r/sexadvise

F(26) n M(30) - married for 2 yrs

We are best friends

Have good happy life

Smooth going relationship

Never got bored in marriage

But in bed

We both get little guarded

He doesn't express completely about his fantasies and feelings, kinks

He randomly says he finds me sexy n want to fuck

But he wants me to act sexy...

I don't understand how to figure this out

We both are attracted to eachother,

Even when I'm sick for a month. He didn't push me to have sex

He just waited till I'm better.

We have good sex

But I'm kinky

I want him to dominate me but

He doesn't do it , till I ask.

He doesn't express how he wants me to act in bed for him.

Help

Need advice n suggestions

Pls no creepy dms

I love my husband

I married love of my life.

We both support eachother with everything.

F(18) And for some reason i’m so hypersexual. I crave intimacy all the time even right after i’ve had it, it’s something i feel like i NEED all the time, is that normal? I’ve been feeling this way since i was young (i guess i need to add more information cuz people think this is a catfish account LMAOO) It’s more than craving sex, i sexualize strangers, family, friends, and have many sexual thoughts even when I shouldn’t. It’s embarrassing to talk about and that’s why i’m on an anonymous reddit account. What can i do to help with these thought?

ladies what do you do to ”scratch the itch” for your husband that is very turned on by the idea of you being a hotwife?

I’m 38F my husband 36M, he expressed his desire of me becoming a hotwife 10+ years ago. His timing and approach wasn’t great and turned me off. deep down I’m actually very turned on by the idea of being worshipped by multiple men but just can’t get over the ick factor my husband has created. I want to take baby steps and explore his fantasy.

Hello everyone! I’m here seeking some advice and would love to hear from you in the comments or my DM.

I, 25F, have never had sex with a man. I’m bi, and I’ve always leaned towards women in my preferences. Lately though, I’ve been more curious and interested in men.

This is fairly new to me and makes me a little nervous. A couple questions I have:

Should I just jump right in? Change my dating app preferences to men?

Should I disclose my “virginity” to the first guy I (hopefully) sleep with?

If I have kinks that I want to explore with men, how do you go about that conversation?

Any thoughts, advice, tips are appreciated. I’m happy to provide more information if it would be helpful! Thank you for your time!

As the title says, I’ve been known to be experimentalist and my wife knows it as well… and lately she asked what a fantasy of mine was. I told her that I want to see her be pleasured by another person, specifically a woman and lately the thought of her being railed by another man has also turned me on and that wasn’t always the case.

For me, I see this as a one night fling but to her she sees it as opening up the relationship. But I told her that to me, it’s a night of fun and won’t continue, unless she likes it and wants to do it again, but I don’t see it as opening up the relationship.

What do y’all think? 🤔

M24, wanna start doing some risky public stuff like flashing, jerking, walking with 🍆 through my zipper. In places like public transport, parks and other public places. The idea of someone potentially seeing it or even straight op watching turns me on😅. But idk where to start and how to play this beacause what if someone gets mad or anything.

Not sure if this is the right subreddit for this but…

Due to my awkwardness, spending too much time studying and maybe not being that pretty, I have never had a boyfriend (or even kissed a boy).

People say dating is much easier at uni but I’m not sure if it will be for me as I struggle talking to new people and socialising in general. I’m also not sure if I actually want to jump into a serious relationship or I’d rather just date casually or even hook up (being a virgin at uni is embarrassing).

I kind of just want to try giving a blowjob first but that’s a very awkward thing to just ask someone lol

I’m not sure what I’m asking for exactly but any advice is welcomed :)

Any women on testosterone ?
What was your experience?

My fiancé who I have been with almost 9 years is so vanilla it’s unreal, but once or twice she’s been proper slutty and I loved it but then it’s as if it’s never happened, over the last 3 years she seems to speak about men’s appearances and how much she likes there body and stuff that she was never like in the first 6/7, is there a chance she’s being slutty for someone else I mean I have caught her speaking to other men on Facebook and a work colleague but we were going through a rough patch then about just at the end of Covid, unsure if this is the correct place I was on a Google hunt and it brought me here

I hooked up with a woman for the first time ever, it was also my first sexual experience+first kiss. She was amazing, was kind enough to help me and geniunely a great person. This happened 2 days ago but i cant stop thinking about her even though it was just casual sex. She was 3 years older than me and before that night i shared some vulnerable stuff with her so i feel like my brain views that sex as affectionate. How long do these feelings last? (Im a m20)

ok so this guy i've been talkin to is very sweet & everything i want in a relationship. he even did the whole gifts on tha bed wit flowers & candles tha first day i came over to his house & bought me 3 bouquets of roses . then when i started my period he got me 3 things of ice cream & he jus treats me really well & we have a strong connection. however, we started to get intimate not all the way just oral & he ate tha kitty good but when i went to him it wasn't was i was expecting... i enjoy a thick penis like toilet paper roll size or a bit bigger & 7-8 i could even do 6, it just hassss to have girth. his is like 5-6 & skinny like a quarter of a toilet paper roll
i really like him as a person & like i said he's everything i want in a relationship so far it's jus that & im scared i want be pleased by it bc i never had a skinny penis . i don't want to cut him off css he's very sweet so far but at tha same time i need to have pleasure in a relationship. as we both said we have a high sex drive
i don’t know how to break it off either bc i wont want to say “it’s because of ur size” . i dont want to make him feel insecure & he’s a nice person

