My husband wants to explore being more submissive and existing for the pleasure of others. I want to be able to give him this, but I've not only always been submissive, but I'm also very codependent. How do I start learning how to be dominant? I'm feeling kind of lost. Bit of background - we've been married 14 years and he was my first. I was always pretty sexually inexperienced and repressed to the point of not even having fantasies. So I don't know how to answer sexual questions if I haven't experienced it yet.
For example, he asked me how submissive I want him to be and how I want to go about this and I didn't have an answer. He said we've been talking about it so I should have some idea of what scenarios might occur and what I'd do or want. But I honestly don't know. It's not that I don't want to try - I'm just lost on how to imagine being someone else and acting like someone else. I want to be that confident assertive person, but it's foreign to me right now.
Soooo... I guess my main questions are 1) how do I move from codependency to dominance? And 2) how do I learn to imagine and plan out scenes?