r/BDSMPersonalsUK

Hey boys! I’m 29, blonde, slim build, feminine, do well on dating apps. I live in London, have a fun job and would describe myself as an outgoing introvert.

I’m posting on Reddit because I’m looking for something a little more intense than what Hinge has to offer. In particular, I’m looking for a daddy dom to take care of me.

I’m open to the specific shape this dynamic takes. I love soft doms and sadistic doms and ideally you are a bit of both - someone who will force me down and fuck me like you hate me, then afterwards hold me close and tell me how well I took it. I’m honestly a bit too shy to put what I want on this post but I’m happy to discuss kinks further in DMs.

I’m looking for fun dates - kink is important but I want someone I click with on a vanilla level too. I love reading, shopping, countryside walks, good food, wine bars, philosophy, long yapping sessions and so much more. I’m as sweet and wholesome as I am submissive and kinky. Hopefully you share some of these interests <3

I am open to single professionals aged 28 - 37 who are living in or around London. I am generally looking for men but I’d also be open to playing with the right domme.

If you’re interested, I’d love if you could send me a DM telling me a bit about you. Physical attraction is important to me so please be prepared to exchange photos early (happy to verify). I’m not interested in AI, low-effort messages or anyone who comments ‘sent you a DM’ under this post.

I have a super fun life - come and be a part of it ✨

- M xxx

Please be from Devon or within a 100mileish radius of it, no older than 30s either :)

Looking for someone (soft and gentle, yet very firm but sensual in the bedroom (DDLG?), who would also enjoy babying me) who i can become close with over time and gain trust with you over that period (maybe on video games? I play Roblox, Fortnite and GTA). Then one day you pick me up for a nice aimless car ride or drinks together, you either dr*g me or get me dr*nk (or h1gh), we have a great night together with lots of laughs, you take me back to yours, blindfold me, bound my wrists together, whilst i'm still dr*nk and defenseless (or whatever). I want you to take your time with me, carress my body with your hands or mouth, all whilst trying to make me as terrified as possible (fear play)... (you decide the rest, i haven't got the will to continue typing this tonight 🤣). Be warned tho, I like to put up a bit of a fight (i'm a bit bratty lol).

I'll probably be flooded with hundreds of message requests, so plz bare with me whilst i take a decade sifting through them all T.T

My limits and safewords are to be established before anything!

I’d like to find someone to explore, theoretically and in practice, the ins and outs of power dynamics.

You: smart af, very attractive and fundamentally kind, but also very mean. Someone who might enjoy the idea of keeping a curious, reasonably well-behaved pet.

I’m in a long term relationship and you need to be too.

I want fun, flirtatious and interesting conversation with someone knowledgeable, experienced, firm and engaged. Someone who enjoys teaching as much as I enjoy learning.

Online only for now, there could be potential for more, but no guarantee.

I think you’ll find me to be a keen learner and attractive enough for an online acquaintance.

Happy to answer questions if we click

I am looking for somebody who interests my brain as well as the obvious. I would like to find a FWB that I can see regularly. Distance is not too much of an issue. Please don’t message something boring! Give me something to work with 😂

Hello! ^_^ 🌸
I’m a 32-year-old female 💕my little age is about 3-4
I’m very energetic ⚡, sweet 🍯, loving 💖, lovable 🧸, funny 😂, clumsy 🤭, caring 🌷, helpful 🤍, understanding 🫶, loyal 🐾, honest ✨, and trustworthy 🔐
I'm a Little and puppy 💗
🌼 A little about me 🌼
• 5’5 and on the curvier side 🍑✨
• Alternative appearance 🖤
• Blue eyes 👀🌈
• No tattoos yet but want one 🖋️
• 2 piercings ✨
🏡 Life stuff 🏡
• I don't work due to mental health but I do a lot of craft fairs ✨
• I live with my family 👩‍👩‍👧
💬 Communication 💬
I can communicate and put effort into getting to know someone 🫶
But if you don't put the effort in I stop
🐾 Things I love 🐾
• Playing games 🎮
• Coloring 🎨
• Dimand art🔷
• 3d printing ℨ
• Films and cinema 🍿🎞️
• My Little Pony 🐴
• lego
• Loungefly bags

