r/BDSMPersonalsUK

This is a bit unique but my partner F has a kink where she fantasizes that men are controlled by their balls and they should be limping in public from the pain their women cause. We are on vacation in Europe and will be coming to London. She wants a man to make a comment to her while her and I are walking together where they say “his balls don’t look like their hurting enough” she wants it to feel random and likes its a stranger. She’ll punish me after for it.

She just wants a chance encounter to kick start our night.

Hi, hey, hello.

let me get my disclaimers out the way first... I'm a plus size girly so if you're not into that don't message. I am also in a relationship with someone who isn't into this lifestyle and doesn't know I'm here.

sadly recenly turned 30. F. Living in the north of England. Dyed red hair, green/grey eyes.

Anyway, looking for someone normal as a bare minimum (a big ask for Reddit I know) who is funny,kind, silly and for the love of God doesn't have the emotional availability of an egg🤣

I need a genuine connection to be able to get into a dynamic, so looking for someone I vibe with but also am physically attracted to.

Love silly, witty, caring types.

I'm a brat but have a big heart and actually prefer a soft dom with a natural golden retriever personality. A dom that helps me take care of myself and genuinley cares about my wellbeing.

kinks: orgasm control,denial, light degradation, rules,structure, nipple play, spanking,choking etc

hard limits- any shit or piss shenanigans, hard degradation, people with very specific fetishes. whatever tickles your pickle but kinda freaks me out 🤣

I would prefer somebody around my age but obviously there's leeway.

also please be willing to swap pictures off the bat

Any gorgeous or slutty (clean-sluts) Interested in coming over to mine now for a good session with me? I'm needing some comforting I'll drop some potent herbal performance boosting miracle pills and you will know what time it is. Dm don't be all boring... Everyone is all talk on here 90% of the time.. Come play xx

Hey my name is rose.

i'm 19 5,4 ft mixed and more on the petite side 59kg.

I'm looking for a long term dyanmic with a softer but strict and more expirenced dom.

Verification is a must and I dont want anyone who is looking for short term.

I would describe myself as quite a clingy submissive, so i need someine who is ok with that.

I'm more than happy to share kinks once we start talking

Don't hesitate to get in touch if you think we could match <3

I hate doing these there always so hard to to
ATM I’m sick so it makes it harder I sware so bullet points it is
- dom who’s not always sexual
-knows that they don’t get respect they earn it
-I like there voice to be deep
-to be able to go on walks and adventures
-to understand that I need help and rules and strucher
-I’m a brat sometimes
-I wana do more pet play
- my kinks are , chocking,spanking,fingering ,tied up
Denial mm there’s more
-limets, deep throatin , public , anything to do with work or family, illegal
-have the awareness and confidence to say it’s not for them instead of ghosting

I have my life together some what a flat a car a job so I’m not interested if you live at home (there are some ok reasons to be at home )

So if you got this far please make sure it’s an interesting message that IS NOT JUST ABOUT SEX

Hiii,

On the surface, I am a cynical but expressive girl, with many interests - I have a fair few hobbies and I always like to pick up more. I value deep conversations and debate, and if it’s an area I’m not that familiar with I’d love for you to teach me all about it! Despite the first thing I mentioned being that I am cynical I also have a silly and youthful streak, I love cute things (I have a fair few teddies) and generally I think it’s important to be silly and happy and not worry too much about things that society can otherwise get on at you at - i.e the way you act.

As a submissive I need a deep emotional connection with someone who can get to grips with my brain, I like things dark, and everything has to have a solid psychological core to it. If I can’t respect you as a person and I don’t think you’re worthy of my admiration in your vanilla life there’s no chance I can respect you as a Dom. But that perhaps makes me sound a little bratty - which is certainly not the case. My desire is always to be an obedient girl, and I don’t mind putting my pleasure aside (to an extent) in order to please you. Degradation, protocol, heavy psychological play, are things that are integral for me.

There’s too much to get into, but yes - a harsh but guiding hand is my preference.

I can’t really put an exact label on the kind of sub I am, however if you are intrigued and are respectful and can hold a conversation feel free to send me a message. :)

P.s bonus points if you’ll play chess with me, I’d love to get more practice.

You'll get nice and friendly with me online first, then we'll meet up and you'll get me intoxicated or whatever you want. Afterwards when im nice and mellowed out, you'll take me on a nice walk around or a nice drive to somewhere isolated all while youre acting sweet and charming, then without warning, you'll pin me against a wall by my throat, pushing your body against mine to stop me resisting, giving you time to clamp a hand over my mouth or choke me a bit to stop me screaming and grope my breasts or maybe put something sharp to my neck, somehow tie my hands behind my back and gag me, force me down onto the floor and feel my body up and down, gently teasing my breasts and body until i'm soaked through my underwear, slip a condom on and force your throbbing cock inside of me, giving me no chance to resist you.

