There are a thousand types of lube on the market. We all know the names and types. One lube that doesn't get a lot of air time is coconut oil. At least I haven't seen it.
What are the pros and cons and your experience with CCN oil?
I know for us men we can take a pill and still perform well into our 80's. Women vaginally can still have sex the same. But it's a rare breed to travel the "alternative highway" with joy and gusto.
So who's still plowing the back 40 in the senior years?
And how is it achieved? Dual stimulation, just the penetration, Or combo's of things and thoughts?
I mean, is that a typical evolution to the act, or is it as individual as PIV or even any orgasm? Meaning, "it depends"?
New member here. M (61) F (57) Married, exclusive, happy.
We just unlocked the joys of anal exploration. My wife is receptive but cautious. So far, a dozen or so sessions over 8 months, with no apparent negative experiences on my wife's part. My experience has all been positive throughout, hehe. We had a heart to heart a few days ago and I told her she is in control and everything we do has to be 100% consensual on her part. She was receptive and open. Do to her work/life schedule, we seem to be hooking up only once a week. I obviously would like more (3 times a week?) NO negative vibes, just older adults with life going on. She also suffers from Dyspareunia (Painful Intercourse) due to cancer treatment and menopause combo. We worked through it so far. Hence trying new openings.
My query is asking for any tips on continuing her interest and hopefully stirring up some desire for more anal exploration? What has worked for the folks here? I'll try clitoral stimulation during anal sex next (good tip, just didn't put the two together, duh) She usually has an orgasm from oral or vibrators before I penetrate Vaginally or Annaly. But doesn't multiple, too sensitive after.
I've read through quite a few posts on here already and find that this is a positive community.
One thing to mention is she of a conservative Asian culture but has been in America for 25 years (the time we have been married) She is not an initiator for sex, just not in her culture or background. She was a virgin when we married, Trust me, she was. I did the research.
So far sex has been pretty vanilla but adequate. I'm hoping that now that we are getting to retirement age with less responsibilities we can find more time for each other and "play" more.
What positive techniques have worked for folks here in the past to spur interest and motivation to "explore"?
My fantasy would be to go AO if her Dyspareunia does not improve after finishing cancer drugs/treatment soon!. So anything that I could try to further that fantasy ?(if she were on board with it)??