My significant other admitted to cheating on me with hundreds over more than 10 years. Has been with both men and women. Has left in the middle of the night to meet strangers. Continues to lie. Looking for discretion and a good time. Life has been turned upside down. Looking for someone to make me feel good again. Ready to be wanted. Ready to be treated the way I need to be. Let's see where this goes.
I’m 21, married and a stay at home mom. I’m Asian and in GMT+8 timezone. I love watching movies, reading books, taking a walk and just curious about things. I’m feeling sad recently and I’m hoping there’s someone out there who I can relate and share my feelings with. I dont want to change my situation. I just want someone I can talk to and makes me excited to look at my phone again. I would prefer if you’re a few years older than me (5+ years), has a kids too and likes atleast one thing that I mentioned above. I also would love a bit of toxicity from you 😘 I also don’t want to quickly jump to sexual stuff. I’d like to talk first to see if there’s a connection. If there is, then I wouldn’t mind doing stuff with you. Thanks. Have a nice day :)
I’m 42, married, and honestly I’ve been feeling so damn lonely lately. My husband was in the military for many years, deployments, a lot of things he’s carried with him, and I’ve always tried to understand and support him. I love him, but I feel like I always get the version of him that has nothing left to give me.
We barely talk anymore. I get shut out, ignored, and pushed away emotionally. I’ve tried talking about it, I’ve tried encouraging him to get help, and sometimes he does for a little while before giving up again. Meanwhile I’m just here, still loving him, still supporting him, and slowly feeling like I’m disappearing inside my own marriage.
I’m not looking to bash my husband or pretend my marriage is perfect. It isn’t. I just miss feeling connected to someone. I miss having someone genuinely interested in me, my thoughts, my day, the little things. Someone I can laugh with and actually look forward to hearing from.
Maybe that’s why I’m here.
I think I’m just craving that feeling of being seen again.
And honestly, I’m a little scared of how much I miss it.
The basics first: 32 years old, from Alberta. I have dark hair and dark eyes with a pretty face, average body and 5'1".
I've been in a long term relationship that feels like it's also gone a long time without a spark, I've honestly stopped counting the years so I don't really know anymore. It went from a normal loving relationship to something that feels like a platonic roommate living situation.
I checked out emotionally a while ago and I think I just stopped fantasizing about what it would be like to have my needs met, and to be desired and have someone interested in me. But the other day, out of the blue, that familiar feeling of longing and slipping into a "wouldn't it be nice?" fantasy came back. And it just reminded me that despite keeping myself (my mind) occupied on other things, I'm actually lonely.
It would actually be really nice to have my emotional needs met and to feel a spark again ✨️ I know this place isn't the most ideal to meet people, but it's something. I'm not expecting my needs to be completely met, because that would be unrealistic. I'm also not seeking a sexting partner, I need to feel real chemistry before feeling any sort of sexual attraction.
Seeking someone:
-kind, considerate, and funny
-consistent in communication
-emotionally mature
-age range from 30-35
-child-free
-physical appearance is very important to me, I also prefer average to fit men.
Bonus if you're also in the same province 😊
Deep in an ancient forest, a butterfly danced through shafts of golden sunlight until she found a lone knight resting beneath a tree.
Curious, she settled upon his weathered hand.
He smiled, and something made her linger.
When he rose, she followed.
Soon, his hand became her favorite place to rest, and wherever his wandering carried him, there was always the quiet flutter of wings beside him.
*notabot
Just a (married) butterfly seeking her (married) knight. She waits for him, and him alone.
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If you see this, my knight, please message me. I'm still here, waiting for you, and no other. Always and only.
Im married. I’m a stay at home mom of two amazing little kids. However, I want the desire, the genuine interest, the pocket of fun just for me.
Physical attraction matters, it’s human nature and I am attracted to hot guys. And if we aren’t each other’s type - we’re adults and can say so.
