r/HotwifeAdvice

How do you guys feel about this? I'm a third for a couple, we've only been seeing each other for a few weeks. So far it's just been the wife and I having sex, while the husband watches. We've been planning to have MFM threesome soon. Husband and I are both straight so we'd only be doing things sexual with the wife. One of the things I want to try is for the wife to give her husband a blowjob and then swallowed his load completely . And then I would like to make out with the wife right after, tongue and everything. I'm not into men at all and not interested in playing with him. But something about this particular act turns me on and I would like to try to see how it feels. How often do you guys do this? Does the taste bother you or does it turn you on?

I’ve been using dildos for years with my wife and as of recent she now is taking them easily and loves it and wants them often.
I think she is starting to want more than my dick, it took years to get here. And now she loves it and craves it.

So my question is did anyone else start here and did it lead to the real thing?

She is really getting off hard on these big dildos and taking them easy now.

I could only imagine what a real guy will do to her, she would be so in love with getting fucked like that.

Me 26F and my bf 28M started exploring sharing us with others and we started loving it too much.

We used to do threesome only with known faces because we were bit afraid to unknown faces as a new comer into this lifestyle.

On a club night, my bf met with an incredible smart guy and my bf knew that I would like him. He mentioned about me and seeing me on phone, that stranger liked me a lot. And we invited him at our place.

It was out of the expectations the fun he gave me. My bf understood that and asked me should we ask him again by following week. I told him yes please. Keep his details.

And after few rounds by a month, we both three became so close to each others that it would be hard to guess for people who is actually my bf when I am being fucked by two of them together. Our sex chemistry was insane, specially with him, licking each other for long times, swallowing each other creams without hesitation, kissing for 15/20 minutes even after we finished our sex, and we never used to be tired doing so mentality until our body couldn’t able to stand more.

I hope u understand. My bf was also happy seeing me so much happy to be eaten by that stranger. I was so happy to be fucked by him that we stopped calling my other friends for MFM anymore. My bf never felt angry on him or me rather he helped me always. He never even asked me why always him, not other guys you had before.

In the meantime we had some FMF too, and I never becomame jealous seeing my bf enjoying and eating other ladies, so it was fair from both side.

But problem arised when one morning I got a call from a lady and she claimed it was her husband, they even have babies. That stranger bastard lied with us saying he is single for multiple months. I met with that lady, she is so so heartbroken that it started killing me seeing of her crying face.

I called that bastard, he just said sorry. That lady asked me how many times he has been with us and foer how long. To make her sadness a bit less, I tried to say false claiming just once. But she showed me my photo where I am eating her husband ***k in a very wild mood swallowing his creams, that was so so disrespectful moment for me. Although on that photo my face was half, but it was cleared to her that it was me.

She told me that she has some photos of us that she cant even look at for second time, her heart is broken.

She told definitely those doesn’t looking like 1st time sex. I told her sorry, and mentioned everything what her husband told us about being beginning. I showed him our old chat.

It has been a bit but still we cant stop thinking about that.

It was the last time we had threesome with a stranger. Yes we do often now but only with known faces. I am really afraid to explore new faces although I really want, my bf too.

My wife (38F) and I (39M)have roleplayed the idea of another guy joining us for quite a while (years), but it’s always stayed as fantasy. We’ve never actually taken any steps toward making it real.
The other night she asked me, “Why are you so obsessed with seeing me with other guys?”
The thing is, I don’t actually think I’m obsessed with the idea of her being with another man. For me, it’s more about exploring fantasies together, pushing boundaries as a couple, and sharing something that’s exciting because we’re experiencing it together. I didn’t really know how to explain that in the moment, so I just kind of brushed the question aside.
Now I’m wondering if she asked because she’s genuinely curious, worried, testing the waters, or maybe trying to understand what it means to me.
I’d like to revisit the conversation, but I don’t want it to come across like I’m trying to convince her to do something she’s not comfortable with. I’d rather have an honest discussion about what the fantasy means to each of us and whether it’s something that should stay a fantasy or ever become reality.
Has anyone had a similar conversation with their partner? How did you explain the appeal without making it sound like it was all about wanting to see your partner with someone else? And if you’ve successfully moved from fantasy to reality (or decided not to), what helped you make that decision together? I’m not a “I’m a cuckold let’s find you a bull” sort of person, far from that but the thought of us introducing another person/stranger into our dynamic really turns me on.
I’d really appreciate any advice or experiences.

