Hello, I haven’t posted before but thought I would look for support / advice. I’ve been in 2 major AGR before and been shamed pretty hard for them. They were big Age gaps (30 plus years) and while they were private, my friends and family ended up finding out about them and a lot of them told me I needed therapy or was broken. I was 19 during my first one and most recently was when I was 24. I really cared for the partners I had but the stress from the lack of community support made the relationship incredibly hard and ultimately ended them.
I’m 25 now and just got introduced to a 25M by a friend. He’s really nice and we have a lot in common. I enjoy his company but I realized there’s zero physical attraction. I don’t think anyone in my life understands that I am just attracted to older men. I went to a therapist and she told me I was “acting out” and I did lots of therapy but my attraction hasn’t changed. Is it ever going to change? I don’t understand why my friends and family can’t just support my decision to date and older man.