u/Agapas

wife and I are committed Christians - active in our local church. We have a great sex life, no shame/trauma and avoided the entire purity culture stuff. Didn't know she was into it but had to check something on her phone and came across a bunch of links, mostly lesbian stuff.

I've always believed/thought porn is entirely sinful and best to be avoided.

My apathetic self says to just let it go and say nothing. My self-righteous self wants to bring it up and let her know that I don't think it's walking in the spirit to watch and my selfish/sinful self wants to watch it with her.

Curious how you view porn within marriage?

Are you both Christians? Active in church? Satisfied with initimacy or frustrated? Does your spouse share your sex drive or is this a tension within your relationship?

Anyone else deal with a seemingly insatiable desire? Not complaining but my poor wife is like, "dude, I can't go another night this week." Early 40s. does this go away?

Anyone have a recommendation for a discreet and encrypted messaging app preferably password protected? pre-teen kiddo uses my wife's phone and I'm confident she reads all our texts. Wife isn't big on sexting/pics but she would be open if there's a reasonable chance it remains private.

the apostle Paul writes: "flee from sexual immorality." Not seeking to condemn or come across as self-righteous, but how do you reconcile the bible/faith with any sexual act, experience or expression outside of marriage between one man and one woman? Maybe to ask it a different way, how do you define sexual ethics as a committed Christian? Where do you draw the line between honoring God and dishonoring God?

Do you feel some of your sexual behavior is sinful or, if for example, you open your marriage bed to other partners or watch porn you're not really sinning - and thus, how do you reconcile that with your faith?

Just curious. thanks