FFM fantasy, but no desire for a real threesome—how do other couples explore this together?
Hi everyone! My husband (28M) and I (27F) have been a lot more open about our sex life lately, and it’s honestly been really good for our relationship. I never thought I’d be interested in certain fantasies because I used to be completely against them. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized fantasies and reality are two very different things.
One fantasy we’ve both found exciting is the idea of a FFM threesome and for him, a MFM threesome. But mostly FFM on my part. To be clear, we have zero desire to actually involve another person in our marriage. We just think the idea of it is hot. We both know that doing something like that in real life can complicate things, and it’s simply not something we’d ever do. For us, it’s just a fantasy.
Because of that, we’ve talked about ways to enjoy the fantasy while keeping it strictly between the two of us, like using toys, possibly incorporating a doll, or just leaning into dirty talk and roleplay.
The other night we were having sex and really got into the dirty talk. I mentioned wanting him to take me to a hotel and fuck me on the balcony while watching the sunset. He responded that he wanted everyone there to see how good I take his dick, and hearing that surprised me in the best way because my husband has never been much of a talker during sex. He’s usually pretty quiet aside from moaning, but lately he’s been opening up more, and it’s been a huge turn-on. He also seems to be really into the idea of me being fucked by two dicks, like his and another’s. He loves seeing me ride my dildo while I suck on his dick.
Since then, I’ve realized there are moments where I want to lean into the fantasy a little more during dirty talk, but I catch myself because I’m worried I’ll go too far or say something he’ll think is weird. Looking back, though, I’m sure he’d probably enjoy it, especially considering the things he’s already said. I mentioned wanting to see him fuck another girls pussy and how I want both me and her sucking his cock while he cums on our tongues and we swap his cum. I can tell he loves it, but doesn’t say much verbally about it.
I’m still pretty new to exploring fantasies, and I’ve watched some FFM content out of curiosity and to understand why the fantasy is exciting. For me the biggest turn-on isn’t another woman being involved, even though it looks hot, I think it’s more the idea of my husband feeling desired and being the center of attention. I love pleasing my partner and making him happy. If I could clone myself so it was just multiple versions of me pleasing him, I honestly would.
For those of you who enjoy keeping fantasies as fantasies and explore them only with your partner, how do you incorporate them into dirty talk or roleplay? How do you make it feel immersive without crossing boundaries either of you aren’t comfortable with?