Title is fairly self explanatory, but to give a little more is it normal to just hate yourself for how we feel?
That constant itch and craving that ruins so many situations, always making excuses or trying to hide stuff. Shoild be happy with what you have but your brain screams for more dopamine.
Is it just me?
I have tried dating apps and what not, and tbh for me going out all the time seems like a real hassle and very exhausting, but I still wanna know her... porn choices would be an interesting way for that, so like a date where we both just sit in a room with my laptop and play our favourite porno on speaker and goon for hours, multiple orgasms and what not, and ofc we will have some juices so no one gets dehydrated but like just rubbing/stroking together (or another) while the moans and screams fill the room along with the scent of sex juices... would be a wonderful date, wouldn't it?
It’s soo annoying. I’ve worked out, distracted myself and everything but it just Keeps coming back and I’m having a hard time (not that kind of hard 😏)
It’s like I’m starving but I don’t want to eat
I 31F have been in a committed relationship since December. However, my boyfriend has a small penis, and we’ve only had sex once since then. I tried so hard not to give in to my urges, but I’ve been so horny. I recently moved to a new city, and my boyfriend doesn’t live here with me, so we’re long-distance.
Eventually, I just couldn’t take it anymore.
Over the last week, I’ve had sex with four different guys, some protected and some unprotected.
I had one guy come inside me, then came home and had another guy eat it out of me. I haven’t stopped looking at porn on Reddit or trying to find more men to fuck.
Part of me feels a little bad about what I’m doing, but another part of me gets so turned on by the thought of cheating on my boyfriend and sucking and fucking these hung, random men 🥴
This is a long rant btw
So lately I’ve been doing so good with triggers. I usually touch myself at least twice a day, more if I’ve been triggered or stressed or just have time. I’ve decided to self impose a rule of not touching everyday Especially if I have homework. And I do mean no touching. None of the excessive casual touching I do with my body, no masturbating, no cumming, no porn, nothing nada. I’ve gone 3 days dry turkey with nothing but meditation, breathing exercises, and night walks lol.
Some important info, I’m definitely a sub, maybe a switch, I haven’t explored that, but definitely submissive. I get in the loveliest headspace with the right triggers. And unfortunately doctor’s visits tend to check every box. It’s just something about the casualness of being touched, being given orders, handing over some control, and the calming voice a lot of doctors, dentist, etc, have. I’m sorry but a lot of doctors would make great soft doms lol.
Now usually, im ok, I just don’t be weird and focus on my health because, well, they’re just doing their job and I’m just trying to figure out why I have a toothache.
Today I had a visit to get some new glasses and check my eyes. All good. Except my body is haywire and looking for any outlet for all the horny energy.
Doctor walks into the room, greetings and whatever, guy talks in a low calm voice. He lowers the light. Only lighting on is a warm tone lamp in the corner. He talks even quieter now. Mood and voice ✅Walks up to me, and starts adjusting those devices so he check my eyes. Starts giving me orders, ✅. Then the praise starts “tilt your head more, mhmm just like that”, “put your chin here, good”, “sit back more, theree youu goo,”. ✅✅✅. My god it wasn’t even full on praise but it definitely did it for me. I completely dropped. Smashed on the pavement. He had to ask me a couple of times to read the lines of letters, I was just too gone.
What’s really embarrassing was how after the tests, we’re going over some eye scans and stuff and he was just praising me for having healthy eyes. Telling how I did good during the scans earlier, “You’re a natural”, how I gave him some really clear photos, my nerves look really good and healthy, and my prescription hasn’t changed and I’ve done so well, Y’all I sat there like an idiot when it was time to get up to leave. He just standing by the door and I’m just sitting and smiling like an idiot.
Even when we were done I hadn’t come back up yet. My head was all fuzzy and I just felt so warm and heavy, felt like I just ate a big homecooked meal over Christmas break. Felt like I was touched all over in the best way. I don’t even remember what snapped me out of it just know I stared at a pair of ugly frames for like 5 mins to catch my bearings.
Anyways I just needed to write this out because I can’t get any work done and I just can’t stop thinking about it, I’m definitely relapsing tonight and never going cold turkey again because as horny as I am that was the most embarrassing thing I’ve ever experienced. I’m cheesing over optic nerve compliments wtf. But I also know what’s going into the search bar tonight. Also sorry to any doctors, especially mine….
I broke up with my ex because she was LL4me and we had many discussions about it but things just weren’t working out.
I quickly jumped into the apps and found a fuck buddy who was very inexperienced so I had a fun time teaching her and essentially turning her into a “slut”. Things were so easy with her because it was just no strings sex. But she caught feelings so I had to end it.
I met another woman shortly after who she matched my drive and was a squirter so I had a blast, pun intended, every date night. Unfortunately, due to travel plans I didn’t feel the same spark with her long-distance. I realized I had to end it so I wasn’t leading her on for just sex.
