Am I misremembering, or a few years ago if you chatted with a guy they’d would generally be game to meet up soon (like that day or the next one)? Is anyone else noticing guys chat, but if you suggest actually meeting suddenly they are busy (despite being online constantly) and noncommittal about meeting up?
I went to the market days fest earlier this afternoon. The past few years, the vibe was very cliquish and a lot of peacocking by the gym gays. This year, though, people seemed very chill and like they were genuinely having a good time. Is it just me, or has anyone else noticed that this year?
In a big city (Chicago), but is it just me or has Grindr become more competitive? In the past, if a guy responded to messages there was a good chance it would lead to a meetup. Now that is not the case at all, and it isn’t unusual for them to randomly end all communication after being initially super conversational and responsive. Are there just too many hot guys vying for someone’s attention these days, and people quickly move on to “better”?
A millennial friend of mine is a black, gay, professional currently living in lakeview. The vibe there is such that it seems POCs (especially black) are ignored or at best invisible. He’s been told to consider places like Andersonville since it skews older and is a bit quieter. But curious whether POCs are pretty much marginalized there as well, it’s just that the crowd is a bit older?
Is it just me, or is the gay community here in Chicago rather “wild”. As in no one wants to simply have drinks, eat out, etc. People dress performatively casually (ie gym shoes, gym tanks to go out). Only have grungy type gay bars. Limited interest in any of the arts. Lots of gamers. What is going on?
Maybe I am blinded by nostalgia. But does anyone else feel that say up until about 10 years ago, gays often had a free spirit about them—-Enjoying art, cute pop music, the finer things in life? So many now seem jaded, with a chip on their shoulder, obsessed with sex (having it or trying to present themselves to get sexual attention), and performing “masculinity. Seeing people solely on the basis of sex, and discarding afterward. The core is missing. Maybe that was always the case?
To get attention on the apps? I am in the gym regularly, muscular, etc.. However, it seems like I am invisible on the apps. Hardly anyone messages first, and often times I get responses but nothing materializes into meeting. Who is actually getting people that meetup?
I am seeing so many muscular, usually “partnered” guys, on the apps as of Thursday. Is there some sort of gay event this weekend?
It is so interesting how many sweet and bright eyed guys move to Chicago, only to turn into grizzled party boys without much purpose beyond bloated muscles. Has anyone else noticed this?