r/OnlineAffairs

Married, EST, have a kid but don't care if you do or don't. I am tall, blonde, busty, and chubby. Below are some things that I'm looking for:

* 38+ in age PLEASE. 40s+ honestly preferable. I honestly just don't get on great with guys close in age with me, and definitely absolutely not younger than me
* same time zone. I've tried it. If we're not operating in the same time zone, it all becomes too annoying.
* banter/humor. If you can make me laugh in text, I'm a goner
* lover of television & film. If you've never watched Shrek, don't bother
* a beard. I love facial hair (don't care about the hair on your head though or if that even exists). Bonus points if you have body hair.
* be able to say you have never voted for Trump. And not voting at all doesn't count. I am annoyingly liberal. If that makes your dick limp, please do not waste our time
* physical attraction IS important to me. This is an online affair. It should be hot and flirty and exciting. As important as good conversation is, and it is very important, a pic exchange will make or break things for me and I think it should for you as well! So if you're looking for a fit girl with perfect hair and face, I'm not her, and that's okay!
* I am not in a dead bedroom situation. My marriage lacks things in other areas and my sex life is not exactly *satisfying* but if that's something that makes you uncomfy, we won't work.
* I have telegram and am happy to move things there if and when I feel like it will be worth it.

I had a very unexpected passionate OA last year and I'm still a little heartbroken over it ending, so my expectations may be a little high. But I am truly willing and open to chat with someone and hopefully feel those feelings again that I'm chasing.

So if you found any of my bratty attitude in this post appealing and you resonate with my list of desires, my DMs await you 🤘🏻

Hiiiii I’m married, 27 and a nurse and I got married young and had kids young. I haven’t had sex with my husband in close to year and I just feel like maybe I’m doing something wrong or maybe we’ve just lost the spark. I would really like to talk and chat maybe see if things escalate or maybe you just have some advice.

My friend told me about this subreddit so I don’t really know what to expect. Oh and also \*notabot hehe

DM me. Would love to chat❤️

Did you click on this because you thought I was going to admit to being crazy? Lol
I don’t think I’m that crazy. I was just thinking about this crazy story. I met a guy on here once and we were talking for like a month. He lived close and kept wanting to meet up with me. I explained to him that I’m looking to really know someone before I actually just meet up with someone, especially bc I’m looking for a long term thing.

Anyways things were getting spicy one night. Something very similar that had happened before. (I unfortunately have an excellent memory….) and he makes a comment about how this is so exciting this is happening like it’s the first time.
Anyways in the middle of the conversation he sends “ send me more pics of the cute clothes!” …. And then deleted the mistake message sent to me.
I called him out and said ouch and then he ghosted me.

Anyways I’m curious about others’ crazy stories on here. Like the time a guy was sending me “d!ck pics” that weren’t his… was he even a guy? Idk.

And if you really feel like you need to message me after you rest this post…. Please send your asl and height, and be in my time zone. You could also just look at the last post application I made and apply.

'm a 38-year-old married Indian woman living in Canada, looking to meet a married man who gets it. I'm only looking for something online. I like having my own life, and I respect yours too.

I'm plus-size, funny, smart, a little sarcastic, and probably working more than I should. When I'm not working, you'll usually find me with a book or getting lost down some random rabbit hole because something caught my attention.

I'm hoping to find someone I genuinely look forward to talking to. Someone who makes me smile when I see their name pop up, who enjoys flirting, can carry a conversation, and isn't afraid of a little emotional connection too. Chemistry matters, but so does feeling comfortable enough to be yourself.

The biggest thing I'm looking for is consistency. I can chat during the week, and I appreciate someone who wants to make time instead of playing guessing games. If you're the type who disappears for days without saying anything, we're probably not a great match.

Tell me who you are beyond the basics. What's something you're excited about lately? Or just tell me what made you click on my post. I'd much rather start with a real conversation than trade a bunch of "hey" messages.

