Used to be strictly submissive, how to fill that desire in new relationship structures?
Getting into kink I (22f) used to be very submissive. I come from a very sex normalized work environment where I naturally flourished in and enjoyed that role, I love to serve and please and to be talked dirty to and manhandled and to be good, if you will. More than that, to feel watched over and protected and secure.
I recently entered the poly scene with a partner (24f) who both is newly exploring her submissive side, and has come to terms with her gender identity, since we’ve met, which is a 180 to our dynamic. This relationship is new and there have been a lot of changes really fast, which I am looking forward to working and living through with this person, but it is very different from what I’m used to and I am left with unfulfilled submissive desires and miss the dynamic we had when our relationship started.
I met and became close with another woman (24), (literally three months ago I was completely straight, which is another story) and we developed feelings for each other. We’re both pretty switchy, but in this relationship I have ended up in the more dominant side of our dynamic pretty often.
I’ve met folks who learned how to be dominant, do these desires I’m having for the dominant figure ever go away? I really enjoy my relationships with my partners and don’t really have the capacity for a new full dynamic with a new person. I want to be a good partner to my partners, but also to have my needs met too.
I’d honestly appreciate any input