My partner (30F) and I (32M) are looking for a bi sub male for a play session.

My partner has a scenario in mind, which I am happy to send after you have messaged.

Please DM with age, location, a bit about you etc (the more the better!)

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Hii! I'm a little/sub, I'm looking for a Daddy Dom to get to know and spend time with. Ideally from the UK!

I'm a cute bubbly person with a lot of energy and who wants lots of cuddles and fun. I have a lot of different kinks and an happy to discuss down the line.

I'm ENM so please understand this and be open to it if you message me!!!

Hello there.
If you are reading this, it’s because your curious about being hypnotised and the ways in which it can help you let go. And why wouldn’t you be?

Life can be hard. Every day you have to make decisions. Every day you have to be responsible. Every day you have to be going and going and going. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a little time to stop? To let go of your thoughts and your cares and your responsibilities? To allow yourself to be free from the heavy burden of having to be your own person? If that feeling resonates with you, then I would like to help you. I want to help you let go.

And the best part? You don’t have to do a single thing. Just let it happen. Let me help you let go. Listen to my voice. Follow my words. You may be surprised how deep you can go and how good you can feel when you accept the freedom that comes with submission.

Choice can be overwhelming. Paralysing. Exhausting. Allow me to free you from that stress and do what you’re told. If you want to learn to let go, send me a message with your name, your age, and something that excites you about hypnosis. Don’t think about it. Don’t question it. Don’t make a choice. Just do it. You might just learn to love that feeling.

A bit about me, I’m 26, male, and I have around seven years of experience as a hypnotist and dominant.
My kinks are vast and expansive, but you can find a few below.

Kinks: Amnesia, Behaviour Modification, Bondage, Blanking, Brainwashing, Confusion and Covert, CNC, Collars, Degradation, Dirty Talk, Drooling, Edging, Exhibitionism, Fractionation, Free Use, Freezing, Gaslighting, Honourifics, IQ Play, Longterm Conditioning and Pavlovian responses , Objectification, Orgasm control, Petplay, Personality Alteration, Power Exchange, Resistance play

Limits: Anything illegal, toilet play and water sports, furrys

Please be aware that I am a real person and I expect to be treated as such and with the same respect I’ll treat you. I am not interested in roleplaying.

Young experienced Domme here looking for a submissive I can truly own, guide, and mould into exactly what I want. I enjoy building a dynamic with someone who’s obedient, open-minded, eager to please, and genuinely into giving up control.
I’m into light CBT/impact play, chastity, humiliation tasks, sissification, teasing, training, control, and pushing boundaries in a fun but structured way. I love consistency, communication, and watching a sub slowly become more and more devoted over time.

I’m not looking for fake “yes Mistress” energy for one night, I want someone who enjoys the psychological side of submission as much as the physical side. Bonus points if you’re needy, bratty in a fun way, or secretly craving structure and discipline.

Communication is key for me and anyone who is not able to communicate their feelings properly is a red flag for me. If there is something on your mind or if your feeling a certain way about something I like my subs to express themselves so we are both on the same page and everything is transparent, please nobody under the age of 26 either!

I do prefer someone who has experience in serving in a long term dynamic and knows how to follow rules and respect boundaries.

Tell me a little about yourself, your experience level, limits, and what kind of dynamic you’re hoping for :)

Looking for a dominant man, around 25-40 in the south wales area! (I prefer bigger men, muscly, tall etc.)
I’m submissive, and mostly enjoy bondage so ideally only looking for someone experienced in this and enjoys it.

More about me, I’m 5’1, brunette and a little curvy. I’m studying at the moment and also have a part time job but still have lots of free time. I love working out in the gym, being creative, and cooking/baking.

Looking for more of just a play partner but I’m open to anything really!
Feel free to message me if you fit into the age range and description 🥰

I’m visiting family in Lincolnshire for a few days and I thought it would be nice to get to know the scene here. I’m staying by myself, so even just conversation in general would be nice to pass the time I have. I have posted here previously so I won’t go into too much detail here.

