My wife and I are both in our early 30's, have been together for almost a decade, and have a kid. I'm a feeder, my wife is a FA. When we first met, she was 125 pounds (5'1) and I was 150 (5'11). Over the years and thanks to a pregnancy, my wife got up to 200 pounds. Nowadays she's at 175, but I'll circle back to that.
I recently participated in a workplace weight loss competition where the grand prize was $1500, so I put all my effort into trying to win. I dropped from 200 to 175 in two months (the duration of the competition) but unfortunately came in second place and won nothing. I tracked my macros, cut out sugar+pop+bread+pasta, basically starved myself and worked out daily for at least two hours. All of that work for nothing. I felt very depressed that I did all of that work and still didn't win, and on top of that, my wife told me I was starting to look sickly thin. Within three weeks of just eating normally, I had regained the 25 pounds I lost. Within another month, I gained another 15 pounds.
This past weekend, my wife and I were driving downstate to go meet with some family. She told me about how glad she is that I'm done with that weight loss competition, and that I got way too skinny during it. I then mentioned how I've regained all 25 pounds and an additional 10, she immediately said how good I look with the weight on me. I said with how she's been cooking lately, there's more where that came from. She then said "good, that's the plan". I was confused, did she say what I think she just said? She then doubled down on her comments.
"I think you look so much better and happier with the extra weight on you. You got way too skinny during this weight loss competition, and I like you with more meat on your bones." I then said if I started getting too fat, please warn me so I can go back to dieting and working out. She told me that she's absolutely not going to do that, because she wants to feed me and see me get fatter. She wants me to weigh at least 300 pounds by Christmas!! My mind was blown, my wife was actually a feeder this whole time?
I had never really considered actually gaining weight myself until just recently, but I've gotta say, I love how obsessed my wife is with my growing body. Receiving belly rubs before sex when you're too full is blissful. I'm constantly grazing all day on snacks that she packs for me, and she's consistently making fattening meals and giving me extra servings without asking me. She won't have sex with me unless I chug a quart of heavy cream, so I've been doing my part and chugging at least one, sometimes two every day. Our sex life is incredible now, it's hilarious because it suffered dramatically when I was losing weight. I should have put two and two together. All of her ex boyfriends were all 350+ pounds, I shouldn't be surprised that she wants me to get fat now after almost a decade together.
My wife is currently at 175, but she told me that she'll start gaining again for me as soon as I hit 250 pounds. Her ideal max weight is 250, but she wants to have the contrast and always feel smaller than me. I don't know how I got so lucky. I'm so excited to hit 250 and watch her body grow with mine!
TLDR; My wife who I thought was just an FA was actually a feeder all along.