r/AnalOnlyLifestyle

So my girlfriend and I have been doing more anal lately. She used to enjoy anal before me but never had a boyfrient as obsessed with anal as me. She said she never had as much anal with someone as with me before, and she's been asking for anal every time we have sex now, so having anal sex is not a problem for her. The thing is that lately, she's been having some discomfort with having cum in her ass for so long and sometimes has some stomachaches because of it. She likes when I cum in her ass and asks for it while we are fucking, but after she kind of regrets it. She also doesn't like having cum dripping from her ass hours later and having to put toilet paper or a pad so it doesn't make a mess on her panties.

After we fuck she pushes the cum out as much as she can, but there's always a little more. Is there something she can do to feel less discomfort? Or something she can do to take more of the cum out so she doesn't have to have cum in there for so long? Does anyone also feel some kind of stomachache while having cum in their ass?

I also really like to cum inside her asshole as it feels better than pulling out finishing with my own hands. I'm willing to do it (pulling out) if she doesn't want me to cum inside anymore, but I'm trying to find some alternatives 😅. Specially because both of us like the intensity of anal and don't want to stop at one of the best moments. She didn't mind in the beginning, but now that we're having more anal that part has been bothering her (and I completely understand her).

I’ve asked (more like begged) my GF to go Anal Only. Where/How do we start properly?

For context, my GF/miss controls most/all of me. I’m entirely devoted to her and could not be happier. But whenever we play we play with my pussy too.

I’m locked into a chastity belt most of the time and plugged daily but we keep falling back into pussy play. She’s also holding my keys.

I love Anal beyond words and would like to become her little anal only slut. She likes that thought a lot too. We used to have a time where she ignored my pussy/ass (or me if you’d want to say it like that) entirely (we’ve been in a „situationship“ back then). She only demanded I’d be plugged which I happily obeyed (not crazy huge plugs, but beautiful ones for „a pretty view“). For her nothing should/will change. I’ll keep obedient to her in the way she wants me to.

But ever since we’re an official couple for some reason we keep falling back.

Help me/us out, I guess?

Hi :) I used to write Fanfiction a few years ago (I was already into AO) but sadly readers were not super into anal in general (this is pretty common for F/M stories) so I added several vaginal scenes too in my fics. Now I have put my mind into a real anal only story with original characters, and I was wondering what people would like to read the most.

The setting would be fantasy/sci-fi and I was thinking about a F/MM throuple. No BDSM in the classic sense, but BDSM elements now and then.

Any ideas? Especially from the other AO girls :)

Hey everyone. It's been about seven months since my one-year update, so we're just past the nineteen-month mark now.

The biggest update: she's fully anal-only now.

At the one-year mark I still said "mostly" because vaginal happened occasionally. That's over. We phased it out, I made the rule clear, and she adapted exactly the way I wanted. Her orgasms are anal now. Her training took. Her body responds to it faster, harder, and more reliably than anything else. I don't think of her as someone I'm trying to transition anymore. I think of her as transitioned.

Anal sex itself has become much easier on her too. Early on, even good sessions could leave her sore. Now, with enough lube and the daily plug routine, it's basically her normal sex. Not anatomically the same as vaginal, obviously, but in terms of how casually her body accepts it and how little recovery she needs afterward, anal has replaced what vaginal used to be.

She does still usually feel full and a little bloated afterward. Not in a bad way, more like her body's been worked and needs a minute to settle. I like plugging her right away when she's like that. It keeps the reminder in place. If she's actually sore or crampy, I leave it alone, but when it's just that post-anal fullness, plugging her afterward is one of those small rituals that makes the whole thing feel complete.

My sex drive is high. I want her at least once a day, and I still haven't gotten bored of it. That's part of what I like about fully anal-only: AO means always. There's no deciding which hole, no drifting back to vaginal because it's easier, no treating anal like a special occasion. If anal is the only hole I use, then her body, our supplies, and the house have to be set up for that reality.

I know I sound stricter about it now than I did in the earlier updates, but I can't deny how much credit she deserves. She's gone further than I expected, and the hottest part is that she's made this her own instead of just doing it for me. The stricter structure works because she responds to it and because she keeps choosing to go deeper into it.

One thing that's changed since last time: we're not quite the shut-ins I described in the one-year post. I said back then that being homebodies was what made this lifestyle possible, and I still think that's true for building it. But now that the training is settled, it holds up outside the house too, so I've been taking her out for meals and errands more often. Partly as a reward, partly because I like seeing how normal she can act while still plugged. More dinners out, more shopping, more little errands that turn into me buying her something because she handled herself the way I expected. It's not just bedroom rewards anymore. It's become a way of showing her that I notice the effort, while still reinforcing exactly what earns that treatment.

