r/AnalOnlyLifestyle

My wife gives up the anus on a rare occasion. Usually without a complaint or fight. I’d say once every couple months. On that rare occasion, I make sure she orgasms at least once or twice. To be sure she can connect some positive experiences with the pain it takes in the beginning. I’d love to get her to crave it more often. Ask for it. Tradition more to a once or twice a month. I don’t see her becoming AO ever but more often and even asking for it would be nice. Any advice???

I love anal, my partner of 16 years knows this and he loves anal too.

He also really, really loves my pussy. I guess he likes all my holes lol.

Anyway, these days I only want my ass fucked. I like it, it feels good, it feels dirty, it feels wrong, it feels right, it feels fucking perfect.

You lot understand haha.

I've been slowly nudging him towards the ass every time we fuck and we're at like a 70/30 ratio in which anal is the majority 😍

Gonna have the AO conversation with him soon and honestly can't wait to have my asshole played with permanently 😩

Sounds dumb but I think about the fact that there are people out there who haven't had a cock up the ass and it fuckin blows my mind. It really hurts. How do you live without it 🤣🤣

Sorry for the multiple posts tonight team but I (34F) have just tried my speculum for the first time and holy shit the stretch is insane.

Combine that with my already kinda loose cause constantly anal fucked ass and I can tickle the inside of my asshole. It's a bizarre and yet incredible feeling. I think it's less about the feeling and more about the idea tbh. I love the idea of having someone play with my asshole but also this speculum means I can just shove my hand in and feel the inside of my shit tube.

Why the fuck is this so hot and what the fuck is wrong with me.

The stretch from this speculum is killing me in the best way possible, holy shit my asshole feels so good 😭

After almost two years of being together, I finally managed to convert my girlfriend (F42) to anal-only (AO)!

Before meeting me, she had no experience with anal sex, but during our very second intimate encounter, we had anal sex that ended in an orgasm, which completely surprised her. Gradually, it became a regular thing, and after a year, I started realizing that I only wanted anal sex with her. I told her this right away, but she took it as a joke. Nevertheless, I started moving in that direction, gradually decreasing the share of conventional sex—first every other time, then once every three days (we have regular daily sex, often multiple times a day), and finally once every five days, and sometimes even once a week. This went on for over a year and a half.

Finally, three months ago, I decided to finish the transition and stop vaginal sex for good. In the beginning, I simply stopped doing vaginal sex and only doing it anally. After about three weeks, she mentioned that she would like vaginal sex too. We had a long talk, and we decided to keep going; if she absolutely couldn't stand it without vaginal sex, she would just ask me.

She lasted another couple of weeks and then said she really wanted it. That was on a Tuesday, and I told her to wait until the weekend. Finally, on Saturday night, when we were in bed and I was already about to enter her vaginally, I asked if she was ready to wait another week. She agreed, and she has been AO for two months now and is very proud of it! We decided together that the final and irreversible transition will happen when I choose to do it vaginally myself, enter her, and she says to me, "Honey, you've got the wrong spot!"

I am sure this will happen!!!

P.S. For now, there is no vaginal contact, not even oral. She has really grown to love anilingus. She barely even stimulates her clitoris with a vibrator during anal penetration anymore—only sometimes, for the first couple of minutes, until her first orgasm.

i know a lot of this sub is roleplay, but some of it clearly isn’t. i’ve seen way too many people unironically trying to straight up manipulate, coerce, or trick their partners (usually men trying to pursue anal with their longterm wives who have not agreed to any such thing) into doing anal, having never even told their partner that they enjoy anal.

it’s genuinely disconcerting how many people in bdsm/fetish subreddits seem to just not know or care about consent, even outside of fantasy. there are people deadass asking for advice on here about how to wear their partner down into saying yes to anal.

i joined this sub to see people who were happy in their lifestyle enjoying their fetish, not to see people trying to coerce their longterm spouse into something they’re unaware their husband has been secretly fantasizing about for years. it’s really sad. i hope we can do better.

