u/Attwan

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My wife and I have always had a good sex life, but something shifted recently. During sex she’s started talking more and more about wanting to do “forbidden” things with me. Specifically, she says she wants to share me with other girls.

She describes bringing beautiful girls over. The kind that would make her jealous on purpose. She says she doesn’t even want me to see their faces clearly , just their bodies. She gets really into describing how she’d make them suck my cock while she watches, how they’d lick her pussy and play with her body, how they’d take turns with me and eventually cum in my mouth. She talks about them touching her, tasting her, and her tasting them while I’m involved.

The hard rule she keeps repeating is that my cock only goes inside her. She says she has no problem with everything else ; oral, touching, watching, the whole scene , as long as I’m only fucking her.

She goes into a lot of detail while we’re having sex and it clearly turns her on. Sometimes she keeps describing the girls and the scenario even after we finish. I’ve never pushed it or brought other people into our sex life before, so this is all new.

I’m trying to figure out the best way to handle this. A few questions for people who’ve been in similar situations:

- How do I respond in the moment to encourage the fantasy without killing the mood or making it feel pressured?

- Are there good ways to help her expand the fantasy further (dirty talk, roleplay, descriptions, etc.) while keeping it fun and safe?

- Has anyone successfully moved something like this from pure fantasy into reality? What did that process look like?

- Does this kind of desire sometimes mean she has interest in women herself, or is it mostly about the jealousy/sharing dynamic for her?

- For the couples who’ve done this: how did you talk about boundaries, jealousy, and what it actually meant for your relationship?

Would love to hear from people with real experience — both the ones who stayed in fantasy and the ones who took steps toward making parts of it real. Thanks. M30 / F28