💌 What I’m looking for 💌
I’m looking for a long-term Daddy who is:
• Sweet 💕
• Loving 💖
• Caring 🤍
• Respectful 🙏
• Understanding 🫶
• Helpful 🌟
• Funny 😂
• Protective 🛡️
• A little strict 😌
• Honest ✨
• Trustworthy 🔐
• Most importantly loyal 🐾
I’m looking for someone who is genuinely serious about this relationship and connection 💞
No games 🚫
No wasting time ⏳
No ghosting 👻
Serious inquiries only please 🥹🤍
I’m tired of putting effort into people who aren’t serious or disappear without communication. I want something real, genuine, loyal, and long-term 🌙✨
If this sounds like you, I’d love to hear from you 🥰

I can be clingy and affectionate, so I’d love someone who enjoys regular contact and making time for each other. If you’ve read this far, tell me your favourite mythical creature—or say “unicorn.” 🦄

If you think we’d get along, I’d love to hear about yourself.
Tell me about your hobbies,
what you’re looking for in a little,
what you enjoy in a dynamic,
and any deal-breakers you might have.
I look forward to getting to know you!

Everyone deserves a chance in my eyes 💕
Fed up of people being given chances and they disappearing if don’t have time to put the effort in just don’t bother

I hope you have a wonderful day ☀️or night 🌙 and find the perfect little princess or prince of your dreams 👑💖

Hello! I'm looking for someone to use me this weekend. Likely tomorrow from the afternoon til night.

Limits: scat, permanent damage

Please tell me your name, age, nearest station, and tell me what you'll do to me.

My god I just want someone to tell me about their day.

Do people not do this anymore? Where has all the romance gone?

I want you to tell me about the apocalyptic morning you've had at work and how incompetent your boss and coworkers are, while I tell you that you're strong and beautiful and intelligent and that things will get better.

I want to hear the same jokes you make every morning about how you cant function without coffee or this month's flavor of tea.

I want to cheer you on when you start a new passion project or celebrate after you nailed that presentation.

I want to listen to the guilty pleasure songs you play on repeat to get you through the tough days, as well as the upbeat soundtracks you blare when your day couldn't possibly get any better.

I want to share a palette and a canvas while we sip on wine neither of us can pronounce.

I want to know your thoughts while we lay awake watching the stars.

I want to know the depths of what terrifies you, and what widens your eyes in wonder.

I want someone who understands that I order water at a restaurant because soda does not taste that good.

I want you to tell me your favorite foods so I can secretly fill up the garbage with my failed attempts, only to surprise you with a masterfully made dish when you get home from one of those long days.

I want you to be as annoyed with current events as I am and but be super excited to vote this year.

I want someone who complains that I have too many plants but will still water them when I forget.

I want someone who can humor the fact that I have short bursts of passion and buys too many things that I don't need.

I want someone that can laugh at the fact that I condemn modern capitalism but still pay for expedited shipping.

I want to wrap our bodies around each other under warm blankets while cool jazz plays softly in the background of a Friday night.

I want someone who will let me bury my head in their arms after I've had a rough day and make sure that I'm OK, because despite being a generally wonderful experience, life can still bring us all down sometimes, and it's OK to be vulnerable.

These days it seems like everyone in the Kink lifestyle skips right to the end, not many people are putting in the time or effort to build the trust and compassion that makes these relationships worth having.

But since this is a BDSM personal I should probably say that I’m dom and you’ll like it

Ultimately I'm looking for a connection before doing anything physical. I am a 30M, taller than average with light skin and greenish-blusish eyes, and I workout as much as I can. It would be nice to meet someone who likes to have a conversation and open to new adventures while also occasionally enjoying the quiet weekends indoors.

So hopefully that gives a clear picture but if it didn't feel free to ask me anything. And I know people don't just jump into deep emotional relationships and that it takes time, so if you were interested I'd ask you send to me a message regarding the title of this post and just tell me how your day has been.

Hi there, as per title I’m looking for a Dominant male figure. Should be 40-50y old. I’m white European petite 160x50kg, serious intentions.
Please reply with a short introduction of yourself or the message will be automatically ignored.