I am not AO yet, but I am on my way. The first time my ass was fucked was almost a year ago. It was actually my first time meeting someone in person after talking though an app for a while and kink negotiate. I gave him all my holes. I was plugged during dinner and he used coconut oil. Before this I had used toys ocassionally but real anal was so much better. And I swear the next day I could still smell him on my skin.

We kept going with ocassional anal here and there. But after a pregnancy scare and the desire for him to fuck me without a condom, I began training my ass. I would prepare my ass each time before meeting him and slide in a plug, even if we did not have anal planned... I wanted to be ready. And would wear a plug even if we were just going to dinner. But since silicon toys I swapped to a water-based lube that I am really enjoying (It's called Isabel Fay and has no parabens or glycerin and its great).

I am really into this guy. He always takes care of me after and before. And our kinks and sex drive match well. He prefers me on my back with my legs up over my head and I feel so good and care for when he enters my ass he watches my eyes and face. And he would slow down or wait before I could say anything if I needed a bit of time to relax around his cock first.

I just feel so good when he slides out my plug and then slides in his cock. We are both clean and exclusive now, so he does fuck my ass without a condom and cums deep inside my ass. And since I am usually pre-lubed from the plug, we found the prefect amount lube. He does slide into my other hole first to used my juices as lube before sliding out my plug and fucking my ass. We have grown together where we are in tune with each others bodies and my ass is flexible and can handle him being rougher with me. Like sliding in with one hard stroke. He was hesistant and careful because he didn't want to hurt me. But each time he would go a bit harder or deeper. And now I can take him right away like sometimes it is making fun, but other times it is just good hard fucking. And I love it all.

And after he slides the plug back in and the plug feels too small and it's hard to explain but I feel like such a good anal slut and want to be AO for him. It is a plug with a T-shaped based so there is not a danger of it getting lost in me-safety first. But when my large plug just slips in so easily and I have to consciously tighten my gaping hole around it to keep his cum in me... the anal training definitely is more than worth it when I can do this.

I have given him my ass fully. And my ass is now free-use for him, which makes me feel so good that I can now give this to someone who has grown to mean so much to me. (Slightly off track for this sub, but we did free-use oral first. And it took him a while to try it until I asked if I could come over just to blow him after work, and he said yes. That grew to my pussy being free-use for him too and I didn't want to get in my head and back out of it, so I was very careful about making sure I was fully ready to offer him my ass for free-use and I did not realize how happy it would make me to do this.)

Last time, I prepared my ass and plugged for about an hour while we had dinner and cuddled on the couch. I slid the plug out before we went to bed, and I gave him a blowjob first, and he told me to get him nice and wet since his cock is going in my ass next. And that made me a bit feral. And then he rolled me on my back and slid in and damn. It felt so good. And I begged him to fuck me hard. And we both went feral and I could feel myself squirting as I came and I just want to give more of myself to him.

After sex, he slides a larger plug into me. And then we cuddle and talk. I started a ritual where I get up and get a warm washcloth and then clean his cock. And then I test with my mouth and tongue to make sure all the lube is done. I never thought I would be into ATM, but I been wanting to do this. I want to clean his cock with my mouth after he fucks me. I want to make sure every last bit of his cum gets inside me... either my ass or mouth. Sadly, I can not stand the taste of the lube. So I need to find something better tasting, but also waterbased with no parabens or glycerin, so if anyone has any suggestions, please let me know.

Sorry I kinda rambled a lot but I just feel so good and so loved and owned and amazing. And I learned a lot reading about others anal journey here.

Anyone else on this sub notice the normalization of sexual coercion on here? It honestly grinds my asshole that the default on here seems to be 'as a man you need to make your female partner enjoy anal if she doesn't already.' I only see this dynamic in posts from heterosexual men seeking women, and the majority of replies are men speaking on behalf of their female partners and giving advice on how to change their partners' sexual preferences. I knew I preferred anal before a man ever touched me and a man has never been able to satisfy my craving for it.

