r/HotwifeAdvice

Hello all, burner account for obvious purpose but I’m a 25F married for 1 year to my husband 26M who I have been with for 7 years and we have only had sexual encounters with each other till this lifestyle.

After marriage, he opened up about his fantasies and asked me to read into it which I did and enjoyed teasing him about it. We would roleplay with toys and we thought it was good for spicing up our sex life.

I changed my wardrobe choices and he got a bit angry at times but maintained that he was just not used to me dressing that way. We talked about boundaries and rules which we followed and 2 days ago was when we bit the bullet and had a threesome.

After which, he became very cold and scolded me after the guy left for being someone’s slut. We haven’t spoken much and I can’t speak to anyone in my circle about it either (Asian culture). Can anybody please tell me if I did anything wrong or how can I fix things?

We are slowly getting into this lifestyle and have children. For those who have children as well, do you just plan your rendezvous well in advance and find a babysitter while you’re out? Or how do you navigate the need for fun for both of you, but also not involving kids. May be a dumb question but just trying to figure out logistics.

ladies what do you do to ”scratch the itch” for your husband that is very turned on by the idea of you being a hotwife?

I’m 38F my husband 36M, he expressed his desire of me becoming a hotwife 10+ years ago. His timing and approach wasn’t great and turned me off. deep down I’m actually very turned on by the idea of being worshipped by multiple men but just can’t get over the ick factor my husband has created. I want to take baby steps and explore his fantasy.

We all have our rules and most rules are pretty standard, esp when people are just starting out or are safety related. e.g. I wouldn't let her go alone to someone else's house and I am pretty firm on no emotional connections. But, has anyone ever had something that she wanted to do and asked and it was an outright no? Or something common in the Lifestyle but you were against?

My wife and I have been together for 7 years now and she had a previous marriage with another man who she had a child with. The other day she went to their normal scheduled custody exchange and said he was extremely flirty with her. My wife doesn’t typically go to their custody exchange due to her work schedule but needed to on this day. As it’s is summer, she was wearing small tight shorts that did show her ass off in a nice way and a lower cut shirt.

She came home and was extremely horny and started to suck my cock while telling me that her ex was filtering with her and that he kept staring at her boobs. She told me that he lingered at her car for a while and she even found an excuse to completely bend over to pick something up and said she purposely put her ass in his face to tease him.

She sucked me and begged me to let her sleep with him again. This was all mostly fantasy talk but we have also been in a hotwife/cuck relationship in the past and is something that we both fantasize about together.

She’s now going to go again to this weekend custody exchange and we’ve been picking up a more revealing set of clothing for her.

Now, fantasies aside, has anyone actually hooked back up with an ex on this space for fun? How did it go?

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We may be an anomaly but just wanted to share how it was still a positive experience but just not for us.

Took years to build up the day..Vetting in itself was just a bit much for me going thru guys so they can have my wife started as fun then started feeling like a chore dealing with different personalities of thirds from the arrogance, fakes to the pic collectors! Once we finally found someone we agreed on everything was cool I just didn't like the need to provide a third with attention, which was just my selfishness.

Once we had the hotel and time set everything went well but during the act I could sense my wife's uncomfortable. Later after we talked learned my lack of enthusiasm of over enjoyment during the session made her feel like she was just having sex and cheating but I just wasn't turned on but I wasn't angry just realizing I liked the idea of how sexual we had become but sharing her seemed like zero pleasure for me..

Although his dick was bigger he lasted a few minutes, wife didn't cum and stated she would've preferred to just have sex with me at a club while ppl watched as we did leading up to explore.

Overall happy we tried but so much work for lackluster moment. Since our sex life is skyrocketed and have turned to pretty adventurous exhitbionist

Looking to try to get our feet wet for the first one with someone we don’t know. Is a bar still the best place and wear something sexy or online a better choice? 32 female

My wife and I have been exploring the idea of a Hotwife relationship and her meeting other guys. Over the weekend her and her single friend went out to dinner and the bar for drinks after. My wife said she started the conversation with a guy and it grew to both of them talking to him. My wife explained our situation to him and he was cool with it. Her friend would also be tagging along back to his place. She texted me the address on where to meet them and that they were on the way home.

Like an idiot she was drinking and driving and got pulled over. My wife was arrested for a dui and I had to come get her friend and potential 3sum partner and take them home. Now I’m out upwards of $5000 and still haven’t fulfilled our fantasy.