Recently I had her for a quickie before lunch, came in her ass, plugged her afterward, and then told her we were going out. No long scene, no big discussion. Just used, filled, plugged, and taken to lunch like that. She was quiet in the car, but not upset. More focused. At the restaurant she sat there dressed normally, ordering normally, knowing exactly what was being held inside her. That kind of normal public composure after being used is becoming one of my favorite parts of this.

The confidence shift is obvious now. The other day she put on a dress herself before we went out, with a g-string and a plug already in. She knows how important thongs and g-strings are to me, so that choice wasn't random. She didn't complain once.

A year ago she would've been self-conscious about that combination. Jeans felt safer because they gave compression and held everything in place. Even yoga pants used to make her nervous, which is funny because every girl in this city wears them, but at least they kept the plug pressed where it belonged. A dress with only a g-string under it was worse because there was no structure, no real support, nothing helping her hide it or hold it if the plug shifted. This time she chose it, checked herself in the mirror, and went. That told me a lot. She's not just enduring the headspace anymore. She's learning to live in it.

For those who asked about the two-week continuous wear goal from the last update: we did try it, a couple months after that post. She made it nine days. Her body wasn't the problem. The problem was that we were treating it like one long endurance stunt, the same mistake as our first 24/7 attempts. By day nine she was tired of it in a way that had nothing to do with arousal, so I called it. Not a failure, just information. That attempt is actually what shaped where we are now. Plug wear is still basically daily, and this time she's the one showing more interest in trying continuous wear again. The 24/7 idea is coming back, but with structure instead of ego.

The system we're building is simple: day plug, night plug, cleanup, switch, repeat. The night plug is smaller and more forgiving. During the day I'm moving her toward thicker-necked plugs because that's when I want her aware of it. Weight was the old lever, and the Snugs already did that work; the neck is the new one. Comfortable plugs become the baseline; thicker, more demanding plugs bring the arousal back when she starts ignoring them. The goal isn't just keeping something in her ass. The goal is controlling when she gets to forget she's plugged and when she's forced to remember.

The Snug Plugs used to be the baseline because they're reliable for long wear, but I've been slowly phasing them out as the default. Part of it is simple math: she reached the Snug 7 around the one-year mark, and there is no Snug 8. The line took her as far as it goes. So now the 7 is her day fallback when the Blunt or a thicker training plug is too much, and she sleeps with the 5. Think about that for a second: the plug that was a milestone at the six-month mark is now the one her body treats as easy enough to sleep on, weight and all.

I still trust the line, but I don't want her dependent on one comfortable brand forever. Work plug means she can function. Sleep plug means even sleep isn't a break. Training plug means she's not supposed to ignore it.

That's where the Blunt Plug comes in. We started her on the medium to learn the shape, and getting the large in was never the question. She takes bigger than that in weekend sessions. Holding it is the training. The large's neck is about as thick as the Snug 7 at its widest point, so the girth she used to pass in a second and rest behind, she now holds at the opening the whole time the plug is in.

The first day she managed about twenty minutes of that before it had to come out. Now she does most of a day. The Snugs trained the habit. The Blunt trains the neck: staying relaxed around something wide for the long haul, then still tightening back down afterward. It's not replacing the Snugs for sleep or recovery; it's what moves her beyond them during the day.

Funny side effect of the shape: her day plug now passes more girth going in than her old weekend ceiling did. And the line keeps going. The XL's neck is that old ceiling all over again, except held all day instead of passed once. No rush. But it lives in my head.

I've already taken her out with the Blunt a couple of times. At first she said the thicker neck made her feel like she needed to go more often, which makes sense given how differently it holds her open. What's interesting is that the panic of that feeling seems to be fading. She's starting to read it less as "I need the bathroom" and more as pressure, fullness, and arousal. That's exactly the kind of conditioning I wanted from the neck training.

The next experiment I keep coming back to is exercise while plugged. She walks plenty when we're out, but I mean real exercise: a short run, a proper workout, something that gets her breathing hard with the plug still in. The diet changes already made her slimmer and more toned, and she used to joke that going anal-only came with a free fitness plan. I'd like to make that literal. My guess is we'd start with the Snug 5. The girth is nothing to her anymore, but that's still 350 grams bouncing with every step, which is honestly part of the appeal. Constant motion could keep her aroused the entire time, or it could just be annoying and sweaty. Only one way to find out.