Although the sexual aspect matters, it’s not solely what I’m looking for. I’m missing the mental and emotional connection in my marriage (which is potentially nearing its end).
I have a handful of hobbies and a list of more I’d like to add. I workout 5 days/week and I’m focused on my health and fitness goals.
Kind of a mixed bag of things to read, but we can get to know each other one on one.
I have posted here before but most who replied tend to not be very serious or are misunderstanding what I meant when I say I am a dominant woman.
I am married and looking for submissive men, please be attached or open to complete submission. That would mean both sexually and emotionally. I will push your limits and hate hearing no. The dynamic of a man sneaking away to talk to me is part of the kink. I want someone who is choosing to push his boundaries. I want your attention. I want your time. I want you sneaking away to make sure I have it. Staying up late to perform for me. I like good boys who can’t help themselves. I like obsession. If you’re interested in submission or wanting to learn, I love to train.
Sexually I would like my sub to be open to anal play, pegging, cum restriction, performing on camera, eating your own cum, buying and using toys.
Please be fully committed to chat frequently and listen well. I am a natural domme and have experience in all aspects both online and in person.
If you would like for me to respond to your message. Please tell me your age, location,tell me what state your marriage is in and what you are looking for from our connection.
Yes I am dominant but don’t make me lead the conversation. How do we do this and what do you want are not attractive attention getters. Prove to me you’re worthy of my time.
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31F Long-term online connection
Looking for a long-term online connection with someone I genuinely enjoy talking to. I like getting to know the little details of someone’s life, how their day went, what they’re working on, what made them laugh, etc.
I’m educated, warm, curious, and have a busy life and work, but I always make time for a good conversation. I’m open to meeting someone in their 30s through late 40s.
I’m looking for something emotional, consistent, and a little flirty not just sexual. Online only, but open to moving to another app if we click.
About me: JUST turned 40. Mom of 1. Happily married. I know, why am I here? To be honest, I haven’t quite figured that out. Am I an exhibitionist? Maybe a little. Do I crave the rush of dopamine you get with being sneaky? For sure. Is it a mid life crisis? Probably. Am I an attention whore? For sure, I’m a Leo.
I like to eat weed gummies and read. I’m 5’5”, 195 for now but on a journey with my body. I have huge boobs and a belly, very underwhelming butt. I play music (drums, well / guitar less well) I’m a swiftie cause I’m a millennial elder emo white woman.
I just really want someone to pine over who is also into me. It’s kinda that simple. I won’t get into specifics, but feel like I’m missing that in my life. I love crushes. I miss them. I crave them.
Take a look at my profile and if you find me attractive say hi. I’m typically into fit to skinny guys, not super macho, into weird movies and music and stuff. Intelligent with a sense of humor. Bonus points if your job has something to do with being of service to people.
Ok, I guess that’s all. Hope you’re out there.
But not just any man. I need one that’s going to match my spontaneity whilst knowing when to ground me.
Who knows when to be sweet and when to be strong; when to push back and when to back down. Who knows I’m always right and never to question anything I say or do.
Now, as this man clearly doesn’t exist, I’m happy to take the next best option. Please inquire within.
Oh, to keep the mods happy, I am indeed married and not looking to tear any of you away from your wives, not permanently anyway.
Attractive married gal, looking for a responsible married person who is genuinely interested in spending their littlest available spare time with me.
We would get along great if you're smart, educated, well read, well travelled, physically & mentally fit, well grounded decent human, who understands and appreciates the value of "time" and not take my attention for granted.
This should not be your first rodeo and you should be clear what you're willing to offer/ expect from an online affair partner like me.
Quality , not quantity.
Please don't flood my inbox if you're not willing to be patient and respectful.
There will be flirting and online intimacy once we've established friendship ( this might even take months to get there )
I am a woman in Tech, will get along well with a fellow nerd . No product managers please!