37, 5'7, alt girly who never grew out of the phase. Pictures available on request.

By circumstance I'm stuck in a rural town with a boring partner who has kind of checked out. Bedroom all but dead. Pursue me... Spice my day up? DM, can move to kik or maybe text eventuality, open to in person if the connection is really there. Any other questions, feel free to ask. I won't give exact state or location out until I'm comfortable.

KY btw. Yes, i’ve posted this before. No, i will not elaborate. If i didn’t respond to you, there was one reason somewhere. Whether it was how you sent a message, where you were located, or age. I’m good for conversation but also know i’m not going to waste your time or my time.

On top of,

So i’m picky and forget i have a phone. if you’ve spoken with me recently or felt i ghosted you, my deepest condolences. i genuinely spend most of my time reading or on tiktok, sometimes i forget i have reddit. sometimes i say “im going to stop coming here”. then here i am running right back like a dog to a steak.

I realize i never make my intentions clear enough. so im going to try that now.

I am submissive by nature. i will yes sir the fuck out of someone. i’ve come to realize the things i want are almost unachievable. But i try anyway because i know it’s out there for me. So, someone out there will appreciate my yes sirs. I like a dominant man who isn’t afraid to be soft. don’t make it your entire personality, be funny. have a sense of humor.

Age range :30-42. i enjoy my older men.
Location: Within the same state as me at least. I would like to go offline at some point.
Body type: Not super picky but take care of yourself, that’s all i ask. health is important.

Me: *notabot and average mom body. dyed red hair cause i’m a faker. minimal tattoos but i have them. 8 of them and counting. big horror movie fan. dark romance fan. i’ll be asleep about 2.5 seconds after posting this cause i suck at everything except making you beautiful men blush and wonder how many times i was dropped as an infant.

Let’s talk about why the world sucks and how i’m poorly learning how to invest in stocks, okay? cool. meet you in the requests.

I'm married but like most of you, I'm left unsatisfied. Not only physically but emotionally, I often feel forgotten and overlooked. I've been on and off here for a while with some decent luck. After having made my first local connection, I focused on finding someone else local and that made me even more discouraged. My indiana searches have become lackluster and I think most men I interact with are more interested in logistics of when/where they can fuck me vs any deep emotional connection that I've been looking for. I found myself back to this sub because most of the connections I've made here have been genuine and that's what I crave. As a female, I could easily hook up with people but I truly need to feel connected with you to have any possibility of meeting IRL. Of course attraction matters big time and I like to think I'm pretty cute. If short brunettes with an athletic curvy body does it for you, I may be someone you could be into. I do have a specific type, no discrimination just a preference. Taller, athletic white men are my thing .. beards and a nice smile go a long way with me. Now, I understand many men "cast a wide net' and just respond to all F4M posts but let's not. Respectfully, I don't go fishing for sharks in pond... Let's not waste our time. Also, I'd prefer someone near my age and no Trumpers. Let's have a real conversation before asking for pics or worrying about logistics. Hit me with you ASL and let's hope for the best.

I’m married, have a real life boyfriend and a guy on the other side of the world whose scraps I beg for. When they’re all busy, I post on a sub like this and chat with a few men for a few days about a few topics before exchanging a few pictures and dropping a few excuses or just ghosting. All of that AND I end sentences with prepositions. Leave now.

Will I leave my husband? No. Will I leave my boyfriend? Maybe, but not for you. He lets me use him as a footstool while I watch my shows, you can’t do that via Telegram. Will I stop begging for scraps? I’d really fucking like to, but the dopamine hit is so good. Perhaps you can be the methadone of my dreams?

I’m in the Eastern time zone. Day and night availability, in spite of everything. I’m attractive though there have been debates about whether or not my hair is as described. Prefer 35-50, fit or scrawny, funny, smart enough to teach me something. No ‘dominants’ or men whose bedrooms are dead because your partner is two day postpartum.