Where the trouble for me comes in is what if it did happen and I was there. Am I just supposed to watch her and her friend get fucked by this dude and not be involved. We both realized we have some talking about rules and boundaries to do before anything happens.

Either way we are taking a little break from the Hotwife thing and dealing with court proceedings. Fear not we will be back sooner than later and I will post more updates.

Any HW couples have any luck at bars in the Downtown/WH area? Heading there this weekend and looking for spots. We do not use the apps. Thanks!

Hello! I’m a younger guy starting to get into the life style and wanted to ask for advice from anyone with experience.

What are the signs or cues that a couple or a hotwife might want you to approach them because generally a woman wearing a ring or with their partner throws me off and I wouldn’t approach them. I’ve had a few experience with couples online but not irl yet. Any advice would be appreciated!

First-time poster here. I’m M34 and my wife (mother of our 2 children) is F35. She is my only sexual partner, and we have a deeply loving and monogamous marriage for the last 8 years and been a couple for 14 years. She has had previous relationships before we met.

For roughly ten years, I have had a strong fantasy about her being with other men. What excites me is her being intensely desired and pleasured, but also my own jealousy, her becoming dominant, making comparisons and controlling what I am allowed to see or do. In my fantasies I still want to be close to her like holding her hand, kissing her and following her instructions while she makes me jealous and proud fucking another man. She is the sexiest woman I know of.

I had never told her because I feared she might lose respect for me or think she was not enough. Then she accidentally read a private ChatGPT conversation where I had discussed my hotwife kink in immense detail. I do not know if I was a coward and was hoping for this to happen as we do share account but she genuinly never reads previous chats so yeah it was easy to forget to delete it.

She wrote to me and sent a screenshot of the chat and asked what is this? OMG... that feeling ..embarrasment,tingly feeling in stomach and nervousness!

We talked about it over video as soon as I could get to my hotel room (I'm on a businesstrip) and her reaction was far better than I could ever have imagined. She was warm, accepting and did not think I was strange. I made it clear that it was a fantasy, not a demand and that her pleasure is the main turnon for me.

She said that she currently feels she can only be with one person and worries that actually sleeping with someone else could change our relationship in a way she could not reverse. I completely respect that. She also told me that when she masturbates she has only thinks and fantasize about me and she dont know if she even can think of somebody else. And maybe biggest fair is that if she is with somebody else that means she is moving on from me as she always have been faithful to one partner.

But she was open to roleplay, wanted to read more about the fantasy and *most excitingly* there was this unmistakable mischievous sparkle in her eyes while we talked. I cannot describe how relieved, happy and turned on that made me feel. The secret is no longer between us, and somehow sharing it has made me feel even closer to her.

We have only just begun exploring this and are not planning anything real I suppose. For now, I imagine fictional stories, playful jealousy, her teasing and maybe lite dominating me, and perhaps using toys together. This talk literally took place 2 days ago and I will be back home in approx 9 days. I am so looking forward to it. She mentioned today that and old man gave her an compliment for her body but I think it was innocent telling of her day.

For couples who started in a similar place:

- What are your best tips for our first roleplay experiences?

- How did the wife discover what she genuinely enjoyed in the fantasy?

- Did you always expect it to remain fantasy, or did it gradually become real?

- Based on how positively she reacted, do you think there is a realistic chance we might eventually want to explore it for real or is it far too early to read anything into that sparkle?

Whatever happens, I mostly wanted to share how incredibly happy I am that the woman I love reacted with curiosity rather than judgement. I have been so horny ever since and feel like a teenager again. English is my 2nd/3rd language so please have understanding if something is worded weirdly.

No regrets, just some big feelings and would like to talk it out. 34F and 33M in New Jersey. Wife finally connected with someone this weekend after a few years of slow build-up. Holy shit! Didn't realize how weird it would be to actually do this and not have anyone to talk to about it. Hit me up but be sure to just tell me a little about yourself. Don't care which side of this you're on, but I'd love to be "forced" to relive it to another bull.

I wish there were mixers or meet ups at casual venues that let people mingle amongst each other, flirt, get to know, etc. Are there any around? In LA?

How did any of you couples find a regular bull? Im looking for a boyfriend for my wife. How did any of you couples find success? I'd love to know.

Guest is coming over for a second time—she really enjoyed the first experience with him and is already pretty comfortable around him. Any fun ideas for making the night a bit more exciting or memorable this time?

