As a Christian, years ago I thought I’d overcome my desires for porn. Little did I know how much I actually need it in my life as a single male. I spent years wishing it would somehow be removed from my life by resisting it. Yet, if anything it’s been something that’s made my life so much better paired with masturbation. There’s nothing to be fighting
Not sure if anyone can relate…
Late-20s married black working professional. Devout Christian. I am wondering of there’s other men on here who are willing to be mentor type to a younger brother if that makes sense. Desired a big bro who I can open and honest about my things going on. Especially someone who I can speak about struggles with porn and masturbation and will not judge me.
I know it’s supposed to help with hormonal urges and stuff but it’s never been harder to not do things I shouldn’t, or even just think them
I love having phone sex older married guys on here about taboo stuff
Feels crazy to talk abut this at my parish
Anyone else love watching your wife ride a dildo? We have gotten really into it recently and its so much fun watching her and participating.
I'm a very happily married man of 25 years. I have struggled and fought these sins since I was young. I don't even watch porn lustfully but more for the act of sex itself if that makes sense. I'll watch a particular style of sex or situation and never even think about wanting the woman involved. Does anyone else have this issue?
Hi guys,
I’m a Christian but I’ve done some things that I don’t know really align with the Bible? I am a 26F who has had a relationship in the past where we had a very s&M relationship that I found to be healing in some ways because of the trauma I’ve been through and it felt like taking control. The problem is that I prefer to be hurt because I think in a masochist. I actually enjoy sex a lot more when there’s pain involved. Idk what the Bible says about all that because I’ve never heard anything about it my whole life until I started exploring with someone in a state of hurt and I don’t know if that’s okay or not. Sex is a taboo subject in my family and I never even got the “birds and the bees”. Do you guys think I’ll be punished for actively seeking pain during sex?
Edit: this a past relationship and now I’m with this loving man that doesn’t want to hurt me and doesn’t find enjoyment in it but the problem is that that part that likes pain woke up in me and I have a hard time being turned on without it
So I’ve always enjoyed masturbation and pornography. I decided as most of you I’m sure once I got married that would change. For reasons we can’t figure out sex is painful, (vaginal sex). I struggle because I desire to have sex with my wife but because I don’t like seeing her hurt. I will more often just choose to masturbate instead of making her feel pressured. We have spoken about it, she does not like me masturbating. Rock and a hard place
Lately I have been struggling with wanting fall back into doing my some things I did before getting married. Before marriage, I had a wild side. I use to Dom couples. I want to again so bad.
Anyone else deal with a seemingly insatiable desire? Not complaining but my poor wife is like, "dude, I can't go another night this week." Early 40s. does this go away?
I (20f) am a college student at a prominent Christian university. I lived a pretty strict and sheltered life before I came to college. I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now and I actually lost my virginity to him. We’ve been having sex a lot and the more I have the more I want it. But I’ve also been slipping into masturbation almost every day. I’ll go to convo or Bible study and feel convicted and guilty but then I find myself right back where I was. Is this normal? Looking for advice please.
Ok, earlier this weekend while having our alone time my husband asks me if I’d thought about being with a woman. I reversed the question by asking if he had ever thought about being with a man? It surprised me when he said that he had once given another guy a handjob, I asked for details and once he was done telling me I felt very turned on. Is this something that other women would be ok with hearing from their husbands?
I’m usually sitting there in the pew next to my wife, and sometimes a woman will walk in wearing a sundress and my mind immediately starts wondering whether she’s got anything on underneath. Other times I catch myself trying to sneak a glance down someone’s blouse hoping for a quick nip slip. Am I the only one who has these thoughts pop into my head? Any ladies out there who purposely skip the underwear for church, or ever notice guys looking when they definitely shouldn’t?
Has anyone ever had someone like a pastor or a coach be that person who helps you be a better husband?
I would love to be able to answer questions that anyone has for a Pastor's wife who is sexually liberated. Any questions that I can't answer, I can bring to my husband, and he can help me. If you've got questions that you don't feel like you can ask other places, this is a safe place. Even if you're just curious about some aspect of sexuality, I would love to talk about it.
A part of me likes knowing that some people have a fetish for pastors and figures of leadership in religion generally. It's probably more common than I would've thought
Married over 35 years, wife is not real sexual and has some health issues that can make full sex painful for her. We still have some sex, but not often.
I used to masturbate 4 or 5 times a week, I would get a little horny and just take care it. What I learned was, it was mostly a pleasure habit. I decided to cut down, never more than twice a week, once a week better.
Also, if we have full sex, no masturbation for at least a week or more. I just do that out of respect for my wife and not make masturbation a habit. I try to use it only if I really need some sex relief.
I also found the "72 hour rule", men get horny after 72 hours is also a habit. It is hard to break. I try to not do it more than once a week, but twice a week sometimes is ok too.
Anyone else do anything like that?
I grew up in the Episcopal church and have always considered myself Christian, though lately I’ve been thinking more seriously about deepening my faith. That’s actually where my confusion starts. My husband has recently become much more devoted spiritually and has been really focused on becoming a better, more God-centered man and husband. The strange part is that seeing him like this is affecting me in a way I didn’t expect. Hearing him talk about scripture or speak passionately about faith gives me this intense fluttery feeling that feels more physical than spiritual, and I honestly don’t know what to make of it. It feels wrong that something meant to be holy is stirring those kinds of feelings in me. I can’t tell if this is normal, unhealthy, or something I should feel guilty about, but it’s been messing with my head a lot lately.
I’m a big believer in Jesus and I often struggle with the ethics of my kinks actually happening in real life.That said, damn…I’m craving being shared so badly right now Picture me on top of another guy while my husband takes me from behind. I already enjoy DP with toys, but feeling two real cocks at once would be absolute heaven.
We were selling our house, and our male realtor asked for pics of the master bath. My very sexy wife took some pics and sent them to me. I forwarded them to the realtor. He soon called me and said he needed new pics. My wife was completely nude, and forgot about the mirrors. I thought it was hot....she can't even look at the dude. He was my youth minister when I was a teen.
Tempting thoughts rise up in our minds. We can reject them, and we must reject them.
Step one: Determine to control your thoughts. Experts at discipline struggle and say: I need more notes to remind me to reject bad thoughts. I need to pray more so that God helps me more.
I need to say and think more often: “I will control my thoughts.” I need to pray more often:
“Father, help me to control my thoughts.”
Step two: Always “try” to reject tempting thoughts. Today (This was from 18 months ago) I will watch pro football. Many receivers were drafted in the first round. The Lions star Amon-Ra St. Brown was picked in the 4th round, but he has more catches than the 17 receivers picked before him. Why? He “Tries harder.” Not only this week but this month and “All year.”
Rejecting and replacing tempting thoughts is a skill that takes time to master. Consider praying:
“Father, help me to work on the skill of rejecting and replacing tempting thoughts every day.”
What two thoughts will you think about to replace tempting thoughts?
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Today, pray about whether you will make a lifestyle choice to consistently “Try” to reject and replace tempting thoughts. It is a key to quitting.