vs strangers? Is it easier to find this in college? Is bars or clubs a good or bad idea? Any other advice is appreciated.

We’re interested in an age range of 18-29, and from our understanding swingers groups tend to float outside of that range and tend to be more mature couples (27, 28, 29 is pushing it for us already), we also would prefer meeting in person (organically) not online, I’m also not interested in other men or watching my gf with other men, she is the one that wants to explore and experiment with women.

As I’ve said before we’re both new to this, so please be kind, we are open to learning and I apologise if anything I said was incorrect. We are also aware of the stereotype of ‘unicorn hunting’ and want to stay as far away from those as possible. We want to do this ethically and make sure all parties are comfortable, safe and actively communicated with.