Nikki, 26, married submissive in Newcastle.

Looking for someone with solid experience in bondage who can take me further into predicament bondage, device bondage, strappado, tight hogties and other restrictive positions.

I want to be properly restrained and used, uncomfortable positions, humiliation, degradation, anal, oral, impact, breath play and more are all on the table. Just ask.

Happy to discuss limits and negotiate properly first.

Hello!

I'm a 22f sub working in the tech sector, recently having moved to Cambridge (online is OK though, but it would be nice to meet some day!). I am on the shorter side, I'm a bit skinny, I have ginger hair and blue eyes. I have plenty of experience, but I've recently been craving some kinks that are hard to find. I am generally quite intense, and expect the same from you. I want cruelty, strictness, and deep sadism. I love to suffer, and I need you to love my suffering. But I also want you to be a little bit reasonable and kind of a friend? :p

My kinks generally all revolve around degradation and humiliation. Anything that dehumanises me is generally hot

- I love pain, especially either repeated but quick bursts of blinding, extreme pain, or long drawn out torture.

- I love public stuff, the thrill and fear of being found is hard to beat.

- I love gross stuff, especially piss, scat and vomit. There is nothing more degrading than eating shit.

- Long term denial is an absolute must. Orgasms must be extremely rare and must be earned through great difficulty.

- I am obsessed with bondage, especially when it's long and uncomfortable, a predicament, or somewhere risky. With bondage I love sensory deprivation too, often with my own moans playing in my ears.

I am looking for tasks and rules more than I am looking for real-time sessions.

The specific fantasies that I want to fulfil are the following. If you message me, state which are your favourites! To be clear, I want to make these as real as I possibly can, these are not just dreams! It's just hard to find doms who are interested.

- I want long term uncomfortable or predicament bondage, ranging from 3 hours up to 24.

- I want regular scat tasks, as often as my health can handle. I should have piss and vomit tasks daily, or even several times a day. I love the dirtiness of public toilets.

- I want blackmail. This will come only much later, when we're comfortable with each other and I trust you. Don't message just because you want this one and none of the others.

- I am slightly obsessed with hidden incest stuff, especially around my sister. I can go into more detail individually, since that's not for everyone!

- I love hookup tasks: e.g. making me flash people, requiring a minimum number of orgasms caused within a week/night, etc

If one or more of those is in your wheelhouse hit me up!

I will send pics, but not for the first few days until I decide to stay with you. I will not do face for a few weeks until we decide blackmail is ok. I will however write excellent reports.

I generally have pretty lax limits: anything that doesn't ruin my life (physically, financially, socially, etc) is almost certainly fine. These are soft limits we can re-negotiate later on. If you consider those limits too restrictive for your liking let me know :p You'll get bonus points, but I won't necessarily break them for you :)

We will use a RED/ORANGE/YELLOW/GREEN/GREY based safeword system.

So, if you're a cruel, sadistic bully who wants to make me cry, come and say hi :)

I’m a Bengali British Muslim from London. I wear the hijab and have an age gap & interfaith kink

Inexperienced so need a man to lead & show me ropes

Im looking for online before any meets so I can get to know you :)

Hi all, I'm 21F based in London interested in exploring new kinks and finding out what fits me best as I'm quite inexperienced sexually. I am open to trying anything (I mean everything), and am looking for people to teach me!

I am a very outgoing and adventurous person, quite alternative with my looks (tattoos, kinda alt hair). I'm 5'8, 72kg,

Can't host but open to travel anywhere within a reasonable distance!

Open to meeting people of all ages.

Serious messages only! Happy to provide face verification.

Edit: I've received enough messages so I won't be accepting them now! Maybe in the future I'll return back to this post

Hiya!
I’m looking for a submissive to build a long-term FLR with, someone who wants to obey and be devoted to me. I want this to start in person, not on a screen, regular dates in London/Greater London, showing each other our favourite spots etc. If you can’t meet consistently, we’re probably not the right fit, so don’t message me!

