r/StraightPegging

Bought a strapless harness, and harness to try out. Finally was able to over the weekend.

10/10 she came so hard. At one point we stopped just to let her cum some more w that toy in her.

We struggled to keep it in place and her stamina to let her fuck me longer. But after she came a handful of times from that toy she needed a break and used it manually on me.

1st time I've came w her doing that, and it felt like 4 or 5 or 6 ropes shot out. Reality was much less mess, but it felt good as hell. Ended the night w a very enjoyable handy. I hope to do it again soon.

What a purchase!

I know.. sizing, communication, lube etc

I mean literally … how do I fuck him better lol. Is this something that you just get more skilled with in time? And by asking for honest feedback from your partner??

Hey i'm a 22 man, im not looking for anything or something like that i just really want advices on how you can go out and find someone, or any dating advice that it's been helpful for you, as someone who likes pegging and made things a lot easier for you, or any advice you think might help.

So i have some doubts about geting to know someone and finding out if they're into pegging, because how do you bring that out to them? In some posts l've read some advices on how to bring this up when you're already in a relationship. But im not. The thing is, i fear that if a get into a relationship and i find out that she's not into pegging too, i dont know if i could keep in that relationship because i really want to experience pegging but also i feel like it would be kind of wrong to end a relationship just for that reason, besides it would be awkward to bring it up if she's not into it.

So i feel like it would be better to know from the start but thats also hard because obviously also don't know how to bring it up and it'll be awkard (agin if they are not into it) if dating someone.

I also have to mention that im from Mexico because in what i've experienced its really really hard to find women who are also into that kind of kinks like femdom and pegging here and i feel its because of how dating works here, like the people arround here where there are a lot of expectations on "how a man should be". I've always been told that i'm a man that is "too femenine".

I've seen lately that there are women who like that kind of men and a lot of posts like saying they like femboys and all that but i actually have never met someone who's into that and in my experience i always have been more judged by beeing "too femenine" rather than beeing able to aproach and get to know someone, i have even been called gay or some other worse and mean words and that just by the way i am or my looks so you could guess i don't even want to imagine how someone that it's not into that would react if i tell them i'm into pegging and all this things. I been into anal play for some years already and i enjoy it very much, but its been always something that i keep for myself and i actually never brought this up in past relationships, or told to someone.

so it's something i would really like to experience an share it in a long-term relationship so if you could just share some advices on how you got to know someone that is also into pegging, some way that has worked for you in a similar situation, some personal tips or experiences just anything that you think might help. thanks and feel free to share anything about.

I personally can’t get over my own insecurities about pegging. My wife has done it twice now and has been nothing but supportive. But I feel like im just waiting for her to tell me that it’s too weird or something. I personally love it and the one that asked for it. I want it more but am also afraid to express that. I don’t want to scare her away, or her to think any differently of me. I’m aware the only solution is through her but that’s also terrifying. The idea and action are so pleasurable to me it’s hard to wrap my head around. Just a rant from a guy that enjoys pegging

How do I go about practicing for pegging and self play. Trying to get more into ass play. Usually use my fingers and small toys at massage parlors but never had toys of my own. How did I start it out.

Hi, I’m a bloke, I’m 29. It just so happened that from the very start of puberty, when I hadn’t even seen any erotic material yet, I used to fantasise about submission, although at the time I didn’t realise that was exactly what it was. Of course, I grew up, and my preferences became much clearer and I delved deeper into the subject; however, I’ve never found like-minded people, never found anyone I could talk to about this and gain experience (both sexual and relationship-wise).

On top of that, my physical appearance probably adds to the situation: I’m 160 tall, have a baby face and a generally gentle nature.

All my life, all I’ve done is try to fight against this part of myself, trying to force myself to want to dominate, to want to be ‘normal’ – primarily because I’m not sure I’ll be able to find relationships and gain experience if I leave things as they are.

It’s worth mentioning that I used to live in a country where patriarchal attitudes are very strong, as is the general level of ‘traditionalism’; I now live in Germany, but because of the language barrier and the fact that I’m an introvert, this hasn’t changed much for me.

Dear community, what do you think – is there any point at all in fighting against myself, trying to change who I am and at least trying to appear like a ‘normal’ bloke? I’d be grateful for any advice you can offer.

Apologies if this is covered somewhere already.

There’s a really good wiki on pegging gear stickied on this subreddit but lots of these are available in the USA only.