LA Couple.
First time posting here — excited to explore this with my wife!
Hey everyone, this is our first post as we start dipping our toes deeper into the lifestyle. My wife and I are looking for a good-looking massage therapist (certification not required) who she can see regularly when I’m away for work. (I work out of state often)
She’s especially drawn to someone with an exotic look — maybe a Puerto Rican or similar vibe — who’s naturally passionate, affectionate, and loves pleasing a woman. I’ll happily cover your time and services. In return, all we ask is that you’re very clean, professional, respectful to both of us, and genuinely passionate. ( you can be married or single)
I promise you’ll love her — she’s absolutely stunning, super fit, petite blonde with a great ass, an amazing smile, and the kind of warm, captivating personality that just draws you in. She’s 36 but easily passes for 30 or younger.
If this sounds like you (or someone you know), please shoot me a message so we can chat more and see if it’s a good fit. We’re really looking forward to finding the right guy and making some great memories soon!
Thanks for reading, and feel free to ask any questions. 😁

What’s a good way to tell if guys or couples are in the lifestyle when on a vacation in a new place. Also what are good ways to ask if someone is clean without killing the mood

I will jump to topic directly. Me 26F and my bf 28M do threesome with known person only, with friends and some close colleagues and never done with a relative before.

It is from my cousin who is asking me. She is 30F, we have very close relations. She knows about out fantasy on threesome fun and aware of we often do it. Recently she had divorce and she wants some fun she never witnessed.

My bf would love to do cause he like women older than her and my cousin actually a stunning lady. Also, we choose always experienced women for FMF and young men for MFM.

But I am afraid she is very closed to us, and so far I never thought her like this way. I mean I dont know how much I will make myself heat for her even if I like girls although, after all she is my cousin. And for any other reasons, should we stay out of cousin or any relatives on doing threesome or sharing partner??

Leave your advice or text me pls, highly appreciated!!

We are just getting started.

I am in a very healthy relationship with my husband sexually and emotionally as well.

I set a boundary where I only meet some athlete or pro kind of person as a hotwife because I feel this will be the right way to keep your standards high.

The problem is this will narrow down our fun part very rarely and my husband insists ( through health discussion) on relaxing that rule

Am I really picky or am I correct in my choice?

Edit 1 : please stop DMing me and reply here . It will benefit the community as well

Update for clarification: my main reason is my husband is already way too good in bed so why waste my energy with some random guy

Pro athletes are good in bed ( proven scientifically ) , they can only give extra pleasure

Am I the only one getting turned on watching my wife go topless in public? For us it’s a massive turn on, we love how everyone one breaks their neck when she passes by with her huge tits on the beach. Last year we even had a stranger woman asking for permission to touch them. Do you guys let your wives go topless in public?

So we are starting to talk about it more how’d we actually feel about letting another guy fuck her and we get excited but also scared at the same time especially finding someone that respects the both of us any advice??

So I’ve been married to my husband for a year now and everything has been amazing! But like I think most women here can relate, I’ve always had fantasies that aren’t exactly traditional or socially acceptable usually I just read through stories or watch videos here on Reddit to get it out because it’s an embarrassing topic lol which brings me to my point! My husband asked me to tell him what my biggest fantasy was as he wants to know how he can be better or expand our experience in the bedroom. Which he was honestly coming from a very sweet place because he wanted to know what he can do for me in a way that makes me his priority. Anyways I wrote him out my fantasy because I wouldn’t be able to say it out loud without literally dying 🥲 and well he didn’t run for the hills which is a good sign, idk if he knows how to react yet but he’s been being supporting and asking a lot of questions! Idk where I’m going with this I just obviously can’t really tell anyone else about it lol, thanks for reading and if you have any idk tips or advice on idk anything regarding this kink I’m all ears!

This might come across really wrong and I don't mean it to but it's something iv struggled with and I'm interested to get the opinions of those who also enjoy the hotwife lifestyles and have done it for a while.

My wife and I are still really new to this and currently it's a bit of fantasy role play with toys but also she's actively on Reddit, sharing nudes, posting on hotwife subs and chatting to other men. No physical meet ups but dipping our toes into the play side. She mainly plays when I'm away with work which is a regular occurrence and we have found it to be extremely hot and has made welcome back sex very good!

However I have a strange feeling in the back of my head that might just be ego or something but I keep sitting there thinking

(yeah this is hot, yeah I'm turned on but.. we're not the type of people to do all this?)

My wife and I have been together 13 years, married for 2, we have kids, own our house and to all our family and friends we are the couple that just drift through life on our family bubble, we don't drink and don't party but enjoy our holidays and living life with nice experiences.

In a non egotistical way I'm probably classed as successful in my career as I run a multi national sales company at the age of 33 and thus we do not want for much financially and my wife has a comfortable job which she does to socialise and earn us some pocket money for the holidays etc.