Also open to talking to people from other areas too. I don’t want to waffle on but here’s a bit about me:

5ft5, blonde hair, blue eyes, curvy and chubby. Fairly pretty I think, at least men do seem to stare, more so older ones. Quite false looking, fake lashes, fake nails etc. I’d identify as more of a soft sub with a serious masochistic side. I’m into a gentle nurturing Dom who can be very sadistic and enjoys emotional/mental sadism. I’d prefer people between the age ranges of 24-30. Looks wise I like brunettes but I would say I’m demisexual so if we vibe that’s great.

If you’d like to know any more feel free to message me and ask any questions. Please make your first impression count.

Hi there, I’m a 22 year old woman from the Netherlands (ill be in london soon, have british father), curious, grounded, and ready to build something real and lasting. I’ve lived in the US, Australia, and South East Asia, so traveling comes naturally to me, and I’m able to travel worldwide for the right owner!

A bit about me: I’m slim and fit, and yoga is part of my daily life. It keeps me centered, flexible, and very in tune with my body. I enjoy structure, discipline, and the calm that comes from consistency. I love serving and pleasing you with virtually no limits, in the bedroom as well as outside of it

What I’m looking for is a long-term Owner and a serious reallife dynamic. I’m open to a full TPE relationship without limits, built on trust, mutual understanding, and clear communication. I’m strictly interested in IRL meetings, online-only dynamics or virtual serving aren’t for me. Currently I’m still with my boyfriend, but he knows about my wishes and I am willing to dump him on your command

There are a few pictures on my profile, and I’m happy to share more once we start talking!

If this resonates with you and you’re looking for something equally committed and genuine, please reach out to me on Telegram: @emmvdam. Tell me a bit about yourself and what kind of dynamic you’re hoping to build

Hiiii!!!!

This is a long one, so buckle in, ya boy loves to rant :)

I'm 19 years old trans guy, I'm on hormones but haven't had any surgeries. I'm not okay with misgendering!! You need to know I'm not a girl! And need to be 100% comfortable calling me a man/boy, and being masculine presenting.

I am 5'4" and a bit chubby - thick thighs save lives - and I have brunette/coppery hair, blue eyes, and glasses. I'm trying to eat better, to look after myself and lose weight.

Like the post title said, I'm looking for someone who is up for being nurturing and guiding, while also strict and standing on business (I can be a lil bratty). I want someone who can help me better myself and stick to a sort of wellness routine. I'm trying to lose weight for top surgery but I'm really struggling.

Like I said, I can be bratty, so be prepared.

I'm a little as well!! I regress to about 3 - 5 years old on average. I use pacifiers (dummies for the brits), and bottles/sippy cups, and I loves cute things (in and out of headspace hehe), colouring in, Paw Patrol, My Little Pony, and Hello Kitty/Sanrio! When I am really small, I wear diapers/nappies. I can be shy when regressing, so when we do get to that stage, it would be best if you could lead and basically just make me small. It all really helps with stress and can help me sleep better if I'm struggling.

Also, when I am super small, prepare for random babbling and noises, I can get pretty non-verbal/slurred lispy speech that I can't really control. However that would be once we are comfortable enough to call, as I struggle to type like that as well.

Onto the more nsfw side (littlespace is more non-sexual for me), my main kinks are humiliation, spanking, double penetration, anal, long-term toy use, wedgies, petplay, diapers (only pee, and not super important to me if not your vibe), object insertation, body writing, nipple play, marking, edging, and orgasm delay/denial. That's not all of them but they main bunch, I think. I'm pretty open to trying a lot of things though :)

My no-goes are needles, blood play, any permanent stuff, illegal, scat, and harsh name calling such a slut/bitch etc. (I like more condescending/bullying for humiliation).

I would really like to eventually have 24/7 rules, like a wellness routine that must be followed, as well as sexual rules, and I would also really like to have tasks and such. Be creative!! Like I mentioned above, I'm really into long-term toy use, so wearing a plug for an extended period of time or sleeping with a dildo in my front hole is the sort of things I like, but again, open to trying stuff!!

I have toys myself, such as dildos, butt plugs, vibrators, wands, collar, panties, nipple clamps.

I don't want the sexual side to be everything though, I want to chat about our days and be friends/maybe more depending on how life goes.

Preferably from the UK, online but possibly meet up!! No photos of us at the beginning, but as we get to know each other and build trust, we can discuss photos again. I would also like to in the future, when we fully know and trust each other, post letters and little trinkets and post cards to each other!!

I like anime, a few video games, reading, films, arts and crafts. I also enjoy vlogging and learning new things! I recently watched the Jurassic park films for the first time (not all of them, up until Dominion, I think??) and am now watching a dinosaur documentary hehe. They are so cuteeee!!

