feel like i am bad at sex
So as the title says i have been feeling like im just not good at having sex or pleasuring my partner at least not to completion. i have only ever had one sexual partner and that is my current girlfriend and i feel bad after sex most the time because its pretty often that i dont make her orgasm or finish before i do and then when i cum i get soft quite fast and then its basically over. sometimes she does orgasm but there doesn’t seem to be a pattern about what i’m doing or anything or at least that i can see and usually she has to rely on her vibrator plus my penis and that how she finishes and that’s fine and all and i prefer that over her just not being able to orgasm and be left unsatisfied but i would like to be able to make her orgasm on my own and maybe multiple times before i finish. I think my main issue is just not lasting long enough because she always says it feels amazing and she gets close many times but then i stop because im about to cum and i don’t want to yet because she hasn’t yet. i’ve tried using my hands my penis my mouth and combinations of all three and i feel like i just never can find the exact things i need to do and it just feels so unfair for her so any advice would be extremely appreciated and i know everyone is at least a little different and different things work for different people but i just want to be a better partner for her. again any help or advice is super appreciated and ill try to respond or answer questions or comments as soon as i can.