The big stretch pieces and the splitter are doing what they've always done: weekend sessions. Those were never wear toys. The one that actually changed lanes is the Egg Plug XL. At the one-year mark she was wearing it around the house all the time, but it doesn't work the neck the way the Blunt does, so it lost its wear slot and lives with the session toys now. That plug really stretched her back then. Now it's just a normal training day. The split is simple: plugs are for wear and neck training, the big toys are for size, and the splitter is still the width specialist.

And yes, the "even larger toys" we were eyeing in the last update: we went further up the Egg line. Skipped the 2XL completely, it would've been redundant at her level, and went straight to the 3XL and the one they literally call the Monster. Both are bigger around than the old champion of our collection, the piece she held for an hour as an achievement back around the one-year mark. That toy was her ceiling. Now it's the warm-up.

She's gotten the 3XL fully seated a couple of times now. The Monster she can take right up to the widest point, but her body won't close over it yet. Watching her work at that wall is honestly half the fun. I'll report back when she gets there.

Laser hair removal is basically finished now too. By the eighteen-month mark she was fully bare. Realistically, I'll still take her in for touch-ups as maintenance, but the main work is done. My only regret is that we didn't start the sessions on day one instead of half a year in. For this lifestyle, bare should be the default from the beginning. Cleanup is easier, the bidet works better, and visually there's nothing in the way. There's nothing better than bare holes, especially her asshole. With thongs, plugs, and the physical changes from training, being fully bare makes everything look more exposed and more deliberate.

Since I asked about it in the last post: the appointment worry turned out to be a non-issue. We took the advice to book morning sessions and keep her unplugged the night before so things had time to settle. And honestly, the tech spends a few minutes down there and has seen everything. Nobody ever said a word. If your girl is nervous about it, the unplugged-night-before routine is enough.

Enemas are new since the last update. We hadn't really made them part of the routine before, but she brought them up herself. That mattered to me. It was her recognizing what being fully anal-only actually means and wanting to be prepared for it. That's the kind of initiative I never have to ask for anymore. Now light prep is part of certain days, especially if I've told her ahead of time that she's going to be used harder or plugged longer.

The visual changes are still there. Her ass still looks changed. The opening stays slightly open when she's relaxed, and the skin around it looks smoother, more stretched, less tight and wrinkled than it used to. The whole area looks more relaxed and used. That's part of the appeal for me. I know some people hear "gape" and think fiction or porn exaggeration, but I'm not talking about her being helpless or leaking everywhere. I'm talking about the visible result of constant anal use, plug wear, and large toys. It looks trained. It looks used. It looks like her ass has become what we made it.

Functionally, she's still managing herself. No real fecal leakage, no public accidents, nothing like that. The psyllium and diet still help keep things predictable. Occasionally after long plug wear there can be a little mucus, and gas control isn't quite what it used to be, especially after larger or thicker-necked plugs. Privately, I find that hot. I know not everyone will get that, but for me it's another reminder of how trained her ass is now and how much the lifestyle has changed her body.

One piece of advice from the last update that we took seriously was about control. In the one-year post I wrote that her sphincter tone probably wasn't coming back and that she was at peace with that. A few people pushed back on that framing, and they were right: trained doesn't have to mean uncontrolled. An anal-heavy life doesn't mean letting her lose the ability to close properly. The goal isn't leakage or real damage. The goal is range: open when I want her open, controlled when she needs to be controlled. She researched pelvic floor and sphincter-control exercises herself and has been doing them for that reason. Not to undo the training, but to keep her body responsive and functional.

The practical stuff still matters. The bidet remains one of the best decisions. Good lube, towels, wipes, spare underwear, enemas when the day calls for it, and keeping supplies where they're actually used makes the whole lifestyle easier. If you want anal-only to be real and not just fantasy talk, you have to manage the logistics.

We're also considering labia piercings as a way to reinforce the anal-only identity. Nothing rushed, but the idea has been coming up more often. I read a comment from someone who had oversized, slightly offset labia rings that could be pinned closed temporarily, basically making vaginal access unavailable for a scene or a date night. Not long-term, because bathroom logistics make that unrealistic, but symbolically it hit exactly the right nerve for me.

Her main concern is thong wear. Since thongs and g-strings are still the default, she's worried about healing, rubbing, snagging, and whether jewelry would make daily wear annoying or impractical. That's the part we need more real-world information on before doing anything.