I just find something odd about thinking we are so stable and in most aspects not the type for anything risky or outlandish but then behind the bedroom door were sharing nudes of the wife, having sex with all assortment of toys and dirty talking about threesomes and watching her fuck other men... Is it just me been pathetic, is this normal? Does it always stay?

I can only explain it as weird lifestyle post nut clarity 🤣

Wife will be traveling again next week. She has plans to potentially meet with a guy and see if something progresses from there. This would be her first time sleeping with another man. She is nervous and excited and wants to make sure i am involved in some way.

Her thought is to call me when they go up to the room and put the phone down, so i can hear everything. Sounds really hot, anyone else done this?

In the past I (M26) tried to get my gf (F25) into the lifestyle, she has sexted with a guy on vacation one time and fantazised about him when we had sex.

After this she seemed to not be into it so much anymore, and it felt like I was pushing her so I quit trying her to try the lifestyle.

Now after a while, she has started to bring up some things again. She has started talking about some male coworkers of her, she dresses more sexy, she likes it when she sees men looking at her.

This week one of her coworkers asked to go to dinner together. She told me, she wants to, but only if Im okay with it.

I am okay with it, in fact she has a very sexy dress with cleavage and short skirt. I would like it if she wore this for dinner.

But am I pushing again if I ask her to wear this? Should I just say its alright and dont make a bigger deal out of it? Am I getting my hopes up to high?

My wife and I have been together for 11 years(married for 9) and my wife has known about my cuckolding kink pretty much that entire time. At first she didn't understand and to be fair at the time I didn't really know how to articulate why it interested me and turned me on and she immediately shut down the idea. A few years ago she opened up to it and told me about her past hookups during sex and told me she's willing to try and keep an open mind about it going forward.

Earlier this week she found past web searches and saw my Reddit history browsing cuckolding/hotwife content. At first she thought I was looking to cheat but I explained to her that part of what turns me on is that a lot of these women are just everyday wives that enjoy posting about their adventures. The next day she was really horny and told me that she doesn't know when but she's willing to try fucking another guy and she's really curious about it. Over the past couple of years she's often requested using her Shane Diesel dildo and it seems like everything is finally starting to click for her. I've always told her she needs someone bigger, I'm below average and I'm constantly slipping out of her and when she's turned on she gets super wet. This toy of hers fits her like a glove and she's told me a lot of her past hookups including her last FWB before we started dating were very well hung.

She gave me permission yesterday to post some pictures of her and I showed her all of the comments and she was stunned at all the positive comments. She's a BBW and has struggled with body image issues and she thought a lot of the guys that commented were really sweet. She made a Reddit account and is interested in posting more and is very interested in trying another guy once and seeing where we go from there. Yesterday we even played while she was checking out hung guys on Reddit and was so worked up and turned on by all the massive cock she was seeing.

Can anyone suggest any tips for her when posting and where to go to chat with other men? Also are there any apps or sites to find a third? Sorry if my post is all over the place but a lot has happened over the past few days that I can't believe we have arrived at this moment.

She's the one who mentioned cuckolding, and now she says she's unsure and scared, and won't really discuss more than why. How do I get her to realize the advantages of it and her fun in this?

I talked to my wife about chatting online with people in the lifestyle or just other men and at first seemed interested but has since pulled back on that.
Told me that if I need it we can do a supervised thing where I can chat and explore but she needs to see everything. Not sure what path I should chose

I want to start by saying not much actually happened in this interaction, this is more about my reaction to it.

My wife has put on a little weight recently which she is mortified by, and has not been feeling herself. Honestly most of it has gone to her chest so I’m hardly complaining. Anyway she has been suggesting things that might boost her confidence because she has not felt like herself- things like taking boudoir shots for us.

We were working from home together and she was messaging a distant colleague on zoom. It was towards the end of the day and he began getting flirty- deniably flirty not quite crossing the line but very flirty anyway. And she began teasing me saying oh should I flirt back? He seems to like me? We began a game of chicken where at one point she took a topless pic and asked if I should send it to him and, to my surprise, I said “I wish you would “

Now at that point she chickened out and deleted the photo because it was too close to home. However afterwards between us was amazing. So I’ve realised that if she wanted to be had I’d probably just let it happen. But also I’m not sure how to explore this while she isn’t feeling good about herself and of course I don’t want to cross her boundaries. It is not impossible she’d do it just to please me but honestly I don’t want that- I want her to be pleased. I want to see her inspire men or women (she is bi) and feel good about herself but it would just take one arsehole to ruin her confidence forever. Like this has really unlocked something in me and I’m not sure what to do.