I want to put my partner into sub space without aggression or pain.

I want her to feel the sub space while I can still feel like I’m not hurting her.

I would like very much for her to have that feeling. And she’s described the feeling she craves in such detail. It’s sub space.

She wants to be used, thrown around, being made to submit. She doesn’t want to submit. She wants to be made to submit.

I am not sure exactly how to do that in a way that isn’t necessarily rough, but rather controlling, assertive, and moves us towards mutual pleasure and connection.

One thing that immediately starts to flip the switch is rough kissing and when I grope her or call her names. Not sure how to translate this.

For a little bit of background, I’m 24 trans (AMAB) and my fiancee is 22 F. We have been together for 3 years, and living together for the last year.

Due to medication, she was always very low libido. She’s not on that medication, and well, for lack of a better word, she’s becoming a perfect submissive slut.

The only issue is before her, I explored a lot of BDSM dynamics. I had a master and a mistress for a while who I served as a live in slave. And I was always submissive.

Unfortunately, we both seem to be submissive, and I keep having to override my submissive tendencies for her. Which is okay, because I like making her happy.

About Her. She loves:
\- Choking
\- Rough Kissing
\- Free Use
\- Being used
\- Spanking
\- Bondage
\- Rough Fucking
\- Her Ass being eaten, and most likely used

In general she just loves being treated like a slur.

About Me. I love:
\- Edging and Denial (She’s not into receiving but is into giving tentatively)
\- Bondage
\- Rough throatfucking and gagging
\- Being used like a slut or used for someone else’s pleasure. I go crazy when she gets demanding and will make me eat her out for 45+ minutes.
\- Breathplay
\- I’m open to most things.

But, I’ve been having a bit of a difficult time stepping into a more dominant and leading role. It’s also hard because I’ve never loved someone as much as her that I’ve been in a dynamic with. So I worry about hurting her, but she loves it. And loves when I leave marks on her or leave her sore.

I understand as a submissive, but I have a hard time taking on a leading role.

Does anyone have any suggestions for me?

Also open to ideas for things to do together. I did promise I’d make it up to her the lack of time we’ve had together the last couple weeks because of work. I want to surprise her with a really well planned out session and I want to absolutely use her. She is ovulating rn so she is a bit of a mess and I love it.

Sorry for how long this post went. But if anyone has any advice, I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks!

I just spent the last TWO HOURS on edge teasing myself to videos of throat fucking, sluts being used, and erotic audios and I’m a mess.

I’m throbbing, I’m leaking, I’m covered in lube. I’m going to take a shower and continue on denied and desperate.

I was feeling like I couldn’t take this any longer. I couldn’t possibly keep edging because I was going to explode.

Well, little did I know I’d been abusing myself for 2 hours. Oops.

I’m gonna go shower and do some chores now and continue this evening a completely edged out slut who will be throbbing nonstop.

Content Warning: This post discusses topics which may not be suitable for all people. Discusses gender and intense sexual content.

The longer I am denied, the more I edge, the more desperate I get. The stronger my fantasies and hidden desires become.

So, I’m AMAB but I’m trans. This has been a slow journey of realization but I am either gender fluid or MTF. I’m going to pursue HrT soon, but I still am decently cute. Unfortunately can’t hide that I look gay as many people call me out for it. I’m a bit autistic slut who loves some twisted things.

I’ve always been a bit of a slut. Before my partner I was exclusively with men. And I loved being used and abused.

One particular fantasy of mine is to start making porn. But not just the porn that you find everywhere.

The porn for that sick twisted urge that you can’t seem to find.

Someone being edged till they are actually crying and even to the point of passing out.

Being used forcefully with very little care for the slut being used and stretched out. My cries and screams are ignored.

I also have a particular fantasy of just forcing myself to do things to myself to make myself struggle. Like holding a dildo down my throat while I slowly tease and edge myself. Becoming a bigger and bigger mess. Gagging and even puking. But I still go and struggle and beg.

All for the attention of mean people who want to watch me suffer or make their fantasies come true.

I want to make the nasty porn that people get off to in secret. And I have special abilities that would make it so I could make a niche and probably make enough money to quit my job doing it.

So it’s always been a fantasy of mine. And it’s embarassing to admit, but it’s true.

Do any of you have any embarrassing thoughts, fantasies, or urges you wouldn’t readily share for fear of judgement?

(I most likely won’t do this till I’ve actually transitioned fully, if ever. But my partner does approve of it. And the only reason I’d charge money was if I was providing something special that can’t be found elsewhere and so I could do that full time instead of doing sales, which I like, but my dream would be getting to be paid to be a slut)

I just got home, and all I’ve been thinking about ALL DAY is getting to touch myself and edge.

