u/Apart-Resist-7888

I have been making pick a card tarot readings using an ASMR whisper. I linked my most recent video here, feel free to have a look at more videos.

I would love advice or tips since I have been struggling to establish my channel. I would also be willing to do requests.

Thank you in advance!

A warning to new couples out there.

My partner and I are in a 19 year age gap relationship. We have been together for over 4 years now. At the start of our relationship we kept things hush hush with my family (me being the younger one). I did finally introduce my partner to my family and they pretended they were accepting about everything. That is until they realized the relationship isn't just a fling.

So now after being cordial for years with my partner. As I pull away and start making my own life with my partner, NOW is when everyone's true feelings are coming out. Being in an age gap relationship for the most part you already think about how things would look if you have kids, how future years will look, and the complications and judgement you will face. You don't need your "loved" ones to point out those things especially years after already being in the relationship.

So over the weekend, my family so nicely piled onto myself and my partner. Pretty much saying almost everything we have going on in our relationship is wrong:

- if we want to have kids -nope, wrong the child will have complications 100% in their minds

- Me not working right now, trying to find a job that doesn't destroy my mental health - nope, wrong again because my partner MUST be controlling me then.

There was so much more but those were the worst things said. These things were not said from a place of concern and if they were it would have been a conversation to have years ago not now. It was said with hate.

So if you are in a fresh relationship and your family is appearing to be accepting but you can tell they are not impressed. They are likely just hoping your relationship will blow over. They might pretend for a bit but as time progresses you will see everyone's true colors.

They will also twist literally ANYTHING you tell them to fit the narrative they have created in their mind. Even if you tell them good news. I ended up being very private because everything I said was scrutinized and twisted to view our relationship in a negative light.

Mind you, I love my partner very much and I wouldn't change anything. My family has their own demons to deal with, when they choose to be done focusing on my life maybe they can start dealing with their own. Sometimes people focus on you and create problems that don't even exist because it's easier than looking in the mirror and dealing with themselves. My partner and I are happy, and looking forward to our future together.

NOTE: of course everyone's relationship and situation can be different but this has been my experience.