r/ThreesomeAdvice

Im ready to have the MFM talk with my wife. I want to propose a MFM, and let her know this has been on my mind for a while. My needs aside, I am open minded and prepared if she says “no”.
My worry is the after part, if she says NO, i have basically revealed to her that i have a desire and it will go unfull filled, which will lead her to asking other questions.

My ask: can anyone share stories where the ask for MFM was rejected, and did you continue to live normally as if the question never came up?

My girlfriend and I have both talked about being interested in a threesome someday, both MMF and FFM. She’s also told me that the idea of seeing me with another woman turns her on.

Tomorrow we’re hanging out with a female friend and getting some drinks.

If the vibe feels right, is there a respectful way to bring up the fact that we’re open to something like that without putting any pressure on her?

We want it to be completely consensual and easy for her to say no without the friendship getting awkward.

My wife and I have played out MFM scenarios with a dildo, mostly spit roasting (her on all fours backing onto her dildo whilst taking me in her mouth) which is super fucking hot. She gets into it, really pushing back and forth, and gripping my cock with her hand guiding it in and out of her mouth. To be honest, the first time we did i, I came like never before, shooting the biggest load all over her.

We haven’t don’t it for a while but we’re talking the other day and both opened up on what we like. I asked her what is one of the hottest sessions we have had together, and she said the first time we used the dildo on the mirror as she was blowing me.

My question to put out there is, has any couples found themselves with a similar experience, did it progress into a real MFM and how did you go about it?

Thanks guys!

So, I'm bi curious, had a few hookups with guys back when I was single and liked it.

I want to try it out again but with my wife this time. We tried going up on bumble a few months ago but chickened out.

I'm open to another guy and another girl but kind of worried it will change our dynamic forever.

How do I have this conversation with her?

So wife (51) and i (40) want to do this and have wanted to for quite a few years. We have been together 12years Its been on our bucket list a long time but the wife is worries it will be a drama and if we get into an argument or something I will use it against her in same way. Is there a way to convince her that that would not happen and that I am fully supportive of her and our choices

Thanks any advice would be apreciated

My gf has finally agreed to a MFF threesome! The other girl she has picked wants to wear a strap on. Is it gay if she fucks me with said strap on. She says she has different dildos that attach to it which are anywhere from 2 inches to 8.5 inches.

I'm just curious of what kind of things people say weither it be the couples looking for single people or single people looking for couples.

Genuine question . Let’s say you and your Partner have a relationship since 2+ years and you feel like you Both want to go a step more far to do it with a third Person . How can you start that conversation without breaking the relationship accidentally because your Intuition is maybe Not Right ? Like what if we both feel it and Nobody is brave enough to say it because they are too scared it will Ruin Everything . ( I might be posting this on many Channels because I’m curious ) .

We have our first MFM happening this weekend. The other guy’s cock is bigger than mine by 2” longer and about 1” thicker. ( my wife and I have both agreed on the size ) my question is, once things get warmed up and she’s wet and we are both hard, who should be the first to penetrate her? Should I go first to get her pussy wet and loosened up a little before going for the big stretch, or should the guy go in first and full stretch her out so he can feel how tight she is? I’m ok with either or, just not sure what she would enjoy more.

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I A 25-year-old straight male and my girlfriend, also 25, have been in a committed relationship for the past four years. We have always been open to experimenting and finding new ways to bring excitement and variety into our sex life.

We tried group sex with 2 women, 1 men and we both for the first time about a year ago, but the experience turned out to be quite bitter for her. The other women present became very involved with both of us, and we weren’t able to communicate our boundaries properly. She regretted the experience afterward.

I used to be quite conservative about sex, but over time my sexuality, preferences, and kinks have expanded considerably. I am straight, but I have become increasingly curious about exploring experiences involving both men and women, particularly in the context of threesomes and watching my girlfriend explore her sexuality.
She has a fantasy of being with multiple men at once, and this is something that can become incredibly intense when we talk about it in bed. Just bringing up the idea can completely change the atmosphere between us. We talk about her being desired by other men, being the centre of attention, and the idea of both of us experiencing that together. She seems to genuinely enjoy the fantasy, and her reactions can be incredibly hot and exciting.

There is something about hearing her talk about it, imagining her giving herself over to the experience, and knowing that she wants to explore that side of herself that really turns me on.
At the same time, there is a strange contrast between our fantasies and reality. When we’re caught up in the moment, she seems very excited by the idea and engages with the fantasy enthusiastically, but outside the bedroom she isn’t nearly as inclined to actually make it happen.

I fantasize about seeing her with other men and women, and especially about being there with her while she explores that side of her sexuality. The idea of watching her enjoy herself, knowing that she feels safe with me and that we are experiencing something together, is incredibly exciting to me. I don’t just want to fantasize about it forever and I sometimes feel a strong desire to actually explore that part of our sexuality together while keeping our emotional relationship secure and our connection with each other at the centre of it.

First, I feel like I may be holding back a part of my sexuality, and I wish we could explore much more together. I would love to experience her being intimate with another man while I am present and involved, and to discover what that experience would feel like for both of us.

Second, I’ve noticed that after sex I sometimes lose this fantasy interest almost instantaneously for a while. That makes me wonder whether I might experience the same thing after actually acting on one of these fantasies.
I’m afraid that something that feels incredibly exciting beforehand could leave me questioning or regretting it afterward.
We also have other relationship issues and problems, so I worry that if this experiment went badly, it could make those existing problems worse.

The thought of “What if I regret this?” is always somewhere in the back of my mind. At the same time, I can’t seem to stop fantasizing about these experiences, and a part of me genuinely wants to explore them.

