I can't do it anymore
Alright, this is the 5th time I'm retyping this...
So I (30M) have had a very high sex drive ever since my teens and lived it out freely - either by myself or with a partner. In relationships I was very active with my partners, I always enjoyed foreplay a lot (and still do), and the main act was also not only about me and my enjoyment but also that of my partner. The sex part alone I easily managed for half an hour with no problems, but could also get it done quicker if needed.
That all kinda changed when I got together with my wife. The beginning was great, lots of good sex, I made her orgasm regularly only with penetration and it was overall a great time. This was also the first relationship where I didn't feel the need to masturbate. It has been a few years and a lot of things have happened. I went to therapy, took a lot of meds - anti depressants and sedatives because my mental health really took a beating due to childhood trauma and all that fun stuff. During that time my sex drive went to zero, which is nothing unusual, but also my sexual stamina took a big hit. I couldn't even keep going for longer than minutes, if not even seconds. Still close to no masturbation during that time. It has been a bit more than a year since I stopped taking these meds and while my sex drive came back to some extent, it still isn't as high as it was before, and the stamina is still gone. I hate how I can't last anymore. Sometimes I'll even finish while I'm only doing foreplay with her without even any stimulation to me, just from pure arousal. Over the last year we also started to experiment with adding a third person and while that was something we all enjoyed, I was out in such a short amount of time and that killed all self-consciousness that was left. I just feel so bad about it and it stresses so much that I can't even enjoy the sex anymore. I honestly don't know what to do at this point. I'm so desperate that I even thought about maybe having to relearn the whole thing with another person to take the pressure off of me so I can get better again... And even if my wife and I are open to such things it still feels wrong.