u/BlanchinDog3

I (19M) can’t get over this aversion to giving oral sex or doing anal (topping) with my partner. The weird thing is that like I think about it a lot as a thing that would be fun for me to do but in the moment I just balk. I want to make him feel good but I just get too uncomfortable in the moment. He’s very kind about it but can tell he gets disappointed.

I think the problem is a mix between cleanliness concerns (but like neurotically, of course there’s gonna be poop from a butt but like I should grow up) and also like shame of not being good at either of those things. Idk what to do to get over it