If you comment on this post I will block you, don’t be that kind of weird.

*notabot

Looking for some light fun, nothing extreme, nothing deep, not a second relationship, just some hot.. steamy fun..

You and I are just strangers trying to escape their home life for a little in someone else’s presence.

Married kids blah blah

Looking for someone local.

If not, then we can stick to online until I travel to you, which I can make a possibility as long as in USA. Work extends.

I have dabbled in conversations but nothing ever sticks so for the most part I’m new. Fellow new affair members say hi? We’re in this together

Haven’t got much of a type , a nice guy, attractive older and respectful.

I want a sexual affair, not an emotional one.. so your looks are key! If you aren’t happy to send a picture that’s ok and I respect that. But please find someone else

Oh and clean.

Please please please consider me only if you want ONE partner and not multiple.

While I may seem super careless in the paragraph above - no. I actually don’t want to destroy my little life I’ve built .. I will say I do absolutely adore my husband but man the bedroom feels so repetitive and it’s to the point I’m begging for it.

I want someone to worship my body. I want someone so that I worship their body.

Make me feel hole again.

Or come and make my whole weak.. 😉

If you’re the guy that sees F4M and shoots your common copy paste generated paragraphs that you send to all us ladies .. miss me out! I won’t read super long ass essays and I won’t bother with the multi distributed messages.

I recently retired and moved to the Midwest. After a self imposed romantic dry spell, my senses are coming alive again. One of the benefits of retirement is all of the free time and a good imagination. I’m not ready to seriously date to fill the time but I am not up for bar hookups either. The relationships where I have not been the primary partner have worked the best for me. I love my independence and don’t want anyone to change me. I want to make another person’s life a little spicier. I am looking for men 50-70.

You know exactly what I mean, I miss that passion that animalistic urge to tear each other's clothes off. The fun of trying something new together, the flirting before hand, the build up, the excitement in the build up and enjoying every part of the process in-between. I want all of that back I miss it and it is getting to me that I haven't had that in so long. I would love to find someone to chat who is maybe in a similar situation or has experienced this too.

I've been here before, more times than I'd really like to admit. I've been happy, I've been hurt, I've loved, I've been burned, but somehow I keep coming back for more. Such is life.

I'm just your average anxious girl with too much love to give. I care about people way too much. I will be your biggest cheerleader and encourager. I'll be there for the good and the bad and the silly.

What am I hoping to find? My better half. If you are looking for someone to help get you off in the first day, hell even the first week, of chatting, I am definitely not the girl for you. Sex is not a top priority for me, I'm sorry. I prefer sensitive, introverted, kind of nerdy guys. I want someone that loves to yap about any and everything. I want to know all of you! Someone who isn't willing to really open up won't vibe with me. Chubby, bearded, and glasses guys to the front of the line. People who "love hiking" to the back of the line. I also hope you like sharing music, I communicate better through other people's song lyrics.

A little more about me. I'm a mom, so hopefully you are a parent too. I work. I watch a lot of dumb tv. I really like treats. I'm not a model by any means and I am not skinny by any means.

Reach out if you're interested, not really sure I sold myself well. Tell me what your favorite word is and why.

I have posted here before but most who replied tend to not be very serious. If you haven’t dealt with your conscience yet please don’t respond.

I am married and looking for submissive men, please be attached or open to complete submission. That would mean both sexually and emotionally. I will push your limits and hate hearing no. The dynamic of a man sneaking away to talk to me is part of the kink. I want someone who is choosing to push his boundaries. I want your attention. I want your time. I want you sneaking away to make sure I have it. Staying up late to perform for me. I like good boys who can’t help themselves. I like obsession. If you’re interested in submission or wanting to learn, I love to train.

Sexually I would like my sub to be open to anal play, pegging, cum restriction, performing on camera, eating your own cum, buying and using toys.

Please be fully committed to chat frequently and listen well. I am a natural domme and have experience in all aspects both online and in person.

