u/Disastrous-Dance-557

In a recent webinar Ruby Ryder mentioned possible benefits of pegging/ass play for veterans and others suffering from PTSD, due to stimuli to the vagus nerve. If I remember correctly it was especially linked to deep insertion.

I was wondering if the same benefits apply to people who still are in actively traumatizing and retraumatizing situations?

And I would also love to hear from anyone who has experience that support this, or even to the contrary.

Edit: corrected the name spelling.

I (47, bi, NB, demisexual) have been talking to a sub (30,bi, M) in difficult life circumstances and long distance, since mid march

I am demisexual and have grown attached to the person, and developed strong feelings. I have told him and he has thanked me for telling him, without discussing it further.

Other than that we have talked as we use to.

I hope that we can spend time together and play when he is geographically closer again, which is unclear. (I don’t want to go into specifics, but I know circumstances are outside his control and the information is vetted.)

But I keep butting my head into a problem. I realize that it is my nature to try and connect to the person, and make bids for connection. They are often dodged. And I always feel a little rejected for it. Now, to be clear, I think that those bids for connection fit well into the realm of friendship.

I wonder if our relational preferences make us incompatible. And if we both run into a consent conflict on the emotional-relational plane.

Has anyone been in a situation like this? Or has any insights?