I have been masturbating like crazy these past couple months so I decided to take a break. I tried to distract myself with activities and made it to almost 2 weeks (12 days). After breaking the seal yesterday, I’ve been masturbating all day today. It’s hard to not want this dopamine rush.
It’s hard to deal with the urges outside of a relationship but I’m starting to realize I need to deal with this in much healthier ways. I cannot keep living like a slave to my sex drive.
Anyway, just ranting to folks who can actually understand without passing any judgement. Hope you are doing well.
What is it with people? It’s like a constant cycle for me. I realize I have HS. I accept it. So when I start dating, I make it known. HEY. I have a high sex drive. I’m not a receiver, I’m a giver.
Three months in , I’m now going a week? Sometimes two? Sometimes LONGER. Without being touched. I’m by no means someone that NEEDS it everyday - I have toys and a hand for a reason. It seriously drives me insane that this is a constant in relationships. But once I communicate how I’m feeling, I get told I’m “too much”.
For a long time, I thought it was me. I thought “something” was off. But it’s not me.
Sorry. Just needed to vent.
My boyfriend eats my pussy good but it's like an every now and then... we have sex I always give him oral I even suck on his dick soft after we fuck to swallow his cum leaking after were done. Like I love giving oral but tonight I sent this after he said I'm always asking, I mean you said you would last time and didn't so it's whatever anyways I see giving me oral is something you don't like I guess which you could've just said that 🙂I and he told me I'm thinking to deep into it. And I'm just like I'm not going to force you to do anything you don't to do. He's like I just be forgetting... which is a lie because I used to ask all the time then he said I was asking too much to I stopped ask so much but also during forplay he's like pauses I'm like wtf. So last week I was with him I probably brought it up 2-3 times the couple day I was with him. He's saying I asked 8 times in one day! Like I know I didn't but like I am hurt I feel like their something else's he's not telling me 😭
I'm new to all this I'm a 27 M from the uk. I though it was just me I thought i just had a problem i came on here to watch porn and I found people I realt too reading all your stories
I am struggling with the fact that everything triggers me. Women walking their dog ,triggered. Going to the pool - triggered. Seeing a good looking mom at my kids school - triggered. I feel like everything triggers me. I just want to "do" everyone. Is this a problem for everyone or just me. How do I keep myself from wanting to go after every women i see?
I’m a hyper-sexual woman in her 20’s and have been dealing with this since grade school.
For years now I’ve generally been able to keep my HS urges at bay. I’ve had “triggers” but over all been able to manage with therapy. Well, I decided to stop therapy earlier this year and it was not the best idea.
My latest trigger was my therapist trying to fuck me and the reason I was even in therapy was because I had left an abusive relationship that also triggered it. Well these last few months I’ve been unable to stop myself from my urges. It’s gotten to a point where my life seems to be scheduled around my HS. Like I eat, live, work around sexual schedule. Currently I’m working my normal “9-5” and fulfilling my sexual needs with being a SB with most of my free time.
I genuinely feel like I want more and it’s not enough. I’m afraid I might do something so risky that it’ll get me in a dangerous position. Has any woman been in my position ? Who do I even turn to if my usual coping mechanism (therapy) doesn’t feel safe anymore. Sometimes I wish I could find just 1 person that matches my HS needs but tbh I don’t know if that’ll actually be enough. Anyways thanks for any advice.
The question here is quite simple. Does anyone else struggle to masturbate? I find the relationship between sex and masturbation to be a bit weird with me. I honestly struggle to feel good msdturbating and it can take me a long time to achieve anything. It is normally a strained and frustrated feeling. On the other hand sex is so attractive, exciting and relaxing. I can hardly ever get enough. Naturally over the years I have found that keeping a long list of FWBs is the best way for me to stay levelheaded. I just womdered if anyone else has encountered the same situation?
I always see men being desperate for sex, but i can’t digest the same fact for myself. I feel ashamed. I feel if i were a man and this horny, this was somehow acceptable. My good friend said that it’s not a gender problem, it’s a human problem, and you should face it as a dependency. But how do i accept this desperation and neediness. I indulge in online risky behaviours.
I read questions and comments here about how HS feels good and bad at the same time, how HS people like to inject flirting into everyday conversation and feel confused when others don’t reciprocate or dont have the same sexual energy… what do you do now you realise youre different in this way? how do you date? other HS people or polyamory?? and how do you know when your HS is being toxic/unhelpful??
hey, there! So I have been dealing with HS as long as I can remember. Recently, I rlly scared myself by (almost) engaging in risky behavior with men I did not know and without any safety measures. Anyways, this is the closest I’ve gone to actual self-harm. However, I am scared that I will be tempted again especially at night when I am pretty much just alone with my thoughts. I am doing therapy but I working through other stuff. i do want to know any uncommon or weird coping mechanisms you have especially at NIGHT to deal with HS. I just personally do not want to ever engage in risky behavior. So do you have any rituals or habits that help you cope with HS at night?
