Performance anxiety and premature ejaculation at 16, need advice
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Hey, I'm 16 and have been with my girlfriend for 6 months. We've attempted sex a few times now and I keep running into the same issues — I get hard during foreplay but the moment it gets serious (putting a condom on, actual penetration) my erection disappears completely.
On top of that, the times I have managed to have sex I finish extremely fast, usually under 30 seconds, sometimes as quick as 10 seconds.
Last night I couldn't get hard at all for about 30 minutes despite her being completely supportive and understanding. I've tried breathing techniques, focusing on her, not monitoring myself, edging practice during the week, reducing sensitivity beforehand — nothing seems to work in the moment.
I know it's performance anxiety because I get hard fine when there's no pressure. But knowing that hasn't helped me fix it.
Has anyone actually gotten through this? What actually worked for you? I'm 18 with no physical issues, just stuck in an anxiety loop that's getting worse with each experience rather than better.