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I saw a TikTok video yesterday of a young Christian woman who posts videos talking about sex from a Christian and Biblical perspective, meant to help educate young Christians before and leading up to marriage.

In the video she discussed the topic of anal sex in a Christian marriage.

Her position was essentially that there is no Biblical prohibition on the act of anal sex taking place between a consenting married couple, despite how many Christians have tries to hijack certain scriptures to suggest that it is sinful - which I agree with and applaud her for being objective and honest about, despite it being clear that she does not like or advocate for anal sex in Christian marriages.

Additionally, while she stated that while she thinks it is possible for a couple to engage in it, in a positive way that enhances their intimacy - she also strongly insinuated that this isn’t the norm and that very often it is the husband pressuring his wife into something she doesn’t want to do or finds uncomfortable/painful, because of his fixation on depictions of anal in porn.

I found this second part to be somewhat unfair, and unnecessarily critical of men who find anal sex appealing. While I fully agree that there are a lot of men who developed their fantasies and desires from watching porn, which is unhealthy, I don’t think it is fair to lump all men together by generalizing that their desires must always mean they are formed by perverse or unhealthy sexual habits.

I am a (single) male that has been very turned on by the idea of having anal sex with a future wife, for as long as i can remember. I will admit to having viewed it in porn, but i developed this fascination with the idea of anal sex many years before i even viewed porn for the first time. Porn did not shape my desire for it.

I think the topic of anal sex among Christians is extremely difficult to discuss openly because of the strong feelings associated with it. Even among non-radically fundamentalist Christians who have more open minded views, the topic is so taboo that they usually default to saying “theres nothing in the Bible about it - but we still think its always bad and that nobody should do it, and if you do want to do it, its probably because you’re a slave to your sexual sins”. Nobody ever wants to be the one to say “it can be good, it’s ok to want it and to do it as long as it’s done right and with love”.

TL;DR

Even today, most modern Christian perspectives on anal sex still air on the side of “it’s never good, even if the Bible doesn’t prohibit it. And men should feel shame for wanting it.”

What are your thoughts on anal sex within a Christian marriage?

Do you agree that it is something that is most commonly requested by men who want it solely because their desire was formed by their porn habit?

I saw a TikTok video yesterday of a young Christian woman who posts videos talking about sex from a Christian and Biblical perspective, meant to help educate young Christians before and leading up to marriage.

In the video she discussed the topic of anal sex in a Christian marriage.

Her position was essentially that there is no Biblical prohibition on the act of anal sex taking place between a consenting married couple, despite how many Christians have tries to hijack certain scriptures to suggest that it is sinful - which I agree with and applaud her for being objective and honest about, despite it being clear that she does not like or advocate for anal sex in Christian marriages.

Additionally, while she stated that while she thinks it is possible for a couple to engage in it, in a positive way that enhances their intimacy - she also strongly insinuated that this isn’t the norm and that very often it is the husband pressuring his wife into something she doesn’t want to do or finds uncomfortable/painful, because of his fixation on depictions of anal in porn.

I found this second part to be somewhat unfair, and unnecessarily critical of men who find anal sex appealing. While I fully agree that there are a lot of men who developed their fantasies and desires from watching porn, which is unhealthy, I don’t think it is fair to lump all men together by generalizing that their desires must always mean they are formed by perverse or unhealthy sexual habits.

I am a (single) male that has been very turned on by the idea of having anal sex with a future wife, for as long as i can remember. I will admit to having viewed it in porn, but i developed this fascination with the idea of anal sex many years before i even viewed porn for the first time. Porn did not shape my desire for it.

I think the topic of anal sex among Christians is extremely difficult to discuss openly because of the strong feelings associated with it. Even among non-radically fundamentalist Christians who have more open minded views, the topic is so taboo that they usually default to saying “theres nothing in the Bible about it - but we still think its always bad and that nobody should do it, and if you do want to do it, its probably because you’re a slave to your sexual sins”. Nobody ever wants to be the one to say “it can be good, it’s ok to want it and to do it as long as it’s done right and with love”.

TL;DR

Even today, most modern Christian perspectives on anal sex still air on the side of “it’s never good, even if the Bible doesn’t prohibit it. And men should feel shame for wanting it.”

What are your thoughts on anal sex within a Christian marriage?

Do you agree that it is something that is most commonly requested by men who want it solely because their desire was formed by their porn habit?

I saw a TikTok video yesterday of a young Christian woman who posts videos talking about sex from a Christian and Biblical perspective, meant to help educate young Christians before and leading up to marriage.

In the video she discussed the topic of anal sex in a Christian marriage.

Her position was essentially that there is no Biblical prohibition on the act of anal sex taking place between a consenting married couple, despite how many Christians have tries to hijack certain scriptures to suggest that it is sinful - which I agree with and applaud her for being objective and honest about, despite it being clear that she does not like or advocate for anal sex in Christian marriages.

Additionally, while she stated that while she thinks it is possible for a couple to engage in it, in a positive way that enhances their intimacy - she also strongly insinuated that this isn’t the norm and that very often it is the husband pressuring his wife into something she doesn’t want to do or finds uncomfortable/painful, because of his fixation on depictions of anal in porn.

I found this second part to be somewhat unfair, and unnecessarily critical of men who find anal sex appealing. While I fully agree that there are a lot of men who developed their fantasies and desires from watching porn, which is unhealthy, I don’t think it is fair to lump all men together by generalizing that their desires must always mean they are formed by perverse or unhealthy sexual habits.

I am a (single) male that has been very turned on by the idea of having anal sex with a future wife, for as long as i can remember. I will admit to having viewed it in porn, but i developed this fascination with the idea of anal sex many years before i even viewed porn for the first time. Porn did not shape my desire for it.

I think the topic of anal sex among Christians is extremely difficult to discuss openly because of the strong feelings associated with it. Even among non-radically fundamentalist Christians who have more open minded views, the topic is so taboo that they usually default to saying “theres nothing in the Bible about it - but we still think its always bad and that nobody should do it, and if you do want to do it, its probably because you’re a slave to your sexual sins”. Nobody ever wants to be the one to say “it can be good, it’s ok to want it and to do it as long as it’s done right and with love”.

TL;DR

Even today, most modern Christian perspectives on anal sex still air on the side of “it’s never good, even if the Bible doesn’t prohibit it. And men should feel shame for wanting it.”

What are your thoughts on anal sex within a Christian marriage?

Do you agree that it is something that is most commonly requested by men who want it solely because their desire was formed by their porn habit?

For those that enjoy using long dildos - like, 10" or longer - what's the appeal from a pleasure perspective?

I realize that for toys of that length or longer you have to be fairly used to anal play and able to relax to the point where it can go past your 2nd sphincter, otherwise I'm guessing it'd be pretty uncomfortable.

Is there a difference in sensation when the toy breaches the 2nd sphincter?
Is there a spot in there that feels different than when using a shorter toy?

I tend to see couples that use long toys also prefer them to be incredibly girthy too - is it the combined girth and length that adds to the sensation? Is it a mental thing too, like being able to take the largest toy you can?

Curious to hear from experienced users!