Emotionally, I feel more settled than I did at the one-year point. I used to have guilt mixed in with the arousal because her body and sexuality had changed so much. I still feel responsible for the changes, but I don't sit in guilt the same way anymore. We've talked about it a lot. She's been direct that she doesn't want me treating her like I damaged her. She wants me dominant, not apologetic, and that's what she gets.

So that's where we are: fully anal-only, sex at least daily, laser mostly finished except maintenance touch-ups, enemas now part of preparation, plug training moving back toward 24/7 structure, Blunt neck training underway, the bigger toys in progress, and labia piercings under discussion as the next symbolic step.

For those of you further along with real 24/7 wear: how did you structure the plug rotation once the comfortable plugs became routine? Did you move to thicker-necked or otherwise more demanding plugs during the day to bring the arousal back, or save stretching for separate sessions? And if anyone has taken their girl up the Blunt line past the large, or found other plugs with a serious neck that work for all-day training, I want to hear how far that track realistically goes.

Related: has anyone actually had their girl exercise while plugged? Running, lifting, yoga, anything with real movement. What size worked, did it stay put, and did it add to the conditioning or just get in the way?

She's also agreed that if people have questions for her directly, especially about daily plugging, gas control, the Blunt, public outings, or what fully anal-only feels like from her side, I can show them to her and she may answer some.

Also curious if anyone has used labia piercings, temporary locking, permanent jewelry, tattoos, or other physical markers to reinforce an anal-only dynamic. If she wears thongs daily, did piercings cause friction or comfort issues after healing?

The wife and I both love anal sex. Feels amazing for the both of us and she can orgasm a few times with a vibrator.

Leading up to any sort of sexual activity we do lots of kissing and touching. Of course oral sex! I always massage her butthole with my fingers and tongue before a deep rim Job.

Last night I did a good long ass worship of smoothing my face in her big cheeks and let the tongue works it magic. However when we were having anal sex I really just wanted to go back and lick her ass!!

I can’t stop thinking about it and am fantasizing about licking her ass more than fucking it?

Am I crazy? Anyone else feel this way??!!

Hi. Wondering if someone has experience in increasing the amount of Painal and what has worked for you.

We have been at this for a few years and she can take me without any prep and no lube. Need some help to make it more intense.

I'm just curious if there is much of a contingent of anal only lifestylers who can't be bothered with constant diet watching and careful cleaning regimes required for reliably clean regular anal... People who just get on with life normally and think 'fuck it' literally, regardless of the potential consequences during/ after.

The thing I like the most about anal sex is that the pussy stays empty and you can actually engage with it in a broader way compared to vaginal sex. I know that many people are turned off by this, but I love when my partner spread my labia and looks at my pussy while fucking my ass (I get really horny and the pussy is engorged and leaks everywhere), without actual stimulation. Don't get me wrong, I love clitoral stimulation during anal but if he simply lifts the hood to expose the clit tip I literally become crazy. So, no actual pussy play where it matters the most, but spreading, pinching, teasing and sometimes hurting makes me violently horny (all of this with a cock up my ass of course).

Is there a name for this kink? Is it even a kink? Do you like it? I know that many treat the pussy as decoration and lube dispenser and I'm all for it!

Hey everyone,I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and I’ve pretty much decided I want to live an AO lifestyle.

The idea turns me on so much, but I’m nervous about how to bring it up with a guy.

Any tips for making the conversation smooth and sexy instead of awkward?

I’m really excited to make this change but I want to do it the right way. Would love to hear real experiences from both girls who made the switch and the guys who love their Anal Only girls. 💕Thanks!!

Really turn me on. But my ex/Fwb he isn't into it at all. He likes anal but not interested in the hole itself. Basically I wish he enjoyed staring at it. Or even being obsessed with it.

Girlfriend and I find anal super hot and fun, but the main roadblock we encounter is that she experiences pain both during and after anal, especially after. During anal, she best describes the pain as cutting/stretching when I pull out too much. Afterword, however, she says that this pain gets MUCH worse, with her describing it as a cutting/burning pain that she ranks 8-9/10.

How should we go about prepping and getting ready for anal so that she feels no pain both during and after? How can we move forward to where there is less prep needed to remove the pain completely? Is it possible? Toys aren’t really an option due to her home situation.

Additionally, is it possible to get to a point where prep is not needed, as we are into free use and another roadblock is that it’s very hard to fit anything inside her without her wincing in pain.