So as the title says i have been feeling like im just not good at having sex or pleasuring my partner at least not to completion. i have only ever had one sexual partner and that is my current girlfriend and i feel bad after sex most the time because its pretty often that i dont make her orgasm or finish before i do and then when i cum i get soft quite fast and then its basically over. sometimes she does orgasm but there doesn’t seem to be a pattern about what i’m doing or anything or at least that i can see and usually she has to rely on her vibrator plus my penis and that how she finishes and that’s fine and all and i prefer that over her just not being able to orgasm and be left unsatisfied but i would like to be able to make her orgasm on my own and maybe multiple times before i finish. I think my main issue is just not lasting long enough because she always says it feels amazing and she gets close many times but then i stop because im about to cum and i don’t want to yet because she hasn’t yet. i’ve tried using my hands my penis my mouth and combinations of all three and i feel like i just never can find the exact things i need to do and it just feels so unfair for her so any advice would be extremely appreciated and i know everyone is at least a little different and different things work for different people but i just want to be a better partner for her. again any help or advice is super appreciated and ill try to respond or answer questions or comments as soon as i can.

Just like the title- looking for a sex club like Collette’s or like the bookstore in melrose park

Does this happen with you as we both are working professionals in 40s and we fell asleep most of nights during weekdays

I have been seeing myself waking up rubbing her or touching her and feeling embarrassed and stop. I think what if it was not my wife then

Is this something people who are married or been in a relationship with for more than 15 years also noticed or happened to you ?

Hola , en principio quiero presentarme, me llamo jorge y estuve ingresado 2 meses en un hospital psiquiátrico por un error de diagnóstico, los primeros días, no sentí la necesidad de masturbarme, pero al cabo de una semana, comencé a despertarme con unas terribles erecciones, que aliviaba , masturbandome en la ducha , siempre tomaba la precaución, de poner el cerrojo a la puerta del baño , solo de pensar que alguien me viera por casualidad, me moría de la vergüenza, pero , resultó que descubrí de la peor de las maneras posibles, que el seguro de la puerta del baño , no funcionaba, no fue una coincidencia el hecho de que me vieran , ya que llevaba varios días , disfrutando de mi momento íntimo durante mi ducha , pero si fue una coincidencia, el momento en el que sucedió, ese día , como los anteriores, estaba disfrutando de mi paja mañanera , muy cerca del orgasmo, cuando, de repente, la puerta del baño se abrió, y una celadora entró a tirar algo a la papelera, yo , estaba a punto de llegar al orgasmo, y no fui capaz de detenerme ni cubrirme mientras observaba como me miraba, primero a la cara , pero después bajó la vista y dibujó una preciosa sonrisa en su cara, sin decir nada , al preciso momento en que yo sentía como se me escapaba mi carga , delante de su cara , cerré los ojos mientras me corría, pero al terminar, mi placer se convirtió en vergüenza y esperé con los ojos cerrados a escuchar la puerta, durante los siguientes días , tuve la paranoia de que todas las empleadas del hospital lo sabrían , pero debo decir, que creo que lo guardó en secreto o ellas fueron discretas , pero cada vez que me cruzaba con ella por los pasillos, sentía vergüenza, y como mi cara se calentaba , ella , simplemente, me obsequiaba con su preciosa sonrisa y me saludaba como si nada hubiera pasado, era una señora de unos 45 años más o menos, rellenita , pero con un cuerpo que me resultaba atractivo, y una cara muy bonita, de hecho, tuve toda clase de fantasías con ella mientras me masturbaba por las mañanas

So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and our sex life is pretty good. There’s ups and downs but one problem we really have is that the actual act of sex doesn’t feel good for him. He’s uncircumcised and has issues because of it. We can’t have sex raw and have to use a condom because it hurts him if we don’t. So as a result, he can’t feel anything when we do it. Same with blowjobs. We’re working towards fixing it and getting him circumcised but I’m really struggling right now with it. I feel like there’s something wrong with my body because I can’t make him feel good the natural way. He’s the only person I’ve ever been with and I feel guilty for wishing that I could know what it’s like to make someone feel good like that. Like I can jerk him off and make him cum but I just wish I could use my body to make him feel good. I just don’t know how to cope with everything right now.