u/BlueWaffleHut

I think we both know why you’re here.

You’re looking for something most people either can’t offer or are too scared to understand.

I’m Alex, 41 and based in southeast England but distance doesn’t bother me if the connection is right.

Quiet, easygoing and pretty normal in daily life. 6ft tall, burly, bearded, rugged and exactly what I seem in private. I’ve been into BDSM for over twenty years, mainly around dominance, extreme degradation and humiliation, control, sadism and psychological submission.

What interests me most is getting inside a woman’s head. Earning her trust, uncovering secrets she wouldn’t dare tell anyone else and becoming the man she becomes obsessed with. The devotion, the honesty, the private confessions and the way she slowly gets attached and dependent. That’s what I enjoy most.

I like dynamics where her admiration grows naturally, where she stops holding parts of herself back and where the connection starts to feel deeper than just scenes or roleplay.

I’m not interested in timid dynamics or girls who only want to dip their toes in. I’m drawn to intensity, emotional control, humiliation, devotion and slowly breaking down the walls women spend years building around themselves.

For the right woman, submission should feel less like a game and more like something she naturally falls into because, deep down, she craves it.

I’m drawn to intelligent, self aware women who’ve always known they wanted something stronger and more consuming than a normal relationship. Women who crave being controlled, owned, reduced to that needy state and genuinely possessed by the right man.

I value communication, consistency, and emotional maturity. Life gets busy but I have little interest in women who disappear the moment things get difficult. If I give a woman my time and attention, I do it properly and I expect her to stay loyal once I’ve got her hooked.

I know I’m not for everyone and I don’t expect to be. But for the right woman, someone who is genuinely on the same wavelength as me, she’ll find herself with a man who understands exactly how to twist her mind and offers something she won’t be able to replace.

I don’t do casual dynamics. I get attached, attentive, possessive and loyal to the women I claim.

Looks and relationship status matter far less to me than honesty, chemistry, and what’s going on inside your head. Real submission isn’t pretending. It’s trust, vulnerability and letting me see and own parts of you that don’t belong to you anymore.

If this speaks to something in you that you usually keep hidden, we’ll probably get along very well.

There’s no need for pleasantries. We both know exactly why you’re here.

My name is Alex, 41, southeast England, however, distance means nothing to me when the right kind of woman finally comes along.

I’m a 6ft tall, burly, bearded and rugged beast of a man who looks exactly like what I am. The type who will ruin you slowly, thoroughly and with smile on my face.

Day to day I’m a quiet, geeky and easygoing guy who smiles and blends in with polite society.

That’s the mask I hide behind. When I’m alone the mask drops and you meet the calm and merciless sadist I’ve been for over twenty two years.

I enjoy intense degradation, dehumanisation and humiliation. I will strip you of every last ounce of your dignity, your rights and own you outright.

My real skill isn’t just in the extreme kinks I practice. It’s in the way I like to study you. I notice the little lies you tell yourself, the jokes you hide behind and the things you’re ashamed to want. I find the filthiest and shameful corners of your mind and I slowly coax them out so you don’t need to pretend anymore.

This isn’t just about scenes and dirty talk. This is about building a trust so deep it becomes dangerous. I want access to your fears, your weaknesses, your pathetic need to be wanted and that overwhelming urge to be completely used.

I want to live inside your head until you can’t think straight without feeling me skulking about in there.

I’m looking for a woman who has always known, deep down, that she has never been “normal”. Someone who’s tired of performing and is finally ready to admit she was made to be degraded, controlled and ultimately reshaped by a man who enjoys her suffering.

Life gets in the way. Work, stress, studies and responsibilities etc. I understand that but I don’t want a woman who will vanish the moment it’s inconvenient. I want a woman who can think, communicate and who can still give me the time of day even when the rigours of life gets in the way. Because once I decide you’re mine then I’m all in and I expect the same from you.

You’ve probably been told your neediness is unattractive. I disagree. When I own a woman I want her consumed, constantly checking her phone for my messages like the desperate creature she is. I want her rearranging her routines, her thoughts and her entire pathetic little life around me. I want her loyalty to feel inevitable, her attachment permanent and the kind that can leave an emotional scar.

I want real devotion. The kind that can hurt. I don’t do casual or temporary dynamics. I am possessive, obsessive and I stay long after everyone else would’ve given up on you.

What you look like or who you’re in a relationship with doesn’t particularly matter to me and I want that same respect in return.

What matters is what’s inside that head of yours. That feeble, weak mind that I’m going to take apart piece by piece until you don’t recognise yourself anymore. True submission isn’t roleplay. It’s letting me keep parts of you forever.

If this makes your stomach knot and that worthless cunt of yours twinge like the needy slut it is… then you might actually be worth my time.

To appease the mods: this is a fictional scenario between consenting adults. I prioritise thorough aftercare and my partner’s physical and emotional wellbeing will always remain the top priority. Any kink related play is approached safely, responsibly and within my partner’s comfort levels and will stop immediately if they reach a limit or withdraw their consent.