I have things I need to do though. Normally when I do this, I’ll lose hours and only when deadlines creep will I snap out of it.

So it’s 7:19 PM rn. No matter if I’m ready or not, I’m starting my time at 7:25 PM and at 7:55 I’m not able to touch anymore.

Can someone here help keep me accountable and message me when it gets close to that time, and help me remember that I’m a human and have human responsibilities?

I just become such a mess and have trouble staying disciplined to myself 🫢

Isn’t it so fun to find someone’s post who makes you leak and throb?

Maybe they are on a denial journey? Maybe sharing something embarrassing? Or just showing how gooey their needy bits gets after hours of edging.

But then you go to their profile and you can’t see any posts or comments?

I miss when you could see everything on someone’s profile. It made Reddit more fun!

(If you read this far, have no touch for 5 minutes so that when you come back you are even more sensitive and needy! 😈)

Omfg. Okay, so I don’t know what happened today, but I can’t stop throbbing.

I woke up throbbing, and I relaxed and calmed down, but I’ve stayed throbbing for over 3 hours. It’s a gentle throbbing that just throbs softly but continuously.

It makes me think about things like choking on my dildo, or eating my partner’s pussy, or having her smother me with her sweaty feet.

I wish I could call off work, get high, and just edge all day long till my partner comes home. 🥺

Then she could use me, and tease me. She promised to make me cry with teasing and edging. And she’s definitely gonna make that happen. 😭

But, this IS exactly what I asked for I guess…

My fiancée and I have recently rekindled our sex life, and honestly… I’ve fallen hard back into orgasm denial and being an absolute needy mess. 😅

Which led me to a dangerous idea:

Why not let all of you wonderfully devious people help us come up with new tasks, games, punishments, teasing ideas, and spicy scenarios to try together?

So go ahead — share the ideas straight out of your fantasies. The meaner, more creative, more playful, or more evil the better. 😈

I’m 24, AMAB nonbinary. She’s 21, AFAB.

A little about us:

She loves:
- Choking
- Rough sex
- Bondage
- Free use dynamics
- Teasing and denying me
- Owning my orgasms

She’s not super into denial for herself and has difficulty cumming sometimes.

As for me? I absolutely love orgasm control/denial and I’m pretty open-minded overall.

The fun part is… she doesn’t know I’m making this post yet. My plan is to surprise her by slowly introducing some of the ideas you all come up with (within reason, obviously).

So let’s hear your best ideas, you lovely degenerates. You doms, subs, sluts, brats, cucks, switches, and everyone in between. 😏

Calling Dominant Partners For Advice.

Or submissive partners if you have ideas/fantasies too!

(She isn’t much into edging because it’s hard for her to cum is the only caveat)
*- She is willing to deny and edge me though 😵*‍💫

What would you do if you found out your partner who you thought was asexual, was only because of medication?

In fact they are your slut/whore who wants you to use them in basically a free use scenario. They want you to come up with a list of your fantasies so they can help them come true. They want you to take full control and make them feel helpless.

But this all happened within the span of maybe 2-3 months from asexual -> needy slut. (And this really happened/is happening.)

Because that’s basically the situation that I’m in. And she has basically given me carte blanche when I feel the mood is right.

I don’t even know how to truly take advantage of this situation. I feel like this would be some of all of yours fantasies.

For reference I’m AMAB Non-Binary/Trans still figuring myself out. I was always the gay bottom and was only with men before I met her. But I do have a decent sized member for the time being.

I want to make her dreams come true. And all of my ideas are as a submissive. I’m not naturally dominant.

What would you do?

Recently my partner and I were doing 🌳 together and were having a lot of fun.

We’d finally tried some things like a foot job, her riding my face, her teasing and edging me, me absolutely using her and even face fucking her, and loved it all!

During the conversation I told her I’d be willing to let her control my orgasms. It’s been 4 days now. I messed up yesterday and after a little touching ended up having a very gentle ruin with zero pleasure and a small leak. I was probably more desperate than I’ve ever been.

Now I’m getting back up to that level of desperation.

She tasked me with putting together a list of fantasies and things I want to do together/have her do to me/me do to her.

She doesn’t like being edged herself, but she does LOVE teasing and edging me, and much to my torment loves driving me wild by rubbing my most sensitive parts of my girl cock! 😵😵‍💫

So now I have the afternoon to tease and edge. I want to come up with at least 30 things we can do together. So I’ll be writing in my journal, and trying desperately not to make any more messes. Because if I do, she is going to do something to me, but she won’t tell me what. 🥴

So that’s how I’m starting this session!!!

I don’t share pics of either of us for privacy reasons.