Collecting name cards on first dates
I have a theory. People give name cards on first dates are not your SDs.
They are single or that have no issues with intimate relationships. They do not come to find SBs in traditional sense. They try to make friends with you and don’t mind supporting you.
I collected the first name card from an investor. He encouraged me to pursue career in finance (I have no background whatsoever). Now as I’m doing self study finance course online, he doesn’t mind providing his insight along the way. He also said he would support me in cash, saying he didn’t it for the spark in my character. He becomes my mentor now.
The second name card was from a group MD (finance guy again), we did dinner date and hooked up. No money involved (I didn’t know if things would be different if I hinted). He tried several times asking my phone number, I refused. He tried to look for me in book stores (I told him I’m an author). He continued the convo after first date. I didn’t texted back because I don’t like how it’s going (clearly I don’t want a vanilla boyfriend).
Platform is only a platform. It doesn’t define relationships and how it will go. I intend to find a SD but things usually go south (or any direction I didn’t expect).
Both of name card guys want genuine connection and do not mind people knowing who they are. They use the platform to meet people, not SBs necessarily.