When you reach, intro with A/S/L and tell me what you're seeking in an OnlineAffair partner
P.S : If you want to constantly reinforce that "I am your good friend" , after every 3rd day, even after a connection is established, know that the foundation of our relationship is weak and we've hit a dead-end ! Be mature and own your feelings, and move on when not on same page !
**Notabot
We could both go on endlessly about the woes of our marriage and love life, but that sounds dreadful. If I wanted to complain, I'd pay someone who sits in a leather chair to hear me talk about how unappreciated I am. That is absolutely not what I am interested in right now.
I'm interested in you. Learning you, enjoying you, making you laugh and blush and bite your lip.
I'm 33, a father of two young children. I am conversational and can put words together. I despise lazy conversation and one word answers. I'm 6'1, I wear glasses and have a short beard. And I'm cutting this post off short because you are either interested at this point, or you are not. I'd love to find out if we connect.
God, I’m sick of getting screwed over and lied to/led on by men here. Guys, we’re all adults, can we not act like it?
I feel like my hopes and expectations are getting lower each time. The longing to meet someone honest and decent without a facade lingers on, and I’m really tired of being mistreated or misled.
I’m a mom who stays at home and has enough whimsy to dream about a life different than this one, but less and less patience to deal with men who gaslight or ghost. I’m typically a lot of fun and very sweet and witty…but I fear too many bad experiences may be sucking these out of me.
I don’t care much about your stats, so you don’t need to include them in your intro. For those with a body shape preference, I’m curvy/midsize.
**I’m not interested in a sexting partner or any other non-typical arrangement, so please don’t ask. Yes I’m married, no I’m *notabot.
This is probably the least “fluffy” post I’ve ever made. I don’t want any more fronts or facades. Please, bare minimum (as sad as that is), just be kind and decent and don’t gaslight or ghost.
Hi hi!
I feel like I get here, I read dozens of posts, I think a handful of them are clever or sound appealing, then I close the app and cuddle up with my dogs.
Is it too much to want to be woo’d here? Is that not the Reddit way? I want a man who makes such a good first impression, that I could be convinced to run away and start a new life with him. That is probably too much, but hopefully you get my point!
Looking for:
A connection with someone who actually has the time and energy to put into this. I don’t need constant communication but being mindful and consistent is important. I’m understanding when it comes to availability and real life responsibilities, but if you do what you can to make your Reddit mistress feel special, that’s all I can ask for. Like calling me on your way home or sending a picture of something that reminds you of me. Yadda yadda. All for the fun, spicy stuff when that comes naturally too.
About me:
Cute, confident, sweet little lady who has too many hobbies ranging from sewing like a meemaw to riding a motorcycle like a youngin. No kiddos, but fine if you have them. Not a chef but do love to bake. Would love to share my cookies with you 👀😉 I take care of myself but will never say no to a little sweet treat.
About you:
Between 25-40 years old, married, has to take care of oneself. Confident, optimistic, goofy and has a great sense of humor. Loving and attentive, sweet but firm and just wanting to create a little bubble of us. I just want you to feel comfortable and be you. 😊
This takes effort so I will be weeding out messages that seem insincere, too good to be true, horndogs and bad vibes. If you only get one shot to maybe fall for the girl of your Reddit dreams, you better make it worth it 😘 Talk soon.
I’m married and still very much in a committed relationship, but lately I’ve found myself feeling incredibly disconnected from the person I’m supposed to be closest to. There has been a huge lack of communication between us over time, and I think that silence has slowly created a wedge that neither of us really knows how to close.
The strange part is that I don’t necessarily know what I’m looking for right now. Sometimes I just want someone I can actually talk to without feeling like every conversation is going to turn into an argument, an awkward silence, or nothing at all. I can be the type of person who doesn’t know what to say or how to respond, so instead of communicating, I shut down and stay quiet, and I know that hasn’t helped anything.
