u/AkhiLuta

So my birthday is coming up and as kind of a tradition my husband and I are spending a night at a really nice hotel after spending the day doing regular activities I enjoy but don’t do often. Part of why we get the hotel even though we are not far from home is so we can have freaky kinky birthday sex and not worry about everyone in our home and whatnot. We do this type of arrangement for both our birthdays. (So his birthday is his day of actives and choice of kinky fun bedroom activities .)

The problem I’ve been having is holding myself back with requesting my wants and desires. Like last year it was mostly bondage with different types of teasing. And it’s because far too often in the passed if I brought up wanting to do something kinky I’m really into but he isn’t he goes on lengthy diatribes as to why he can’t coming up with some truly ridiculous excuses as well. Meanwhile he has fetishes far more extreme than mine and I’ve happily indulged him in them.

My husband is a Switch. Into bondage and sensory play. FemDom via pegging. Sensory deprivation. But his biggest kink is aquaphilia - sexual gratification from being submerged in water. Like it’s such a big kink of his at times I worry it runs his life lol And yes when we’ve had the opportunities to partake in this kink I have eagerly indulged him even if it doesn’t do as much for me as it does him.

Is there any way maybe I could somehow incorporate something he is already into and work watersports activity into it? I honestly don’t want much. It’d be blissful enough if he just pissed all over me (though obviously getting to drink it or having it fill one of my holes is the big dream).

Like come on can’t a lady at least get to be a happy lil piss-slut on her birthday? 😞

Hello!

I am posting here because frankly I am tired of the loneliness I feel. Yes I’m married. In June it will be 7 years. But between my husband’s work schedule (and his poor choices and unhealthy habits around it) and his priorities for how he spends his free time it really does feel like I have to feel grateful to get maybe 4 hours alone time with him a week! (We have 4 kids too though I am the main caretaker.)

Like the loneliness is so bad I actually realized I wasn’t even half this lonely when I was single! I miss just being able to talk to someone and they be real conversations. Ones that could go on for hours. I miss connecting.

And frankly I’m sex starved too. I went out of my way after our youngest was born to get the Nexplanon implant to prevent anymore pregnancies because he continued to drag his feet on getting snipped. And that was far from a walk in the park. The side effects alone I’ve had to regularly deal with are ridiculous. And you’d think now having the reassurance we could have regular sex again without worrying about another “surprise” he’d be eager to clap cheeks. But no. I got the implant out in last September. Since the we’ve maybe had sex a dozen times. Which is a bit of a problem as I have a very high libido and sex drive. His not wanting to have sex has nothing to do with me or how I look or anything. He’s just gotten incredibly lazy and selfish. It’s easier for him to jack off in the shower to get his fix whereas he would have to actually do things when having sex with me. And while I may have a high sex drive masturbation alone isn’t enough to satisfy and satiate me. I need the physical human interaction and connection.

Anyway, bit more about me-

I’m someone with many interests I partake in it’s almost crazy. Aside from the creative content creator I enjoy learning things throughout world history, science things, and an avid music enjoyer who isn’t limited to a few or less genres. I graduated from university as a film major and as such continue to be passionate about it. Animation is also something I love regardless of type (basically I can enjoy Pixar and Japanese anime but also the gems that pop up from places like Ireland and the Middle East).

Interests aside, I also just enjoy getting to know people and learning about them. I’ve been told so many times I’m a wonderful listener because I tend to be pretty compassionate and rarely if ever judgmental. So sharing life stories like wacky college experiences, fun vacations, moments that turned out to be life defining, etc. Again I really like to be able to actually fully connect. I believe in real connection not merely surface level fluff.

So if anything you just read appeals to you or you may even find relatable don’t hesitate to reach out and hit me up! ❤️🙏✨