I found a guy who's dtf but neither of us can host. Where can we go that's not super risky or at least cheap to get some privacy. He's mobile so are there any safe/friendly places to park?
I just turned 21 and wanted to hit the gay bars in Boystown this weekend. Do they all have the same vibe, attract the same audiences, which one should I go for? What usually goes down at the gay bars, are people flirty, dance focused, I'm a pretty attractive guy I want to make friends and connections what should I expect. I also will be going alone because all my friends are 20, anyone want to show me around or tag along if it's also their first time going? Thanks so much Chicago gay bros, this subreddit is so helpful for young gays like me I am genuinely grateful.
~ truly grateful,
Random gay 21 yr old
hi there! i'm 19, which cuts out a lot of places that i can go. i can't go to any bars, which is the biggest issue
i'm struggling a lot with making friends and meeting potential partners, because everything is a bar or just sex, and that isn't what i want. i just want to go places and meet people my age to be friends 😭 but that feels impossible to do
any help or recommendations would be great, because rn i keep seeing a lot of 21+ suggestions under other people's posts
edit to add that im in the loop with access to the cta for free, and im willing to go most places if it can be accessed by the cta
Hello,
I’m 28 and moved to Chicago about 3 years ago. I just got out of a long term relationship about a year ago and I’m really struggling to meet people. I’ve got the apps, but I just don’t do well on them. I’ve tried the suggestions I’ve seen on here: gay leagues (always sold out, last time I tried to join bowling league it asked for a password?), tried boystown but I just can’t never seem to meet anyone because it’s loud and at the ripe age of 28, I have bad hearing. I’ve been to some other bars but they just don’t seem to work with me.
I’m looking for suggestions for any groups that are usually accepting new comers. I’m very active so can play just about any sport (minus football), and love to read, play games, etc. I’m in Evanston which might be part of the problem but always happy to commute into town for events. Please send recommendations!
Good evening!
I wanted to ask how the experience of getting HIV tested at Howard brown was and the cost?
Like, I have insurance so I don’t mind just billing it to them but what is the cost anyway?
Or
Should I just ask for one with my PCP (I don’t intend on going to HBH for my PCP).
Thank you!
Does anyone know where they give out the free locker passes? I know they give them out at Sofo Trivia and Jackhammer sometimes. Where else?
Best places to hit Thursday? In town for one night for work
Hi,
I am 30M visitng Chicago this weekend for the first time and would love some recommendations for some bars/clubs to. I like good pop/r&b music and prefer a diverse crowd. Thanks!
If you ever went to the Manhandler when it was open, you know how much fun it could be. Be it just hanging out, drinking, or getting your soul snatched in the Barn. My partner and I are looking to possibly open a new bar with the same name and shenanigans, or something similar with our own twist. I was wondering if people would want to see this bar, or something similar, come back. Does anyone miss the Manhandler? Aside from the barn area, are there any other features you would like to see added to the bar? Are there any Manhandler features you feel must be incorporated into a version of the bar? We really want to know, as your feedback will help us decide how to move forward.
I’ve been in the suburbs for a little bit for work and the two hook ups I’ve had were so bad that I felt gross about myself after. Is this normal out here?? Or am I just not getting/giving the right guys attention LMAO lowkey feel like I’m going crazy 🫠
Booked it all and unfortunately going solo. Prob going to cancel some if I can’t get friends to go. But booked flights with miles tentatively and our family’s timeshares with Marriott.
Southern Decadence, New Orleans Sunday, September 6th - Monday, September 7th; Ritz Carlton.
Marriott Villas Orlando two bedroom villas, Monday, September 7th - Sunday September 13th (or Monday September 14th).
Marriott Ocean Pointe Palm Beach Sunday September 13th - September 20th.
Marriott Aruba Surf Club, Monday September 21st - Monday September 28th.
Then have some hotels booked in Curaçao and I fly home October 3rd.
Me: 6’, early 30s, jock, looking for fun people to hang out with. Age is irrelevant but 18-50 probably would work best.
Coming from NY next weekend wondering if any cruisy hot parties or bars ?? Thanks
At Market Days I spoke with someone at a booth for an organization where gay men are allowed to donate sperm (and get paid!) which is amazing since the vast majority of orgs prohibit gay men from sperm donation. Unfortunately I forgot the name of the org - any chance someone caught it??
I know that the sports leagues are one of the more popular ways to meet people but I must confess that I have no interest in playing any sports. 😅
For the non-sporty people out there, have you found any avenues to make friends?
Am I misremembering, or a few years ago if you chatted with a guy they’d would generally be game to meet up soon (like that day or the next one)? Is anyone else noticing guys chat, but if you suggest actually meeting suddenly they are busy (despite being online constantly) and noncommittal about meeting up?
I definitely think Chicago itself is a very accepting and diverse place, especially the city proper. There’s real progressive energy, good events, and an overall vibe that feels open.
At the same time, does it ever feel to anyone else like the city still carries a pretty strong Midwestern cultural undercurrent? For all the diversity on paper, the social and dating scene (and the long-term close friendships that form out of it) seems to cater pretty heavily to a specific type, tall, muscular, white/latino. It can feel more white-serving and heteronormative than a lot of other big cities.
And it’s not even like that standard is easy for most white guys either. A lot of them don’t live up to it and still get sidelined.
Although it could be that just the most established gay regions and resources are concentrated in white/centric places .
Just curious if anyone has gone to the monthly (?) Headero Goat event at the Eagle. Wondering if the blowjob competition format works and if it’s a fun crowd.
I am a college student from Northwestern, and I have been quite lonely (not having gay friends yk). Now, I wanna know where college guys in the Chicago area go and what they do in their free time. Would love to know.
Is it well attended like NYC’s? I know that it’s a relatively new thing for Chicago so want to manage expectations appropriately.