u/Alive-Captain-4900

I have been with my gf for 10 months now and just to let everyone know we cannot have sex she says it hurts too much and only my tip has ever gone in it just doesn’t fit. Anyway as you can imagine that means we do all the other things e.g oral way more often but the thing is she is terrified of cum she doesn’t want it on or near her and she once threw up from a single drop on her leg. She said she wouldn’t even suck my d with a condom on because it would feel “weird” in her mouth which to me sounded crazy because it’s just latex and did actually upset me abit inside because she wasn’t even willing to do that for her partners pleasure simply because it doesn’t benefit her but anyway. I have to finish handjobs by myself because she doesn’t want me finishing anywhere in range of her. After we do stuff which for us is just dry humping which btw has 0 pleasure for the man I do it purely just for her and I eat her out very good a lot which she asks me to do a lot and thoroughly enjoys it but after this I’m like ok now it’s my turn can I have a handjob at least but no she usually goes straight on her phone while I’m just wanking next to her which feels very embarrassing and sometimes she is already clothed again while this is happening. She has never ever started to give me a bj or handjob randomly without me doing something for her first and I also have a fetish which I won’t name but she is supportive of it through like words, she doesn’t care about it but physically she does not care for fulfilling my needs for it at all even after mentioning it 3 times to her now. I do everything for her and she does absolutely 0 effort for me unless she gets something in return among a couple other things aside from intimacy I’m seriously thinking about breaking up soon because of this as I have needs that I want to experience you know and I can’t get that here could anyone share there thoughts on this please. just a last comment too she is quite a horny person she comes onto me very heavily at times but as you can imagine only for me doing stuff to her and as soon as it’s over my needs aren’t considered just so people know this isn’t a thing of her having a low drive or something I would say hers is quite high but only for her personal pleasure not mine

Me M18 and F18 I have been with my girlfriend for around 10 months now and we do stuff quite often but one issue that there’s been is she is genuinely scared of cum for example she does not want it on or near her, I have to finish handjobs by myself because she doesn’t want it on her hand which takes away from the intimacy of finishing for your partner and she once actually threw up from a single drop on her leg( wasn’t a proper vomit but still was a little bit just from that) I’m scared this won’t get any better which is worrying for me because I’m the type of person who does want to do these things which I feel we miss out on because of this and wondering if anyone has any advice or personal experiences they could share