I’m not pretending my marriage is perfect, and I’m not here looking to bash my spouse or make myself out to be completely innocent. I know I have my own part in how we got here. What I miss most is feeling genuinely wanted, interesting, heard, and connected to someone. I miss having conversations that don’t feel forced, laughing with someone, being able to talk about the random things that happen during the day, and having that feeling that someone actually wants to hear from me. Maybe that sounds simple, but when you’ve gone without it for long enough, you realize how much those little things can matter.
I’m curious what other married or committed people have experienced when they reached this kind of crossroads. Did you find someone outside your relationship who gave you something you were missing, and if so, what did that actually turn into for you? Did it make the loneliness easier, or did it make everything more complicated? I’m not looking for someone to tell me that cheating is automatically the answer or that I should immediately blow up my marriage.
I’d honestly rather hear from people who understand the complicated middle ground of being committed to someone while simultaneously feeling emotionally alone. If you’ve been in that place, what did you learn about yourself, and what do you wish you had understood before getting involved with someone else? *notabot
Just a lonely, neglected wife and mum here looking for someone to get to know, flirt, have fun and maybe game with. I'm not looking to ruin my kids' lives by splitting from their dad, but I also can't go on being ignored physically and emotionally by him.
Ok so firstly, I'm a very horny woman haha but I'm not just after sex; I want us to catch feelings for each other. If you just want sexting and dirty pics, or you want to keep things superficial, then we probably won't be a good match. I want everything 😂 tell me about your day, your favourite things, the things you absolutely hate with a passion, the best game you've ever played, what certain pieces of music remind you of or make you feel, things that annoy the shit out of you, your weirdest and most random thoughts and dreams.
Secondly, please do not send me one word/one line messages. Actually tell me about yourself haha.
About me: I'm around 5'2 and 55kg, have long-ish dark hair, dark grey eyes, pale skin (my mum says I need to cover my legs when it's sunny otherwise I could blind people 😂) and people say I'm cute. I've been called unhinged but in a good way, I am rather accident-prone, and am a massive catastrophiser who needs someone a bit bossy who can take charge and control that side of me haha. I'm also well educated and very left-leaning politically.
I absolutely love playing video games and am currently doing a replay of Cyberpunk, just started Kingdom Come: Deliverance (the first one), Coral Island, and a replay of BG3, all on the PS5. I do have a gaming laptop but my steam library is embarrassingly empty. I have played Overwatch a few times though which was pretty fun.
What I'm looking for: a fellow gamer really. I'd love to chat about games with you, give and receive recommendations, and potentially game with you or game while on a voice call. Physically I am attracted to cute, tall men in decent shape with hair that I can imagine grabbing on to 😋 ideally more on the dominant side as I love being bossed around a bit, but not like full on Dom as that seems quite scary and I'm actually a massive wimp hahaha. It would probably work best if you are also unhappy with your spouse/partner like I am.
Being a mum, my availability is patchy in the evenings and at the weekend, but I work from home so am around most days and then later at night for chats and games.
Anyway I've just realised that this post is getting ridiculously long so I'm just going to stop now. Actually one last thing, if you've read this far, let me know what game you're playing right now!
Hello there Reddit men! I’m looking for someone who has the time and energy for an online bestie that also would like to eventually meet up in person as well! Is that you? Phone a friend? lol it sure is hard to find Mr. Right!! Not into men who have a super cringe past comment history… I have seen some things on Reddit I could of never imagined 😱
A little about me!
I’m white, 5’6 , long brown hair, big brown eyes, personable and full of life! I’m thicc in all the right places and when the time is right I would love to share pics! Men first of course and keep the d pics to yourself !! D’s are not boobs not everyone wants to see yours !!!
Please have the time to give me and not just when you are bored at work!
Looking forward to hearing from you!! Xoxo
The spark has been lost like with a lot of marriages. I want to be desired as a woman. I want to feel needed and adored. Isn’t that the point of an affair? I want you to feel the same in return. I love deep talks, banter and being able to vent to each other. Daily chats because we want to message each other and learn more.