About me:
• Slim but curvy, dark-skinned
• Affectionate, nurturing, occasionally mean, ever so slightly a sadist
• Big on fashion, art, D&D, baking, writing, cooking, and learning languages

I love a needy puppy. Someone who wants to obey, who begs and whimpers, who finds domesticity and devotion genuinely fulfilling. There’s a bit of a Morticia and Gomez Addams thing I’m drawn to, that kind of playful, all-in devotion between partners. Obviously that’s not something I expect on day one, it’s something I want to see build naturally as we get to know each other and grow more consistent, but it gives you a sense of the ‘vibe’ I’m after.

BDSM is a lifestyle for me, not just something that happens in the bedroom. I like rules, titles, protocol, tasks and rituals. I lean toward sadism, bondage, orgasm control, impact play, praise/degradation amongst other things. A sexual relationship is part of the picture, but it isn’t immediate, so if you’re after a hookup, this isn’t that.

I’m also into men who come across capable, put together, almost dominant in their everyday life and turn into a completely different person the second it’s just us. Needy, eager to please, all of that.

Looking for:
• Submissive, aged 25-35
• Monogamous
• Tall
• Able to arrange neutral spaces for play
• Must be able to verify with pictures early, I will do the same

Not looking for:
• PIV
• Toilet play, scat, or anything related
• Switches

Hi, I'm F18 looking for a man who is; able to host, is discreet, clean, open to many things, ideally interested in the long term and is wanting something IRL. I've been described as attractive. I don't have any prior experience but desperately want my first. Please respond if you're serious. Thanks :)

Heya! I'm a receptionist but there obviously isn't much going on. I like to be a bit of a party girl but the single life starts to weigh you down eventually. My type of man is a guy who knows how to treat a girl. Honest, caring, flirty. Someone who will tell me all the things he's kinda ashamed to find hot, plus the more vanilla stuff. I'm looking for a guy who isn't afraid to guess and prod at my insecurities. I like men who are into me, but don't mind being a bit critical, in and out of the bedroom, or a bit of a tease. Girls like me are a dime a dozen, so I'm not expecting much attention after all. You'll probably have me all to yourself. I don't want any kinks to be off limits, and I don't mind if you're a lot older than me. I guess a bit of fatherly disapproval and approval helps with what I'm looking for. Not being able to do much is making me kinda lonely and eat too much, and I love being teased. Come oblige me. I have pretty severe daddy issues. I love it when dominant men make scathing assumptions about me. Feel free to tell me what you think I might be insecure about. I'm also open minded and loooove kinky guys…. So try my boundaries. x

Online only. As the title says, I’m looking for a little bit of excitement in life.

I recently started a new job which has been equal parts demanding, exciting, and occasionally glamorous. But most of the time, it has left me feeling burnt out. These days I’m all polished and professional and, if I’m being honest, I miss being a little more reckless, a little more flirtatious. I miss saying “Yes, Sir” with a different meaning.

What I mean is, we all deserve something to make us survive the weekdays and something to look forward to for the weekend. It can’t be just the rat race.

Besides, after a day of restraining yourself at work, don’t you want to let loose a little bit?

Sex is fun, but my main interest in BDSM lies in the power exchange and mental stimulation. Ideally, I’d like a mix of mentorship, friendship, and good conversation. But if that’s too much to ask, I’ll settle for a white man who looks good in a suit 😔 (In case that was too much to comprehend: Hi, I’m looking for a white Dom who can hold a conversation and is comfortable with consensual raceplay.)

I’m a young professional, into power exchange and humiliation, bit of a know-it-all, and very much in need of someone who can put me in my place.

To show that you can actually read, you can start by telling me what you do (you can keep it vague) and the kinkiest thing you’ve done to date.

Hi, im Daisy! I'm 26, from the UK (will disclose actual location once I'm comfortable with you)
l've been a domme for about 8 years now, l got into it whenever my ex wanted to try it and l've loved it ever since.

What I'm looking for?
I'm looking for a submissive guy to call my own.
My preferred type physical wise is well built, shaved and smooth, handsome in the face.
I like a guy who can hold a conversation, funny, understanding, nice, respectful and wants more than just the sexual side of domming.
I'd prefer to keep it online only for the time being, but if it progresses into something more, then great!

