Hotwifing in real life doesnt seem as fun?
Its my first time ever posting on reddit so please forgive any formatting errors, i just needed advice.
I've always liked the idea of a hotwife or being a stag on a fantasy level. My partner knows about this and is okay with the fantasy but on different terms, she gets off more on the power dynamic and 'i can do what i want' aspect. Personally i always felt a bit 'excluded' due to this.
We decided that online hotwifing was fine and she has hinge currently. So on a phonecall she was telling me about this one man she matched with, but as she kept talking i realized that it was less overtly sexual for her and more so she was enjoying the flirting and getting to know him part, almost very similar to how you would start a relationship.
I guess i felt a bit off about the whole thing? Sort of like wow that's a whole entire person and she's getting to know him as a person (as opposed to how it felt reading stuff on r/hotwifetextmessages1 lol). I guess i need advice or something like can someone tell me why i feel this way and whether this is how it works? Maybe advice on how to approach her with how i'm feeling and such.
TLDR: partner started hotwifing and i feel excluded? It feels less sexual fantasy and more she just gets to do what she wanted