I'm in a phase where I only want women who are into anal-only / exclusive anal. Not gonna lie, it makes finding someone interesting a lot harder. Is it just my circle, or is this genuinely rare?

just curious about everyones stories.

personally i was just upfront with my boyfriend and he was very surprised, but open to it. we come from a religious background (ironic, i know) so doing PIV was a no-go, and we’re deathly afraid of pregnancy. plus i suffer from vaginismus. so all these factors made it easier for me to go AO

Also when did you start using them and how often?

Wearing anal plug and go for a walk is always on my kink list but I am not sure which plug is best for that, if anyone have any recommendations please please please💕

Me and my girlfriend are looking for ideas of anal play. We are pregnant and it's high risk and she's been craving everything we can do right now. This is her first time and we already have done a lot between plugs, beads, and mouth. Is there any ideas on new things we can try? We don't want to get bored with it and she's at the point where she's craving it everyday.

Just like the title says I am looking for advice on how to work up to anal fisting. I am regularly plugged. I am working up in size, i am going to invest in more infatable Plugs, Dildos, and long Anal plugs to work on sizing up more. But the reality is I dont have a partner in my life so having them train and fist me isnt an option. So solo fisting it is... Thanks fellow anal lovers.

He keeps saying he feels like he's "missing out" on my pussy even though i keep telling him anal feels better for both of us, he says it's a "mental thing" about wanting hat he can't have. How do i reframe this so he sees it as gaining something special rather than losing something? Or is this a lost cause and i need to find someone who actually appreciates my preference?

Hi, how are you? I actually speak Spanish, so I’m using a translator.

Well, I’m a trans guy, and about a year ago, my boyfriend (a cisgender guy) and I started trying anal sex. We really loved it—so much so that we’ve thought about going "anal only."

But there’s a problem: we can only do it doggy-style. Whenever we try any other position, he starts to lose his erection, so we have to stop and switch to doing something else. I talked to him about it last night; he said he isn't really sure why it happens.

He has this idea in his head that anal sex in other positions is for very large penises, which makes him nervous, or else he simply thinks he can't do it in other positions.

I remember that a long time ago—before he started getting nervous about this—we actually managed to do it in the cowboy position once, but that was ages ago. I’d love some advice or ideas on what we could do. We both really love anal sex, and I’d like to try out more things. Sorry for the bad English :')

I'm male and have had a few bisexual female partners, but they interacted with our girlfriends quite differently with regards to anal.

What do you out there do sexually with your female partners as it pertains to anal?

Just curious about those who like hard, rough anal. Not crazy, savage anal like on AnalVids. No, nothing like that.

Just anal where the clapping of cheeks is loud and the thrusts are forceful enough. Do you find actual pleasure in it? How might it differ between men and women?

I know for us men we can take a pill and still perform well into our 80's. Women vaginally can still have sex the same. But it's a rare breed to travel the "alternative highway" with joy and gusto.

So who's still plowing the back 40 in the senior years?

Update from the girl who’s been fully anal-only with her boyfriend for almost a year.
Everything was still perfect until about two weeks ago.
He brought it up casually at first. Said he missed the feeling of regular sex and asked if we could “mix it up” sometimes. I thought he was joking. He wasn’t.
A few days later he said it more seriously. He still loves the anal, but he doesn’t want it to be the only option forever. He asked if we could try vaginal again, just once in a while.
I told him no.
Not once.

Not “for a special occasion.”

No.
He looked surprised. I think he expected me to compromise. I explained that this isn’t a phase for me anymore. I like the rule. I like how intentional sex feels because of it. I like knowing that part of me is only his in one specific way.
He went quiet for a while. We still had sex that night — anal, like always — and he finished inside me the same way he has for months. But the conversation is still sitting between us.
I’m not changing the rule.

I’m just not sure yet if he’s going to stay okay with that.
Anyone else have their partner start wanting vaginal again after a long stretch of anal-only?