Temporary account. My(40f) husband(42m) explained about this lifestyle nearly 2 years ago. We have been married for 15 years and trust each other to the core. I had casual sex few times before marriage but I'm the first and the only one for my husband. He has a low drive and small size. Though sex is non-existent for the past few years, I made peace with my current life. My husband has been encouraging me to try outside for the past 2 years. He wants me to play solo and explain him afterwards.

Initially, I said No. Over time I started enjoying dirty talks between us and started listening to romantic stories.

Now I want to try but am afraid of consequences and the religious beliefs.

In the place we are, there aren't clubs or similar places. We don't have the luxury of travel or strangers. One person I could think about is an ex from college. He still likes me as we talk/flirt but nothing more. He is married and his wife will never accept this.

If you have faced similar situation, how will you react? What will you do?

Why Did That Turn Me On? (Ch.1&2)

Chapter 1

So there was a time that I lived with my girlfriend and my friend. And after a while of living together, I slowly started to fantasize and imagine my girlfriend sucking his cock or like me coming back home and seeing them making out.

About two months into us living together, he saw her boob for the first time. So me and my girl were sitting at the couch and she just came out of the shower so she was in her rope and as we sat there on the couch and talked I could see that her boob and nipple was slowly getting revealed as she was moving. A few moments afterwards, I could hear the front door open up meeting my friend would’ve just returned home. As I saw her nipple showing and my friend come closer, I started getting a little turned on by the thought of him seeing her nipple. After that, he actually walked into the living room and we talked a little and I noticed him glancing at her boobs meaning he must’ve seen her nipple. It was turning me on so much, my girl just sitting there on the couch and he’s watching her nipple in front of me.

And that was the first time I thought to myself… am I a cuck?

Chapter 2

I couldn’t stop thinking about it.

A couple days later a couple of our friends came over. It was just a normal night with friends. Nothing much happened. But then when we went to sleep, me and my girl were a little drunk. And we started kissing. She then grabbed my dick and started rubbing it slowly.

In my mind, I was thinking about her having sex with someone else. Also, a very important thing for this story. was that one of our friends was talking about how he had a girlfriend who was dating another guy at the same time. And they were all making fun of him more like laughing at him, nothing like a harmful wage just like a playful laugh I like what are you doing type stuff.

We were lying with my girl. She was giving me a job, and I looked at her an asked her “what do you think he likes about it so much, I am actually curious.“ She looked at me and had like a mischievous smile and just said that she doesn’t know, to watch that I replied “I wanna try something, just tell me about you with another guy“. She smiled a little and said “are you sure?” and I was sure.

So she told me a story about how she gave a blow job to a guy before me, and as you was telling me, it was probably most turned on I’ve ever been, I was even shaking lol.

After we finished, I just looked at her and we both just started laughing, as we said “I can see what he likes about it now…”

I have brought up hotwifing to my wife in the past. She had a few concerns that I don’t think I handled properly. She didn’t say “No” more of a maybe in the future. So id like to talk to people in the lifestyle for tips on better soothing her concerns, as well as boundaries and limits. DMs are open

So let me start off by saying I love my girl and would do anything for her but I have a massive desire to see her fuck other guys especially if they are very big, uncut and bare as I want her creampied. I just can’t get the idea out of my head. We talk about it all the time, she has told me she wishes my cock was bigger and thicker and that I don’t last long and she never cums for me.she tells me about guys from her past and what she did with them, she tells me which guys she would like to fuck such as her boss. I share her pics and videos. She has a hung guy that she sexts and sends pics and videos to (she gets so wet and cums for him unlike me). She gives me verbal humiliation and SPH. I have offered her permission to fuck anyone she wants with me there, without me there, with me there but not in the same room. I said if she did do it and loved it she could have them full time. I have said she could organise guys or I could for her. My dick dribbles over this so much and so often!! She says she’s unsure and needs time to think…what do you think she should do? What do you think I should do? What do you think will happen?

Hi guys, long term couple here and sharing has been in our fantasies for a long while. Throughout the years, ive meet with 3 guys for different levels of fun but all were set online. Apps are tough as I dont want to be recognized and I feel its more transactional/forced. I work FT, im a mom, and we have other family members in the home so safety and discretion is important (not to mention planning and timing issues). Im 28 and kinda curvy, I know im decent looking but man I never catch any glances, I havent had anyone come up to me in years! Im too shy and awkward to start a convo myself so I want advice on navigating something like this when Im keeping my ring on you know? How do you guys have convos with people irl 😩

Question for the couples who meet men in the wild.

Do you think the wife would get hit on more with her ring on or off? I’m thinking she keeps it off but then maybe tells them she’s married in conversation.