Feeling like sub slowly start to ghost me
Okay, I’m not entirely sure where to start.
A few weeks ago, I started talking to a sub here on Reddit.
In my post, I mentioned that I’m a soft domme / mommy domme. I don’t really see myself as the super strict hardcore domme type, but more as a caregiver who tries to bring out the best in her sub and fulfill his wishes — even if sometimes not in the way the sub expects.
At the beginning, everything went great! We immediately clicked with each other.
We talked a lot and quickly built trust.
So I decided that I’d really like to meet him in real life as well. Flights booked, hotel booked. There’s now only about a month left until then.
But ever since we arranged this “date,” I’ve had the feeling that he’s distancing himself.
I’ve already invested a lot of emotions into this, think about him often, and spend a lot of time thinking about everything throughout the day. Since his birthday is shortly after the trip, I even started thinking about what kind of gift I could bring him. So I’m already pretty deeply invested in the dynamic.
But I don’t think he is.
The contact became less and less frequent. The rules we set up have been increasingly neglected, and he barely reaches out anymore. At this point, I’m lucky if I get one message a day. I already brought it up to him and told him that I’d understand if he simply wasn’t interested anymore. That he shouldn’t feel obligated to me just because I’m coming to the UK.
He said he just has a lot going on right now and can’t find time for me. But I keep thinking — if you’re truly interested in a person, in building a connection with them, don’t you make that time somehow?
To me, it feels more like he wants to keep me as an option.
And I’m slowly starting to feel nothing but sad and exhausted...