r/gentlefemdom

My sweet little inexperienced sub (19M) is the sweetest little sissy. She’s so eager to learn, so eager to please, and gets all squirmy every time mommy calls her a good girl. She’s already learned that being a good girl for mommy means not touching her pretty clit without mommy’s say 🥰

She might still be learning what she likes, but she already wants to dress up in mommy’s panties. She looks so precious in her panties with her pretty clit all swollen. 🤭

What are other ways I can help my sissy connect with herself?

I have a new sub. He's actually my first "sub" in that we met with a D/s goal in mind upfront versus just falling into those roles due to my dominant nature and my exs' subby natures.

Anyway, he went to the city where I grew up on a trip and promised to send a photo of a special place to me. He did not do this and texted me yesterday when he got back all excited to see me this coming weekend. I am annoyed and disappointed that the small gesture he promised was seemingly forgotten, and since we're new, I don't have any history to see if this is a pattern or not.

It's killing my motivation to see him again, yet maybe there's something someone more experienced could suggest? It's not a cute or fun failure that I want to reward with a punishment he might like.

I haven't responded to him yet because I want to do it after having made a decision about the next step and not out of my current emotions which are primarily disappointment and a bit of anger/annoyance.

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I feel like I'm not fully pleasing my clients so I want to see what exactly a sub gets out of this dynamic. I do enjoy seeing men blush and I very much enjoy watching a man break down his defenses (as to what he thinks a man is "supposed" to be like) and letting me care for him or participate in findom for him. (tho I will say I feel like I need better things to say)

But ultimately I struggle to find the right positioning as I'm not "mommy"

Please let me know what you desire and seek from this so perhaps I can do better. I think I'm actually being too gentle?

My sweet pea is into feminization and this morning at my desk I’ve just been daydreaming and having so many intrusive thoughts 😵‍💫

I feel like a pretty rosy pink or peach would look so cute against his pale skin… wanna put fluffy kitty ears on him… maybe a frilly apron with nothing else underneath…

I am thinking of all the things I’d say to him… “Honestly… you’re a very sorry, pathetic excuse of a boy… you’re always wearing these baggy clothes trying to hide how petite you are, right? But look.. if I tie this ribbon in the back here, look how cute you look… your little waist was made to be shown off, not hidden. Look at you… look me in the face… you’re so blushy, you’re so pretty. My pretty kitty...”

HELP SOMEONE SAVE ME FROM MY THOUGHTS. I AM
UNWELL.

So recently I have had this fantasy:

it's like goddess and her little angle. Normally it's I only see goddess fantasy where the sub is like showering her with affection. But in this one it mainly comes from the goddess while the sub while is bit more bratty.

What do y'all think of this?

What are y'alls fantasys?

Especially when it comes to gentle femdom !

I’m so sure it’s bc of new relationship energy, bc I only met my sub for the first time on Sunday, but today was such a productive day for me !

I have been kinda in a funk lately, but I did so much laundry today ! I did dishes & just my outlook has been much brighter today & I think it’s just because we had such a great connection.

It’s been so nice to wake up to good morning texts for the last couple of days & have him be attentive and check in on me through out the day, and talk until it’s time for bed. We are so excited to see each other again on Saturday 💕

Because we are taking things slow, I don’t have anything exciting to share 🙈 just fluff ! 🤍

My brain is all confused & mush. I know eventually I need to get my head in the game & take control ! but maybe what I’m into are service subs who make me feel fluffy & adored & in return I can give him lots of praise and rewards for being the goodest boy.

It’s just kinda funny to me how before I actually found a sub I thought I was gonna be bratty & bossy but after being presented a sub I have just melted into an adoring love puddle 🫠💕

(Could be applicable to partners of any gender but I asked about boyfriends because I am a guy.)

I’m a queer man in my 20s who is strictly submissive. I’ve been with my girlfriend who’s the same age as me for a year and she is a switch. We talked about this when we first started dating and she’s always said it’s not a problem. However, I can’t get it out of my head that maybe she wishes I would be dominant.

We’ve had some conversations about this and she’s never explicitly asked me to be dominant, and when I’ve asked her if that’s something she wants me to be, she says no. But we’ve had recent conversations where she has said something like “Hey would you ever want to try [insert dom-coded thing]?” And I have to answer honestly and say “No, I’m really sorry, but I don’t think I would like to do that. Is that okay?” And she says it’s fine, that it’s not something she needs, just that she wanted to ask.

I just feel so guilty knowing that I do not want to be dominant but wondering if she might like if I were. I also feel bad for doubting that she’s telling me the truth when she says she doesn’t mind that I’m submissive. I don’t want her to be doing these things solely because she knows I like it.

I try to remind myself of all the times we’ve had sex and she’s dominated me enthusiastically and without me having to ask (but with consent of course), but the doubt still creeps in and I worry she’s unsatisfied. I try to pleasure her the best I can in a submissive role but what if it’s not enough? What if I am not enough? She’s VERY sexually experienced while I am not — she’s my first. And I’m her first queer partner. She’s queer herself but has only ever dated cis hetero men. And I know she’s been both dom and sub in the past.

I know I’m being really insecure :/ I just love her so much and want us both to be happy. And I want to believe her.

Anyways, my question for monogamous dommes who are switches: can you be satisfied with having a partner who’s only submissive, or is it unsatisfying for you?

Or subs who are partnered with switch dommes, does your partner ever express wishing they could be submissive?

Thanks for anything you’re willing to share <3