Me and my partner are not anal only, in fact it's kind of the opposite - he's not really an ass man. But I've realised I'm becoming anal only when I masturbate.
I used to be mainly a clit play girl and used a dildo in my pussy often too. It wouldn't take me long to come like this. But now it feels wrong to fuck my pussy without him. That's his hole and I only do things to it that he tells me to. Only he gets to make me feel good there.
For a while I stopped using dildos completely and just played with my clit when I wanted to get off. But recently I've been focusing more on anal play, denying myself anything else as much as I can.
If I'm having some me time, I will start just by fingering my ass for a while, usually playing with my nipples too. I've got quite good at taking a finger or two in my ass comfortably without much warm up.
I have a few plugs so sometimes if I think I'm enjoying it a little too much, I'll work one in and then make myself wait to carry on. I will force myself to go do some chores or watch TV feeling the plug stretching me. If I really want to push myself I will wear my nipple clamps too.
Once I've played with my ass with fingers and plugs, my pussy is normally dripping. I often soak through any underwear I am wearing. It's like it's begging to be touched, but I don't touch it. That's not my hole to play with.
Instead I focus all my efforts on my ass. I work up to a few fingers or my larger plug, fucking myself with it slowly to make my rim pop around it. I also have a vibrating plug that is almost a beaded shape so that feels amazing to press in and out of my tight hole. Sometimes that's all it can take, and it normally doesn't take much clit stimulation to finish me off, especially if my nipples are feeling abused too.
But if not, I work myself up to my dildo. It is a tapered shape so the more I take the bigger the stretch. I'm still relatively new to this and don't get to do it often (my partner normally keeps me very satisfied, it's not often I have to take matters into my own hands) so I can't take the whole thing yet. I like to ride the dildo to make myself work for it. Sometimes I do it in front of a mirror so I can see how empty and dripping my pussy is.
I wish that I could come from just fucking myself in the ass, but, while it does feel good for me, it's nowhere near as sensitive as my pussy. That denial is a part of the appeal for me but it would be great to be able to finish just from riding my dildo.
For now, I try and get myself as close as I can from fucking my ass and playing with my nipples, and I try to ride that for as long as I can. It's like I'm edging myself but I'm not trying not to come, it just isn't quite enough for me. The frustration often makes me ride it quite hard. Only once my body is screaming at me to stop, do I let myself use my vibrator on my ignored clit. That normally sends me over the edge almost immediately and I try to fuck myself through the orgasm, which makes it super intense.
This works well for me, and makes me feel like I have earned it and not ruined myself for my partner. I am hoping that with more practice and discipline I might be able to ignore my clit entirely and only use my ass for my solo play. If anyone has any suggestions for how I can get there, I would love to hear them!