I'm studying languages in university (although not very well, I struggle to focus and actually revise - part ADHD and part me). So I would like help with making sure I set time to study everyday.

Oh!! And I have a pet moss ball!! His name is Sherlock!! Hehehe

Maximum age is 30-ish, I would prefer 19-25, but okay with up to 30, possibly older depending on if you're super experienced and the vibe is right. I'm okay with couples/people already in pre-existing relationships messaging as well, just drop me a message and I'll respond if I'm interested in learning more!!

If you're interested please message me and tell me about your experience, what you are looking for in this sort of relationship (what sorta things you enjoy most and stuff), your main kinks, and tell me about some of your interests outside of all this!!

Thank you for reading!!!

Title probably comes off as cuntish, but I'm growing increasingly frustrated with holdings back with partners.

I get off on forced orgasms play and dehumanising sluts, but I dislike CNC. I need to know someone is into all this, otherwise I'll hold back and feel guilty as fuck.

Looking to act out something involving orgasm torture, fisting, and extreme humiliation and degradation.

SCENARIO:

I want to book a hotel and have someone come straight up to my room. The second that door closes, without talking, I start manhandling....

Hooded. Handcuffed and spread eagle. Cunt fully exposed for me to overstimulate, stretch out, and torture. Piss and cum everywhere.

Looking for someone extremely hypersexual and multi orgasmic who could endure several hours.

Saying all that, I'm not full on aggressive. I'm more sensual than anything. I like to take my time and start off gentle.

i have a bookshelf full of theory. i've read the blogs, the forums, the beginner guides, the advanced ones too. i know what a safeword is. i know the difference between a soft limit and a hard limit. i know all the right words.

but knowing and doing are two different things.

i've been too scared to take the leap. too worried i'd pick the wrong person. too embarrassed to admit that for all my research, i have zero real experience. so i've just been waiting. reading. imagining. staying safe on the sidelines.

i'm done with that.

i'm 24, based in london, and i'm looking for a man who actually enjoys teaching. not someone who wants a submissive who already knows every position and every protocol. someone who finds something satisfying in watching a girl learn. someone patient enough to answer stupid questions without making her feel stupid for asking.

about me: i'm 5'9, mixed race, quiet until i'm not. i work a boring office job that pays the bills and drains my soul a little more each day. outside of work i read a lot — fiction mostly, sometimes the dark stuff. i also just wander. put on headphones, pick a direction, see where london takes me. it's the only time my brain shuts up.

physically i'm slim, long legs, short natural hair, a few freckles across my nose that i used to hate and now i don't think about. i don't wear makeup most days. i'm not trying to be anyone other than who i am.

what i'm curious about: structure. rules. being held accountable. the feeling of letting someone else be in charge because being in charge of myself is exhausting. free use appeals to me the simplicity of it, the lack of negotiation in the moment. degradation interests me but only from someone i actually trust, someone who's earned the right to speak to me that way. cnc is something i think about late at night but i know that's not for beginners. that's for later. if we get there.

i'm also curious about switching. not right away. but the idea of being in control sometimes, of being the one giving orders instead of taking them that lives in my head too. i don't know if i'd like it. but i want to find out.

what i need from you: patience. genuine patience, not the kind that runs out after two weeks. kindness underneath the dominance i don't need a cruel dom, i need a firm one. experience, but not the kind that makes you arrogant about it. you should be over 30. i've tried talking to guys my age and it never clicks. older feels safer somehow.

location wise, actual london. not an hour outside. not kent or essex or somewhere i need a train and a plan. i want to be able to meet for coffee on a Tuesday night without it being a whole production.

please don't message me if you're just looking for a one time thing or a quick hookup. that's not what this is for me. i'm not ready to jump into bed with someone on the first meeting. i need to trust you first. that might take weeks or months. if that sounds like too much work, don't waste either of our time.

if you read all of this and thought "she sounds nervous but serious" message me. tell me your age, what part of london you're in, and one thing you wish someone had told you when you were starting out. not a pickup line. not a fantasy. just something real.

low effort gets ignored. i'm shy but i'm not stupid. i'll know if you didn't actually read this.

I am an American passport girl in an open relationship. I will be in London next week and am looking for an experienced master to own me. Please be ready to share photos as I highly value physical attraction in my masters.

Hi, I'm basically looking for a daddy for a short term relationship. Anyone 25 and above and please be experienced. I love being used and being obedient. Let me know when you want to meet, and I'll dress up like the little slut you want me to be. Let's chat and I'll send you my pics