How to be a better dom as a switch?
I'm nervous to post this but fuck it.
My basic question is, what can I do to a typically dominant man when he's letting me take control?
I'm a switch (F) who finds it easier to sub but honestly gets more enjoyment from domming. My man is a gentle dom who discovered he'd actually be down to switch with me, but even if he does he never really gets subby, he's just kinda holding back and biding his time (which he enjoys).
The fact that he's not a "true switch" or sub makes me more self-conscious cause I feel like his tolerance is higher. I'm used to a guy becoming putty almost immediately upon me making the first move lol. I'm desperate to discover what can make him seriously enjoy me being in charge, and hopefully get some moans out of him (maybe even whimpers if I'm really lucky!).
For reference, we have the dom/sub dynamic but we're actually pretty vanilla as far as our actions. Not into anything extreme like violence, but spicing it up with sensory play or something like that would be a welcome suggestion.
Obviously I know every person likes different things, just looking for pointers or moves to try. Ideally even in just making out scenarios, if that's possible. We do communicate our preferences often, I just wanna have ideas I can suggest to him/experiment with.
Finally, to make it abundantly clear, I have not and would never pressure him into a dynamic he's not comfortable with. He's the one who suggested it to me, and he does enjoy it, so I'm just looking to give him more enjoyment and see how far we can take it with this new style.
Edit cause the paragraph spacing was driving me crazy.