If you would like for me to respond to your message. Please tell me your age, location,tell me what state your marriage is in and what you are looking for from our connection.

Yes I am dominant but don’t make me lead the conversation. How do we do this and what do you want are not attractive attention getters. Prove to me you’re worthy of my time.

🎶here i go again, on my own🎶

I’m 40, I’m married, I live near Edmonton, AB. My marriage is gone to hell and my husband recently moved out of our bedroom. Although he would do very eagerly - and do it well - I cannot bring myself to allow him access to my body.

So here I am. I’m not looking for any sort of deep, meaningful relationship TBH. Just someone I share a mutual attraction to who is equally as sexually voracious as I am. I mean, here I am, in the sexual prime of my life, with a man I can’t stand to touch. The horror of horrors.

A little about me:

I’m 5’5, I have very long, dark hair and blue eyes. I am mid-sized, with really nice tits that fill out a handful well. I don’t have tattoos or piercings. I’m confident, intelligent, ambitious, outgoing, kind, and…obviously morally grey.

I’m attracted to men close to my age (35-45ish), and I will typically choose a partner slightly younger than older since I’m immature as fuck. I prefer a partner who can keep up. I am attracted to men who are reasonably fit and are well groomed. I am not into the wild beards or super long hair - sorry, it’s just not my thing. PLEASE, for the LOVE of all that is holy, be on the west side of N America, or be available at the same times I am.

Some of my favorite things involve football, hockey, concerts, the great outdoors, conversations about life, love, the universe. I don’t tend to watch much in the way of tv or movies - just not my thing. I would rather listen to music or read a book.

I’m not looking to be your pocket girlfriend. TBH I’m not even sure I’m going to limit myself to just one connection here. I legitimately want someone I enjoy spending time with and whom I also want to fuck. Period. This person should be available in nights and/or during the day to have some fun. During the early mornings, I’d love to have a partner I can share an app link with to start the day, if you know what I mean.

I’m not gonna be that woman who’s all like “omg you’re not spending enough time”. If you’re around cool. If not, there are plenty of other guys happy to hit that pulse button.

Sooo if you made it this far and think you might be game, give me the real reason you’re here - not the copy/pasta bullshit you have saved in hopes of convincing a bitch to catch feelings. Bonus points if you can name the song i quoted at the beginning of this post.

I’m engaged, soon to be married, and happy in my relationship, with no desire to change that. I find that I just have a lot of leftover time, affection, attention, and genuine care to give, with nobody to give it to. I feel extremely fulfilled when I can find a good connection. Ideally a perfect situation for me is to find someone who is also looking for something more than surface level.

I have a lot of time to devote to someone, and while I’m realistic and would never expect 100% availability, I’d like us to be mutually invested in each other enough to want to talk often, and carve out opportunities to talk on the phone or video chat. I’m very emotionally available, and looking for something well-rounded with a person who is capable of being emotionally invested. I don’t want to feel like I’m forcing a connection, and would like to meet someone who will put in equal effort.

For as deep as my emotional needs are, my physical ones are a bit more shallow. Most people would describe me as attractive. I’m 5’3, pale complexion, curvy but hwp. I have bright orange dyed hair and brown eyes. I’m looking for someone else that would also be considered attractive. As good as an emotional connection can be, it will fall flat without mutual attraction.

I’d really like someone who has enough self control to keep sexual conversations at bay until we’ve gotten to know each other. I genuinely have no interest in any sexual conversations unless I like who you are as a person.

I’m tired of posting and wading through replies, but I know eventually I’ll meet someone who will make it feel worth it! And hopefully that’s you! Please use the word peanut in your message so I know you at least read my post lol nobody seems to read the posts!

Talk soon- love you byeeee!

I’m not big into super long posts so here’s the gist. In a long term relationship, and looking ahead to marriage. I’m not looking to change my situation nor am I open to meeting anyone IRL at this time. My main goal is to meet someone who can light a spark in me. Give me the extra push I need on a long day, someone to talk to about life, to flirt with…to escape the mundanity of it all!

