My hypersexual boyfriend is cheating on me. Please help me understand.
I myself am not diagnosed with hypersexuality, though it has been brought up by my therapist. But I would consider myself not knowledgeable about this topic at all. I don’t demonize anyone who is hypersexual at all, I just want to understand why my boyfriend would do this.
I’ve had someone come to me, showing that my bf (of 2 years) has been posting thirst traps and borderline nudes online, as well as had messaged them while he and I are together. The timestamps of the post have been over the past few days/month. He has also hearted a comment of someone telling him to dm them, as well as posted a screenshot of what I can guess is a flirty review of his skills in bed. Overall, I don’t have straight up messages or photos of him cheating, but these posts, which are already disgustingly outside our boundaries, and this person coming to me, are enough to break my trust.
He has also said unsavory things to me regarding my body and lack of skills in bed, but I don’t think it’s related to hypersexuality. If you’re wondering why still stayed with him, it is because he does genuinely amazing acts of kindness and love that get me, not to mention introducing me to his family. But after this, it’s all falling apart.
He has been open with me about his hypersexuality, and we have had genuine conversations about it. I know as someone without hypersexuality, I cannot fully fulfill his needs, but I said I’m willing to help find solutions. I was wholeheartedly ready to support and be with him but after this, it seems like he doesn’t want my support. Is there something about his actions that other hypersexual people can help me understand?