My kinks and limits: I enjoy oil, edging, chastity, ass training a sub, throat training a sub, spit play, lube play, being sloppy, gooners, light feminisation, exhibitionists, bi play.
If you are interested, please feel free to message me with a face pic or have pics on your profile!

Heyy there,
I’m F 25 and have developed an extreme list of interests over the years. I am naturally submissive and like to please men.

I am not looking for anything until the new year but I’m interested to hear whether anyone’s interests match mine perfectly. I wouldn’t be able to live in as a slave but would be open to it long term. I’m very experienced in these things: humiliation, degradation, light/medium impact, human urinal, puke play e.g. messy facefucking, body writing, being whored out (for free), pet play, fin sub, painal/no lube anal.

But really, I want someone to take me to the next level with the below which I haven’t done: enemas, forced weight loss, extreme impact/torture, freeuse, anal and vaginal fisting, gangbangs, DP, triple penetration, double vaginal, double anal, human toilet, blackmail/online exposure, needles/nailing, branding/body mods, huge object insertions, gloryholes, public disgrace, painal, cnc, free use, intox play, domestic chores, misogyny, MFM/being shared, catheterisation, figging, human ash tray, nettle insertions etc.

No animals no minors, nothing that others outside the dynamic can’t consent too

Also, I’m serious about this so no rushing me. I will not be available to begin my training till January. And I have a regular job and friends so anything would need to work around that to begin with too

UPDATE: if the post is up then I’m still looking. thank you to the few people who did read my message. And please do not message asking if I’d like to meet a couple or you’re younger than the age I’ve stated or telling me your trunk size (it’s such a turn off)!I’ve the spent the day at work I genuinely do not have the energy to explain why.

Looking for someone who can be a gentleman and a rogue. Someone who values communication and intimacy with intention and consistency. Spending time together and getting to know someone and being silly and goofy is part of the charm. Not everything has to be perfect but you don’t stop trying. Old school romantic with a soft dom/pleasure dom streak. Being dominant come naturally to you and it’s visible in all parts of you. Additionally you’re seeking a genuine monogamous connection which is for life. I’m an all or nothing woman. You have experience to guide an inexperienced partner with training and guidance. With emphasis on communication, consent and aftercare.

I’m looking for someone who can lead and make decisions with the best intentions. As a man a woman’s submissive isn’t weakness but rather a privilege she has given you. It takes time, effort and devotion to build a strong unit and eventually after spending all day at work I’d love nothing more than letting my partner makes decisions. That kind of trust comes with time, respect and love.

I’m a single BBW and a Muslim. If that’s an issue kindly don’t message me. Organised, chaotic, loyal, thoughtful and cheeky. I work and study so my time is precious and looking for someone who values that. I’m not the loudest person in the room but i take abit of time to trust and open up. I believe things should grown organically between two people but neither should it take years. I do also have a princess side that is very playful and fun. But that part of me is hidden until I get to know you and trust you.

KINK: I will keep that private and for one person only. But I will say I’m not into sadism, degrading, extreme rough sex, anal or choking. I have some many things I wish to explore but only in a secure and safe relationship. My dom would be my partner, safe space and anchor.

Finally, the guy I’m searching for is at least 38 and local to Birmingham. I don’t wish to spend weeks messaging through Reddit or another platform but I want to take this into the real world with the right person. I’ve been let down by people that state ‘oh I visit for work and have a place etc’ but schedules and life can get in the way and cancelled meet ups lead to disappointment. Saying that if you do live further but have actual plans to move within the West Midlands and feel we could make something beautiful and long lasting then please do message me. Please do make an effort with your message and let some of your personality shine through.

Nikki, 26, married submissive.

My husband is off on a two-week lads holiday which definitely means women will be involved, and I want to get my own back by becoming a complete “dungeon” fuck slave while he’s gone.

Looking for someone to use me with uncomfortable positions, humiliation, degradation, anal, oral, impact, spit-roast, breath play and more — just ask.

I'd like photos of how thoroughly I’m being used to be sent to him too.

Everything pre-negotiated with limits and safewords.

Hard limits: no scat, animals or anything illegal.