Little about me, I’m 5’6 curvy girl. Blue eyes, freckles & medium length brown hair. I walk my dog every day & try to get some sun (I live in South FL). I love yoga although I haven’t done it in a while. I’m obsessed with thrillers & have been averaging at least 2 a week. I love a relaxing night with a lil weed & a good movie.

Overall, really craving a deeper connection then can later lead to something where we can both indulge sexually. Talk soon love!

I like reading and records. I don’t want something superficial. I like talking about feelings. In a committed relationship and not looking to blow up my life.

I live in a small town where everyone knows everything so I am looking for anonymity.

I like talking about music and movies and food.
Ask me what I’m playing, eating and reading.

Not into people who start with the dom stuff right away just because I’m goth.

Let’s start a conversation and see where it takes us.

Just your average cheating, married, mom next door here. I’m the kind of woman who still gets excited over good morning texts, laughs too hard at bad jokes, and believes chemistry starts with conversation. I’m sweet, affectionate, and love voice calls and voice notes—the sound of someone’s voice says more than a hundred messages ever could.

I’m blonde, active, hwp, and love spending time outdoors.

I’m looking for a genuine, long-term, exclusive connection with a dad next door. I miss having someone to flirt with, confide in, and look forward to every day. Someone kind, attentive, emotionally available, and ready for a little excitement that’s built on trust and consistency.

If you’re confident, caring, and can keep a conversation flowing, let’s skip the endless texting…

First one to hop on a voice call wins.

Let’s see where one conversation takes us.

I am passionate and will engage you deeply. I am sophisticated, articulate, educated and wildly successful. I’m also funny and can be warm and light hearted. I’m so fun and think every single component of life should be an adventure.

I have experience in all kinds of affairs so I know what I’m doing and won’t get cold feet or blow our covers. I’m tall and curvy (not petite). I take care of myself and have pride in my appearance. I’m really, really hot. ; )

I’m looking for someone witty and stable, not floundering through life. Someone who has autonomy in their marriage. Someone who brings out the best of me, who gives me a place of solace. In return, I will indulge you in ways you have only dreamed. I’m most attracted to former or current military/LE types. But, anyone who thinks they can tame a wild thing is welcome.

I am not looking for sexting. I’m not looking to rush to exchange pictures because I want you to be invested for my mind and not what I look like. But, happy to after a few days. Again, I want to feel invested in. That’s very, very important. That I don’t just feel like your entertainment.

I use telegram. I’m not going to respond to low effort so please try. Seriously. Tell me something that will draw me in.

It’s been a day. Not a bad one, just a full one.

I’m winding down with tea, like I do most evenings. I’ve never been a wine girl, so don’t ask me to pretend otherwise.

I’m here because it’s evening, I’m mellow, and I’d rather talk to one interesting man who’s had a day like this too. Full, not bad, just a lot.

I've realized I almost always click with men whose lives look nothing like mine. I spend enough time in creative spaces already. A lot of feeling, not much stoicism. I want to bother an executive for some reason, hear about a world I don't know.

That does not mean I want a play-by-play of your meetings, and I definitely do not need another conversation about color theory. I get enough of my own world. I just like the idea of stepping into someone else’s for a little while.

Speaking of little, I am. Which means at 4’11”, I reserve the right to antagonize taller men on principle.

I'm married. A mother. I take care of myself. If you tilted your espresso and added the softest splash of milk, you would land somewhere near my complexion. That means I’m Ebony / Black, beautifully dark-skinned, and yes, you’ll like it. I’m walking around somewhere on the East Coast with long, dark curly hair, dark eyes that almost look black and glasses. Look down, you can’t miss me.

I’m not sure how much later I’ll be around, but if we both get lost in this recovering evening, let’s talk in the morning.