47 [M4F] Guy's guy with soft center looking for a confident woman in #Arizona
Most people assume they know my personality before I even speak. I’m tall, athletic, muscular, beard, broad shoulders — very stereotypically masculine on the outside. I lift regularly, stay active, and generally come across like the kind of guy who has everything under control.
But there's more to me.
Underneath all of that, I’m actually very soft emotionally. Affectionate, expressive, clingy when I really care about someone, eager to make her happy. Women I’ve dated have jokingly pointed out that there’s something feminine or unusually gentle about me once they really get close to me. Apparently I have “big protective boyfriend” looks with “sweet emotional girlfriend” energy underneath.
I’m very drawn to confident, direct women. The kind that naturally take charge sometimes. Ambitious, opinionated, self-assured, maybe even a little bossy. Women who don’t apologize for their presence and secretly enjoy having influence over a man who outwardly looks like he should be the dominant one.
The weird part is I usually attract the opposite — women who want a very traditional masculine leader type all the time. And once we're close all the softness- the emotional closeness, reassurance, affection and playful teasing comes out and the masculine on the surface takes a backseat.
Not looking for perfection or some fantasy dynamic. Mostly looking for genuine connection, chemistry, friendship, mutual comfort, and someone who understands that masculinity and softness can exist in the same person.
If you feel a connection in what I wrote, I’d like to hear from you.