u/AttackManatee47

After being in a dynamic for a couple years, does anyone else start to wonder how vanillas can function without them?

Not to knock vanillas; what I mean is that I don't feel like I'd ever want a relationship without a dom/sub dynamic again, and it makes me sad that so many people have never and will never experience it or understand how intimate it can be. I wish it wasn't so stigmatized to live this way. Sometimes I just want to share with random people how much it benefitted my relationship and encourage them to consider it as well, but unfortunately I feel like the only people that will ever talk about this already know. There are probably so many people that would love to live this way that will never know because they're afraid of the taboo.

For clarification, I don't mean to exclude people (like a certain data scientist) who only engage in dom sub in the bedroom when I use the word "dynamic". Just as much intimacy comes from that, as has been made obvious from posts I've read. At the end of the day, this is mostly a post to express how I sometimes have the urge to share with vanilla people how happy this can make people, but we know that's too risky.

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u/AttackManatee47 — 9 days ago

I wouldn't be surprised if many here already know of her, but for those that don't, I'd like to recommend an artist that my sub and I enjoy listening to. Her name is Deore. She specifically makes music about dom/sub dynamics (usually DD/lg but she doesn't exclusively use those titles and themes) from the sub's perspective, but her lyrics usually get an evil chuckle out of me when they talk about bratting and punishments. I think she does a great job finding a balanced in her lyrics between the sexy stuff and the sweet, intimate stuff. My current favorite song of hers is "Head Empty" because it describes exactly how I enjoy making my sub feel safe and happy.

Please do lmk if you like her songs, or if I helped you find someone new to listen to.

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u/AttackManatee47 — 24 days ago

After almost 2 years of being in a dynamic with my wife, I finally ordered a much more specific and personalized collar for her to wear in the house. It's an adorable pale pink bow with lavender strap and a cute twinkly bell that sounds cute but not too abrasive. I'm already loving hearing her jingle around the house. We love her old coat but I've wanted one with my color preferences for a while now, and she just looks so precious in light pinks. It's still small and comfy enough that it doesn't get in her way. She's working on getting used to it but she admits that she feels cute in it. It doesn't look like a lot, but this is a big step for her because she has become much more comfortable with wearing whatever makes me happy because she feels flattered by it. Can't wait to see her wearing it along with her pink pajamas I got her. Very exciting for us, as simple as it may seem.

u/AttackManatee47 — 24 days ago

Looking for potential inspiration, but I also just like hearing others' fun ideas. My wife's and my favorite is every night before bed, she kneels on a pillow while I sit on the side of the bed. I take her collar off and kiss her forehead while she holds my hands. Then she thanks me and we say goodnight and she gets in bed with me. It's such a nice way to end the day on a happy note.

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u/AttackManatee47 — 27 days ago