u/Brilliant_Tea_6038

(My post was deleted somewhere else so i'm reposting here 💢)

Hello guys, my close female friends and I (25F) were discussing our sexual fantasies (we vary from experienced to virgins..) and were wondering how potential partners might perceive them because honestly we worry how we might come off. Are our fetishes weird? I know the whole "talk it out" thing, but courage is easier talked about than acted upon. You might say each guy is different, but we want to know what YOU (the commenter) think, like exactly what you think :p . So this post will contain two parts, gathering the points that our group agreed on: 1/ things you do that turn us on (like so much) 2/ The demeanor we have during sex (like your effect on us).

What turns us on: (this might get embarrassing, it's pretty explicit) :

• your fingers/arms: veiny and strong; we just wanna bite/suck on them (are you guys okay with that? does us doing that turn you guys on too? yes? not so much?)
• when you get a boner while making out/cuddling
• when you just stop to look us and smile, we breathe the same air and you caress our hair
• when you moan while kissing !!! and give repeated smooches (the cutesy affection)
• when you take your time/tease: guys, the whole gliding your d across our vaginal opening and tapping the clit with it, or just any caressing down there before inserting: please do it more, it's insanely hot
• when you spit on it while thrusting or during foreplay when things get dry
• the grinding thrusting: when you thrust with this wavy motion and not just a straight in and out, nah more like a body roll from torso to groin, bruuuh (sorry but most girls appreciate this more with abs: the whole vibe gives off skillful and athletic)
• when you are not silent :=); moaning, whimpering (to an extent), breathing loud and heavy: please do it more, i know some guys are focused on lasting longer. Indeed, breathing helps with lasting longer and moaning just makes you let go and gets you in THE MOOD, making orgasm stronger. A lot of us were shy at first to be vocal, but once we started it made a huge difference in letting go and orgasm quality
• when you orgasm: the shivering, shaking, holding tighter, noises and just anything uncontrollable is just heaven to witness
• eye contact: when the guy does something that turns you on (the first insertion, the thrusting, the clit stimulation) and you raise your eyes to meet his: that moment is just intense, or when you've been grinding for a while (missionary) and he says "look at me" or something and you guys grind with eye contact for a while : 👍 (however we're all pretty scared to look at y'all's eyes while orgasming, our faces get weird sometimes)
• being attentive to our pleasure: taking a moment away from vulva/vaginal stimulation to caress our inner thighs: that's a big one, please take your time caressing and kissing all over. (bruh the hand on one cheek with the thumb caressing right in the middle of intimacy makes one's mind mushy) emotional and passionate sex is just out of this world. imo seeing a guy being attentive, passionate, emotional just gives me a heartbeat down there (besides the butterflies and the heart clench :p ) (idk if this is the equivalent to your d pulsating, but the muscles around our vaginal opening clench really fast when we see something arousing)
• expressing what you want us to do in the moment: "kiss me", "look at me", guiding our hands to where you want to be touched: it's the perfect mix between soft and dominant

I came to realize besides the things that have to do with one's physiology and gender, the same things that turn us on also turn you on, but we still want to know what you think, like exactly.

Our demeanor:

• we might cry, please don't freak out: and it could be due to a few things (none of us has serious trauma so i can't comment on that) BUT it could be because: 1/ we had a stressful week and we're toughing it up, and sex helped us release because it was a safe place for us to let go (usually after one heck of an intense orgasm). 2/ you guys were just so sweet and we can't put into words how much we appreciate how attentive you are or how precious all this is or how much we're aroused by your every detail (from the way you breathe, move, kiss, caress). One of us had a guy be so sweet during intimacy and expressive just to her liking, her eyes kept watering and she can't even get him out of her mind. 3/ trauma i guess? 4/ pain (but that's not what i'm addressing here)
• we might cry then turn into a laughing mess, again please don't freak out: 1/ it could be an involuntary thing or 2/ we're laughing at ourselves for crying or whimpering or having weird reactions: please bear with us
• the whimpering face: we can't help it the sensation is too strong but it's fun! (some guys said they don't like it because the woman looks like she's not having fun others said it's a huge turn on)
• the majority of us adore getting down on you and will be aroused by it (like end up masturbating/moaning/sneaky smiles/weird breathing): please don't mind us when we transform into lustful creatures and as much as we would like to surprise you with new things please teach us kindly :p
• my virgin friend's question: she's waiting for marriage, and expressed worrying about how would her man perceive her: expressing her desires, coming off as clumsy rather than enthusiastic and playful, i guess overall she's too afraid to let go because it doesn't fit her virgin label? bruh
• we might have the "gaze" (the one Nala gave Simba) during the intimacy and the morning after, cuz we liked the whole thing, but it might be a shy one + lip bites (do you also like it when we bite our lips when aroused?)
• What we look for from men in sex is: being handled well; pretty much the guy mastering our body: what we like, not like, his effect on us, him being a safe space. We will pivot from: 1/ being wild and wanting to experiment (depends on how safe and validated he makes us feel to have the courage to let go), 2/ to wanting him to set the pace and lead while we're like: oh.my.god

Anywho guys! Tell us what YOU would like to see from us overall: is it your effect on us? besides enthusiasm is submission a big thing for you (like primal stuff?) tell us also what you think about the points revealed au dessus, and open discussions down below! Mouah