I don’t really have anyone I can talk to openly about this, so any insight, perspective, or recommendations would be greatly appreciated.

Looking for advice as my wife and I want to get into some threesomes as shes bi and I'm straight, but I have a hard time thinking about what the other woman would say about my size. I'm 2 inches flaccid and 5 inches erect which I know 5-6 is the average, but I cant get rid of this feeling so should I even go through with one? I'd really like my wife and I to have an experience like this but my anxiety just tells me it wont go well...

(UPDATE: we had a big ol’ chat tonight about the situation and my contradicting feelings and it was so good. We’ve decided it would be best to set some boundaries and take it slow to see what we’re actually happy doing. He said he’d be doing it WITH me, not for the other person, so is happy telling them to scat if needs be 😂 he also agreed that he could get into MFM which was a nice surprise, so we may end up trying both if the opportunities arise! I feel like a weight off my chest having talked it through, I think in the right situation and headspace with the right person it could be super fun. Very aware I also need to keep working on my self-confidence and feeling sexy and freeee)

My partner (M29) and I (F29) have been together for 4 and a half years. When we were first hooking up we very nearly had a threesome with one of my female friends on a drunken night out but it didn’t happen. We’ve been monogamous but have always spoken fairly openly about the prospect of experimenting. I do find the thought of it pretty hot but there’s another side of me that feels jealousy towards him being attracted to other women. Therefore I don’t know whether it’s emotionally a good idea, I trust him totally but I don’t know whether I’m secure enough in myself.

Anyway, this weekend we were at a wedding. One of the bride’s friends is a beautiful girl and super flirtatious. Her and I actually had a little peck whilst dancing, my partner saw it and mentioned to me after that she’d been flirting with him and he asked me whether I’d be up for a little fun if she wants to. I said maybe but then afterwards felt super uneasy, I know we were all too drunk anyway and I ended up telling him that I wasn’t cool with it and didn’t feel good about her flirting with him.

Although a couple of days later, and with a sober mind, I’m worried we missed a really fun opportunity! She was a girl we don’t know and will most likely never see again, she was super good looking and seemed up for it. We live in a really small town so this opportunity will likely not arise any time soon and before I know it we’ll end up bloody married with kids 😂 should I be regretting that this didn’t happen?!

Also for context, I am straight and still don’t trust my emotional maturity for the reality of the situation hahaha.

my gf(19) and I(20) are going to meet a potential third this week. Since we aren’t old enough to drink at bars, where would you go to meet for the first time.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now, and early in our relationship we had talk about 3sums and if we for some reason whatsoever we were to have a 3sum. I remember her telling me that if she was to have a 3sum it would have to be with a girl and it would have to be one of her friends. and someone that we are both comfortable with.

So now recently she’s been telling about how much she wants to kiss and get with some of her friends, and having me think about her and some of her together naked.

Now I’m playing with the idea of asking my girlfriend if she wants to have a 3sum with anyone of her friends. I just don’t know how to bring it up

Cross post because it got removed in r/swingers.

So to get right to the point, I'm single (F35) and met 2 guys at a LS club a while ago. I played with one of them and continued meeting up with him in private. At some point he said his brother thinks I'm really hot too, and theyd love to have a threesome with me.

Until that point I didn't even know they were brothers, just assumed they were mates that knew each other through the lifestyle.

He explained they have done this many many times including sharing their girlfriends with each other.

What do you guys think about that? Would you go for it? And why/why not?

The guy I've hooked up with keeps messaging me from time to time and promoting what well established team players he and his brother are 😂

I'm 19F and want to have threesome sexting MFM

i don’t know how this will be received but please be kind!!! i’m fragile😭for context, i’m 19F and recently came across a couple on hinge (19 F/M) who were looking for someone to have a threesome with. i messaged them kind of just for fun not thinking they’d message back (im plus size and not crazy hot or curvy so i don’t get many matches) but they did and after talking for a bit and me asking questions we moved to snapchat. We’ve been messaging on there in a group chat for a few days now and im really thinking about meeting them at least casually first and if that goes well then probably to have sex.

i have never been in a relationship, never even held hands with someone romantically, so i really wasn’t expecting to feel so at ease and comfortable when talking to a couple who want to have sex with me. every other conversation i’ve had with someone i’ve met on hinge has felt so forced and awkward but with them it’s just so easy, it definitely helps that they’re just looking for a fwb situation and not a polyamorous relationship. they also compliment me constantly and make me feel so confident in myself without feeling like they just want to use me.

another benefit to this situation is that im autistic and new situations are very scary for me and it’s sex/intimacy is a big reason why ive avoided getting into a relationship, i feel like if i can do this with them it will help me out in future relationships.

am i being naive by thinking this is a good idea? my gut tells me it would be a good thing for me. also any advice before going into this situation?

FFM Advice

My Boyfriend (M24) and I (F23) have been wanting to have a threesome with another girl, no one in particular yet just an idea we both hinted at.

But I get very jealous so my main concern was that I wouldn't want him to touch another woman, and he also said he wouldn't want me to be with another man. So he suggested that he watch, while I had sex with another woman, in front of him. He said that'd be a huge turn on and he's always wanted to do something like that. I get off on being watched so I agreed, although I've never been with another woman before so I'm sort of nervous but the idea gets me excited. (I've always been attracted to women I just never got the chance to)

How would you suggest we go about this? We tried a polygamous app and it wasn't really what we were looking for (it was mainly couples like us looking or their 3rd, but no singles)

Also how would you recommend we continue after the fact is done, I'm a little worried about how my boyfriend and I's dynamic might change.

Please give this lost girl some advice