My wife and I have a basic beginner set of toys, mostly from Love Honey (their basic harness which my wife doesn’t find especially comfy and a selection of dildos all of which are pretty firm.

As a result we end up more than most just resorting to using anal beads or similar which sort of misses a bit of the fun.

Are there products available in the UK you’d recommend? Wife is pretty curvy which I appreciate may be important to suggestions

Thanks !

Edit: thanks all these are really helpful. Time to do some shopping :)

I've been to this Asian massage parlor 2 times there with the same older (50s) Chinese lady. She seems pretty cool. She doesn't seem to mind spreading my butt cheeks open while massaging me, so she's not super squeamish as far as I can tell.

How risky would it be to take a dildo or full harness and ask her to use it on me? I'm so nervous even considering it.

Anyone had experience with getting a massuess to peg or use toys on them? How did you approach it ? Anyone tried but failed?

EDIT : forgot to mention she gave me a hand job both times. I'd never try to do this at a "legit" massage parlor

My husband is a very manly guy, muscular and dominant. I really like when he grabs me by my hair, puts me on the bed and fucks me hard. We are used to pegging, once or twice a month, whenever he ask or I want to give him some vitamin D.
Last time was different, I wanted to feel the same way he does when he use me as a fucktoy.

He was drinking a beer in the living room, I came out of the bedroom: full lingerie on and the 7”strapon around my waist. ( I’m 5’7 fitness instructor redhead )

He was obsessed with me when he saw me, I grabbed him by his hair and drag him down to the bedroom. I said to him: not a word , just moan. And I slapped him.
I made him eat me out a little and I sat on his face with all the weight of my body. I deepthroated him and spit on his face like he does with me when I’m getting an orgasm.
I put his on all 4 and I started to pound him fast and deep, grabbing him by the hair, by the neck. When he was about to cum I told : you like to be fucked by mommy? He responded: yes and I slapped him.
I continued to fuck him after he came and I licked every drop of cum he dropped on the bed and in his cock. It was my reward.
He thanked me for that later, and told me that I could go further with the intensity.
Do you have any idea what I should try to do?

Sorry, bit of a long story but... (pun intended ;) )

So I (31M), asked my wife (31F) to peg me. We've been together for like 12 years, married for 4, and have a pretty good sex life. She's pretty Vanilla, but is open to different positions etc, and is open to the idea of using toys, (vibes, cock rings, dildos). But ive always had this deep dark secret of a fantasy I have, of her fucking me with a strapon. Ive carried this for years, like 10 years or more, I stopped masterbating analy, to try and suppress this kink of mine, but every few months it pops up and im in turmoil over wether to speak to her or not.

The other day I finally did it, I couldn't carry the weight of it anymore, and opened up to her. Unsurprisingly she was a bit taken back, considering we dont do any anal play at all, its a bit 0-100, fair enough.

She's bought it back up a few times and weve spoken about it. At first I was getting a hard no, but she bought it up again. And I just asked what she was worried about. And I think I got to what she was worried about in the end, and the stigma that anal play is just for gay guys, I cleared this up with her, saying im only into her, and its the act im interested in, not a different sexuality.

Her tone changed after this. Ive left the ball in her court, shes going to listen to Ruby's podcast, and ive told her to just think about it for as long as she wants, she doesnt even need to give me an answer, just one day she will be wearing the strapon I ordered, or she will never wear it. Ive said I wont bring it up first again, thats for her to do.

My question is. If one day, shes wearing it, what do I do 😂 i would want to make sure she has as positive experience as possible so she would try it again, so how do I make that possible. Im open to giving her fake dick a BJ, or being a sub if this awakens something in her, and everything inbetween.

Part of my fantasy with her isnt even just the anal, its pushing her up against a wall, going down on her, and having her fuck my mouth whilst im fingering her or something. Obviously I think this would probably be a bit extreme for her first time, considering shes on the fence 😂

Any tips to help her have fun on our first time (if it ever happens) would be much appreciated 👏

Hello! I'm still a virgin pegger. Lol.

Since I haven't done it yet, I don't know if my preference will be focusing on my partner only or wanting stimulation myself at the same time. Probably both, depending on the vibe.

I know there are grinding pads like Bumpher and dual ended dildos, but has any vagina owners ever used a vaginal plug while pegging?

I was looking at SquarePeg's G-Squeeze and wondered about using it for pegging.

Any thoughts or experiences?