While I’m gentle and tender, I will definitely take any chance I can get to tease you! I love to laugh and hope you do as well. I strive to find someone I can build something emotional and physical with which means both of us putting in the proper effort into finding out if we have the right chemistry.
I lean towards the artsy, creative side of things and would like to find someone who can compliment my compassion. I enjoy talking about conspiracy theories in particular and questioning…well, everything. I am firm in my belief that dogs are better than most humans. I also don’t want anyone younger or anyone who claims to want a special connection but puts little to no effort into achieving it. You gotta fight for what you want.
Ok… I’ve been haunted enough. I’ve got a plethora of ghost in my walls to supply a Chain of Haunted houses for an entire YEAR.
Now that I got that out of the way… maybe… I’m looking for someone on the West Coast. Preferably funny. Smart. Curious. A little inappropriate. Able to flirt like you mean it. And, this part feels important, still alive and communicative after we realize we actually like each other. <—the most important part!!
I do not need all-day texting. Please have a life. I certainly do. If you work from home… I’m far too busy for you.
But I also don’t want to spend three weeks having great conversation, building chemistry, exchanging all the little pieces of ourselves and then suddenly… POOF!!
Sir.
Where did you go?
Because I am not chasing you through the fog yelling, “Casper? Is that you?”
Wendy wishes she was as cool as me!
I like men who can talk.
Who ask questions because they actually want the answer. Who can match energy without needing to be entertained every second.
Someone with enough emotional intelligence to say, “Hey, life is kicking my ass this week,” instead of dying mysteriously and resurrecting three Tuesdays later with “hey stranger.”
No.
You are the stranger now.
I’m married. I’m left unattended too much…
I’m a black woman all the way through.
I have 2 kids.
I workout because I don’t want to suffer later.
I mostly talk shit… I hope it turns you on. Lmao.
5’2”
Thick.
Top heavy with thighs that match. Pretty face and feet.
Tattooed. Stuck up to people I don’t know… (people talk to me more than I’d like.) preserving energy. Or whatever.
West Coast strongly preferred because time zones are already annoying enough.
And if you know deep in your spirit that your natural relationship cycle is pursue → obtain → panic → vanish…
Baby, I wish you healing.
But please haunt somebody else.
**if you’re a priest, I could use a little talk with god… an exorcism, of sorts.
Otherwise… happy hunting.
I’ve been told I’m unconventional, and I’ll happily take that as a compliment. I’m curious by nature, rarely sit still, and tend to gravitate toward people who have that same spark.
Mornings over late nights. Ocean over mountains. Summer over winter. Coffee over tea. Secondhand over new. Road trips over resorts. Analog over digital. Window seat over aisle. Depth over small talk. California girl at heart. Relaxed, curious, observant, and always interested in something new.
My life is already full. I have friends, hobbies, responsibilities, and plenty to occupy my time, so I’m not looking to fill a void or become someone’s therapist because they’re miserable at home. My marriage isn’t perfect, but I’m trying to make the most of it.
I’m a stay-at-home mom, so I have some flexibility for voice notes, pictures, calls, video chats, inside jokes, flirting, teasing, and chemistry. It sounds so easy, doesn’t it?
Ideally, you’re in a similar stage of life, emotionally intelligent, discreet, and take care of yourself. Confidence without arrogance. Curiosity without pretension. Conviction without stubbornness. Kindness without being boring. I want depth, understanding, and genuine interest in one another.
Attraction matters, too. I’m feminine, active, tall, HWP, with brownish hair just past my shoulders, brownish eyes, and probably more tattoos than you. I’m drawn to someone healthy, confident, comfortable in their own skin, and willing to dive in headfirst.
I’m not interested in collecting Reddit pen pals. I want something intentional, consistent, discreet, and reciprocal, with enough spontaneity that it never feels like another obligation.
I know I’m being specific. That’s intentional. If I’m going to make room for someone new, I’d rather it feel a little extraordinary than merely convenient.
Who’s out there?