u/Both-County-9561

I’m north county if it matters. Don’t think it does. Looking for a sexting partner willing to share pics eventually. Must have connection first. No crazies, scammers or sellers! Ahaha!

Got into major argument this after explaining to her that I’m hurting and that when she showed me affection and actually touched me (first time in six months) and then the next day she asked me to work from home so we could have a nooner, which never happened. Then she promised again after dinner, which never happened, then again the next morning which… surprise, surprise never happened. Then the next morning I decided to do what I’ve learned the hard way not to bother. I asked if she’d be open to sex. She, without even pausing offered a handjob instead. I was crushed. With that I knew the previous two days were fake. She never meant any of it.

Whenever I bring this topic up, she automatically accuses me of only caring about sex. To which I try to tell her how important it is to me and that it’s how I feel loved. Without that I feel like her roommate, or her handyman. I fear there’s no hope and this is how the rest of our lives will be.

TLDR: been married 24 years. Have one grown kid who left home four years ago. Have always had mismatched libido, but I used to be ok with the frequency. She’s in perimenopause and has ZERO desire for about a year now.