First of all , I cried from the intense pleasure I had. My wife has a really stressful job and sometimes when she is angry at work , she text me some emojis to tell me what she needs to do to me. This time she texted me: 🍑🔨🔨😈💦🚑 I immediately knew that she was going to be rough. She came home , no talk , she jumped in the shower and put some very sexy lingerie. I was waiting her doggystyle on the bed. She came in the room with the strapon and a huge glass of wine, she brought me on my knees by my hair and made me suck her 8” dildo while drinking casually. I got slapped a few times. I went back to doggy position and here we go: she is going full speed to destroy my ass. I can hear her breathing heavy. It feels so good that I cum hands free and she continues as hard as she can. I hear myself moan and the slaps on my ass. I told her to do everything she wants with me, she told me I was her toy. I came few times more. She stopped and started to suck me off and licking my cum. The feeling of her mouth on my very sensitive cock made me shake and cried…

I am a thin athletic man. I don’t have much of an ass… get called little butt a lot from the wife. Would it be appealing to the pegger if I add some more weight do some lunges - you know build more back there? Wife hasn’t said anything but I get self conscious in precarious positions. 😳

Tomorrow is gonna be my first time getting pegged. I’ve have fingers and normal sized toys up before but never pegged. I usually always would do it when getting a massage and they slip small toys and feels great. Wanted to finally try pegging. Any suggestions for a first time ?

I finally pegged my boyfriend last weekend after we talked about it for months. I was really nervous but once I got the harness on and saw how turned on he was, I got into it fast. He came so hard without even touching himself and it made me feel powerful in a way I didn’t expect. Now I want to do it again but I’m not sure about good positions or how to make it more comfortable for both of us. Any tips from people who do this regularly?

A little over a week ago, I made a post about how my husband has no interest in trying prostate play. It's not that he's worried about his sexuality, or anything like that (he's openly bisexual), he just has a strong aversion to any kind of anal play. He won't even play with my ass.

Well, a couple of people suggested that we could try stimulating his prostate through the perineum. It wasn't the pegging that I wanted to ultimately do in the end, but I figured it was the best that I could hope for. I asked if that was something he would be comfortable with, and, surprisingly, he said yes. So I watched a bunch of videos, read a lot of material and... Well, you already read the title of this post, so you know how it ends. We tried a couple of times over the week, and husband didn't like it. He said that at best, it didn't do anything for him, and sometimes, I got too close to his ass for him to get comfortable. So we're officially shelving any kind of prostate play.

It's disappointing, but I think seeing how underwhelming it was for him has helped me move on from that desire that I just couldn't quite shake. I hope you lovely people have more luck than I did in exploring this.

Hey, me and my partner of 15 years had an open and honest discussion about what we'd like to try in the bedroom back at the start of the year. I admitted I was interested in anal play, and since then, we have explored that. We've used toys on me, fingers, tongue, and to be honest it's been way more pleasurable than I ever thought it would be.

My wife has to be really in the mood to do that kind of stuff to me, but I've bought a 6-inch-strapon ready for if we ever take the next step. She hasn't said no, and is open to the idea, so hopefully one day, it'll happen. I'm super excited and nervous, but feel like I need to try this!

Me and my bf are both 20 and met in college. When he told me he was a femboy, I was over the moon because it’s very difficult to find a femboy that is straight. Ive never pegged anyone before so I went to google for help. I went and bought lube and a dildo. I tried to loosen him up with fingers and it was working until we got to the dildo. He said that it hurts no matter how slowly I went and it’s even caused tearing. I asked him if he’s ever been pegged and he says no he only used his fingers. I don’t know if I’m doing something wrong and I’m really scared and nervous about hurting him because I really enjoy being dominant and being in control.

Me and my wife started pegging couple years ago. We are really having great sessions. It took me years to introduce this to her as she is pretty much vanilla as it comes to bed. She seems to enjoy it a lot now.

Lately I have in my mind how it would be hot to suck a strap on . I did brought up this conversation as a joke and she was like hell nooo , but I think if we ever try it should would be amazed by it. PS I am 1000% straight.

Second thing which I would like to try is definitely cum kissing and I would like to try it.

Now I need help and sneaky ways to ask for it this. Usually when I text her and joke about kinks at the end it works and we try it.

Also advice how can I be sneaky and do those 2 things while we are in bed having action, what would be best way to try those two things.

Thank you all for understanding and potential help, also I do not want just to straight up ask for it because it is a huge turn on to actually do it through jokes and being sneaky hehe