I (32, f) have always been into anal stimulation, it just came natural to me since I was still a preteen. I started with random objects and fingers and It felt addictive. I also developed a voluptuous body early on and my ass got a lot of attention, making it to me even more of a sexual object. At 15 I had my first time and the guy asked me if I also wanted to try anal, I obviously said yes and I was hooked! I have enjoyed anal in all my relationship with men and occasionally with girls. Almost Everytime I masturbate I will put something in my ass. Recently I have been enjoying big objects, plugs and dildos much more than penis. And I almost completely ignore my pussy. I have been obsessed with wanting to be fisted and the idea of anal submission and pussy denial is starting to sound great. Is this a "common" experience for other women too? Do I have a fetish?

My partner and I have started playing with my anus; so far we have achieved gentle anal penetration without movement, but that's another story.

Now that we've been experimenting, I've wanted to explore his anus, but he's very stubborn and doesn't want me to even touch or put a finger in it.

I've tried to convince him that his ideal spot is there and that he'll like it, but he's reluctant; we're in Latin America, And here there is a more macho culture, so he feels that his manhood may be damaged or feels that it is something gay to do that.

That's why the question is specifically directed at 100% heterosexual men who have an opinion on this: Is what he says true? Do you guys play around with your partners?

BONUS QUESTION: I bought coconut oil, and it works, but inside I feel like it doesn't lubricate; I have to insert it cold and semi-hard or when it's completely liquid.

I’ve been having anal fun for years now, but ive never ejaculated from anal before… i always have “peegasms” and i leak a lot of pee when i cum from anal…

Can someone help explain or teach me how to cum (ejaculate) anally? Is it possible for everyone?

How big was the biggest (girthiest) toy you've tried in you ass?
What's your preferred size (what feels best)?

I saw a post about whether it's better to pull it out or not. One of the arguments was that if pull out, it's a lot of easier easier to clean the hole up because you don't need to go to the bathroom and sit there as cum enema dribbles out.

I am quite the opposite. I love cum deep inside my asshole. I love it when he pushes it in as deep as he can at the end and pumps it all inside me. After he pulls out, I usually don't try to get the cum out, I just leave it there and go about my business as usual.

Sometimes I even use a butt-plug to keep it from leaking out. Something about that feeling turns me on so much. And I am not even mentioning when it's from multiple guys at once. Does anyone else feel this way?

I’m (39f) definitely a novice, not a total beginner; but after finally having my first anal orgasam a few nights ago have decided to do a month of only anal, everyday. It’s been AWESOME, except how sore I am for several hours afterwards, to be clear during and even going again while I’m still sore after have definitely been AMAZING and 100% worth it. So just curious if it will ease up the more I do it or if it’s always going to be sore after? But either way, I’m definitely not stopping.

I swear to God my ass is made of glass. Everytime I play it's about a 50% chance there will be blood at some point. Not a huge amount, but enough to notice and stop playing. 99% of the time is just a little pink or droplets in the lube. On rare occasion there has been more blood, where the lube is more red. I'm all cases I stop playing and give my butt a week to heal.

- I'm very experienced with anal. I've been playing my entire life since puberty. I went and bought my first dildo as soon as I turned 18.

- I'm in my 30s and it's been happening my whole life. Is not a new situation, it's just getting tiresome

- I never feel any pain or discomfort

- The toys do not have to be large or unusually shaped. Even small and smooth toys with a condom can still make me bleed. However larger toys are more likely to make me bleed.

- Sometimes I can successfully enjoy a long session with a larger toy with no blood, but then sometimes the small toy will cause bleeding in 2 minutes.

- Im not aware of and I cannot see any hemorroides. I've never felt any pain or discomfort in or around my ass.

- Even after significant time (weeks, months) for healing it still makes no difference in the likelihood there will be blood.

- If I'm EXTRA slow and careful it is less likely to happen

I know this is not normal. I don't often hear of other people complaining about bleeding so much, and I see a lot of other people playing with large toys without blood. When I see people play with bad dragons or something like that I can only think about how that dildo would eviscerate my ass. I don't know how other people can handle it. Are their rectums just made of rubber and mine is paper??

It's really annoying when I'm having fun and this is interrupting half of my play times. I'm also mildly concerned there is some health issue down there. Has anyone else experienced this? Should I check on something? What should I look into? Thanks.

I was discussing this with someone and they mentioned their partner still pulls out during anal with them which seems like it kind of defeats the purpose. Anyone else do that on the regular? What are your reasons for it?