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ladies what do you do to ”scratch the itch” for your husband that is very turned on by the idea of you being a hotwife?

I’m 38F my husband 36M, he expressed his desire of me becoming a hotwife 10+ years ago. His timing and approach wasn’t great and turned me off. deep down I’m actually very turned on by the idea of being worshipped by multiple men but just can’t get over the ick factor my husband has created. I want to take baby steps and explore his fantasy.

I’m a 38f, married to my high school sweetheart and he remains the only man I’ve ever been with. I used to be nervous about big toys, but about it a year ago my husband surprised me by leaving a huge black dildo (8in x 2in) in my nightstand while he was away on a business trip.

I have seen a lot of discussions about big toys and put together some questions I was genuinely curious about with other women, I provided my answers to the questions and hope to get others responses as well.

Questions:

What’s the biggest dildo you’ve taken and what honestly shocked you about how it felt?

• 8inch long by 2 in diameter. I was able to fit the entire thing inside of me, I was scared and thought there was no way it would fit. Once I relaxed and slowly eased it in, it felt absolutely amazing being so full!

For those of you who were nervous at first, what finally pushed you to go bigger?

• As I mentioned, my husband surprised me with it. He was traveling on a business trip and left it in my nightstand drawer. He didn’t say anything about it or try to pressure me into trying it. When I found it, I was able to  explore without any pressure and on my own terms.

How did your man react when he saw you really enjoying a bigger toy? Did it turn him on more than you thought?

• He absolutely loves sitting in our chair or next to me in bed watching me play with it before we have sex. If he isn’t in the mood all I have to do is grab that black dildo and he is insanely turned on.

Has going bigger improved your orgasms or made sex feel more exciting overall?

• Absolutely! Besides the physical aspect of being full and stretched, having pleasure spots inside my pussy touched that I didn’t know existed drives me wild! I am also so much more turned on knowing I drive my husband wild!

 

Best tips for beginners? Favorite lube, positions, or ways to warm up?

• When my husband and I first started to explore toys it was hard for me to enjoy them because I felt a pressure to perform. My husband learned that if he wanted me to enjoy a toy he would need to let me explore it on my own. The way he left me for a week with this giant black dildo was absolutely perfect for me to explore and that’s exactly what I did! So, besides the obvious tip of going slow and using lube, my advice is to get your big dildo out tonight after a glass of wine and tell your husband you need some alone time. Start with your favorite vibrator and porn to get warmed up before pulling out the big toy. Also I’ve found it’s is so much more enjoyable to warm the dildo and lube up with a heating pad!

 

Has playing with bigger toys made you feel more confident or empowered in your marriage/sexuality?

• The confidence I have watching my husband become so turned on just by watching me play with a toy is life changing! Our sex has become so much more fun and fulfilling.