r/christiansexnsfw

Some 15 years ago my wife and I were youth pastors at our church. We mostly were in charge of the older group of high-school teens as we ourselves were just in our 30s. There were always those few older girls in the group that you had heard stories of or knew were out having fun with the boys every chance they got. I was a manager of a restaurant at the time and one of my youth girls ended up dating one of my employees. Somehow through the course of time he ended up sharing pics with me bragging about how wild and amazing his girlfriend was. I got to see exactly how wild she was with him. Was definitely a side I never expected to see of her. Definitely explained why her energy had always gotten my attention on group trips.

Jut wondering if you have any experiences iike that. I've had feelings for 2 women at church but haven't had conversations with them about it or acted about it, and don't know if I should

I saw a TikTok video yesterday of a young Christian woman who posts videos talking about sex from a Christian and Biblical perspective, meant to help educate young Christians before and leading up to marriage.

In the video she discussed the topic of anal sex in a Christian marriage.

Her position was essentially that there is no Biblical prohibition on the act of anal sex taking place between a consenting married couple, despite how many Christians have tries to hijack certain scriptures to suggest that it is sinful - which I agree with and applaud her for being objective and honest about, despite it being clear that she does not like or advocate for anal sex in Christian marriages.

Additionally, while she stated that while she thinks it is possible for a couple to engage in it, in a positive way that enhances their intimacy - she also strongly insinuated that this isn’t the norm and that very often it is the husband pressuring his wife into something she doesn’t want to do or finds uncomfortable/painful, because of his fixation on depictions of anal in porn.

I found this second part to be somewhat unfair, and unnecessarily critical of men who find anal sex appealing. While I fully agree that there are a lot of men who developed their fantasies and desires from watching porn, which is unhealthy, I don’t think it is fair to lump all men together by generalizing that their desires must always mean they are formed by perverse or unhealthy sexual habits.

I am a (single) male that has been very turned on by the idea of having anal sex with a future wife, for as long as i can remember. I will admit to having viewed it in porn, but i developed this fascination with the idea of anal sex many years before i even viewed porn for the first time. Porn did not shape my desire for it.

I think the topic of anal sex among Christians is extremely difficult to discuss openly because of the strong feelings associated with it. Even among non-radically fundamentalist Christians who have more open minded views, the topic is so taboo that they usually default to saying “theres nothing in the Bible about it - but we still think its always bad and that nobody should do it, and if you do want to do it, its probably because you’re a slave to your sexual sins”. Nobody ever wants to be the one to say “it can be good, it’s ok to want it and to do it as long as it’s done right and with love”.

TL;DR

Even today, most modern Christian perspectives on anal sex still air on the side of “it’s never good, even if the Bible doesn’t prohibit it. And men should feel shame for wanting it.”

What are your thoughts on anal sex within a Christian marriage?

Do you agree that it is something that is most commonly requested by men who want it solely because their desire was formed by their porn habit?

Just curious if anyone else has had something like this happen? A few weeks ago Mrs. Wore a beautiful form fitting dress to church that really showed her curves. Sunday night we are playing around and I say "I bet every guy you walked by was wishing they could have that" that led to her asking what I think when a sexy lady walks past me at church and we end up playing a game. I pick 3 for her and she picks 3 for me of who we think the other would like to have sex with. And then see how close we were. We knew each other pretty well and both guessed who the other one would fuck. Talk about foreplay, all that fantasy and imagining we had great sex after!

Priest here. Just curious if there are any lurking. I'm open to discussion about anything that is related to Christianity

Hello, everyone. I'm a Catholic priest and I'm always open to respectful discussion about anything related to Christianity, theology and Catholicism. From what I've seen there are quite a few pastors here and a lot of evangelical folks but not many Catholics, so let me know. Hope you're having a good day.

Hey guys, curious for some conversation as to what is appropriate attire for women at church service?

Happy to discuss in comments or share privately some examples of outfits my girlfriend has wore that definitely have caught some eyes so we can discuss

I really need a Christian man who can talk with me daily and wants to have some fun. I’m 34f bbw seeking Christian discord users only. Would like to sext, I’m really horny. Interested in long term play partner. I’m single but don’t mind if you aren’t.

For the last few years, my wife does not want sex or any form of romance. She only desires to travel. We have talked about this. I have informed her that I still need that part of our relationship. She is just generally not interested. On rare occasions, I will perform orally on her and she seems to love it still, she still has orgasms when I do. As Christians, what can we do? I have no desire to cheat, but I still have needs.

Recently, I’ve been using Reddit to talk to men and sext. When I see a man with a cross tattoo or pendant, I go wild. I don’t know why that is. Is it bad? Does anyone have the same experience with this as a turn on?

We are a 30 year married couple, former youth pastors and deacons, raised in religion and purity culture. Too many details to list, but we are considering a soft swap experience.

Does anyone have personal experience with something like this who would be willing to provide us the good and bad of actually trying it out?