EDIT: ideally, the habit or ritual would require me to NOT engage in sexual behavior. So no masturbating or sexting
hello. this is a general rant, but i also have questions. i suspect i am audhd and i am def on the asexual spectrum.
ever since i was a child ive been going through hypersexual phases which often leads me to risky online behaviour. i am currently in one, it has been two weeks already and before this i have been feeling sex avoidant for months. the last few days are especially challenging as i am also struggling with pmdd, which really makes fast dopamine seeking appealing.
i have noticed that as an adult (it was not the case as a child, if i remember that correctly) this often occurs during especially emotional stressful moments and when it happens, it takes many hours of my day and leaves me feeling ashamed and guilty as i have got sh!t to do but waste time on this horniness.
long backstory to ask yall : is your hypersexuality something that is there all year long or you go through phases? if so, are those linked to any kind of emotional state of mind? is any of you ace/on the ace spec and how do you deal with hs given that? if you have a period, have you noticed pattern between the time of the month and your behavior?
sorry its a lot and prob confusing, thanks for whoever will take some time to reply.
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So mind you im not on drugs at least when i been doing this the last months, but my sex drive and my brains hunger for a peak sexual experience makes me do it (hard to describe) basically ill camp in my car at large gyms and watch the hottest females with the tightest shortest gym shorts come out, or even BBLS and drive up and masturbate with window little down but not all way down where they cant really see my lower half, and masturbate roughly , through my pants and moan loud so they can hear me, before i cum i have this sexual high so intense that i camp out at gyms for like 8 hours masturbating on and off, watching girl go in that i wanna do it too and waiting 1-2 hours until she comes out and repeat and i do it multiple times.
Once i see the girl thats the hottest or extremely hot, i look and feel similiar to crack or meth but not exactly, For some background i use to do meth long ago on and off and i believe it caused this side effect long term even when sober, especially this sexual side effect because i was never like this befoee
Now 2 months ago this time i consumed THC and Alcohol, and for the first time in my life i didnt trust myself anymore, i dont know how this happened and i really mean it, everyone when they drink alcohol knows damn well what they ars doing , but i think i was genuinely delusional at this point, so i was half naked waist down doing wierd stuff and im not sure how this happen because i know id never take it this far, wont get into details what i was doing, it was voyurism related, i was pretty scared when i became sober because i promise on everything it wasnt me nor would i have ever done it, (long story short be half naked outside of my vehicle) It felt as if i was in a video game world/dream world and my sex drive was so insane that i felt like i was on meth but not exactly just similiar, chasing a sexual dopamime high(hard to describe).
One time i was doing something similiar in my vehicle and saw a woman that was wearing see through thong walking her dog, i followed her into a store to get a better look, i promise i mean no harm , its like im being controlled, feels similiar like crack or meth., i didnt sleep for 36 hours or so and was so delusional that i didnt realize how crazy it was to do it but my brain kept convincing me it will give me a sexual dopamine hit like never before, I said excuse me and asked this girl "how much" cant remember exact words, and she said excuse me? Where the fuck are u from to be asking such shit to me? (The thought of her possibly saying yes) was the whole point of that sexual dopamine hit and staring at her etc. I immediatley left, again i mean no harm. Im just mentally sick
This keeps going on and off. I havent kept a job since late 2020 due to similiar addictions, apparently doc has said i also have paranoid schrizophrenia but not sure how true that is or if what im describing is a sympton of what i have or part of meth that damaged my brain.
Its as if my brain keeps chasing this certain sexual high and mimicking a crack, mainly meth like affect, except im sober from meth or drugs when i do these things.
I’m a devoted husband and father , and I love my wife. But I feel like she hides parts of her self from me, still after many years of marriage. In the beginning I would pry about her past but now I just leave it alone and let God handle it, but I’m human and it still bothers me( not stressful, just bothers me) I’m just a little hurst that she won’t share with me even at my experience of understanding.
See, when I was young I was molested at the age of
7 by my male cousin. And then a couple of times by others male family members up until the age of 11. I also grew up in a very bad home were there were a lot of fight and I would get beat for no reason.And I think it kind of drove my sex drive up and psychologically mixed up . Not sure how to describe it but it drove my sex drive mad. Between those ages I would also indulge and participate in it because I liked it. But as an adult now I sought professional help and thank God im good now.
Fast forward to my wife now , same thing happened to her.from the inception of our relationship these are the following things she told me and during our rough patches these are the things that happened.
When we first dated she said she indulge in sex with her uncle and she enjoyed it and she cried when she told me.
This happen to her and some other girls including her cousin. She told me how her uncle would chose her cousin over her because she was light skin.
One day she was taking a shower and I open the door accidentally to use the bathroom and she yelled at me, she said how her uncle and another uncle would just bardge in the bathroom when she was showering.
After a week into marriage I found she was on dating apps.she denied it.
One day we were arguing and her mood just flip into nice person and she said babe imma go to the gym. But I followed her secretly and didn’t find her at the gym.
One day we both went to the gym and there was a man exercising and his dick print was out , she went to the machine in front of him . And may be I’m overthinking this one but with everything that happen so far I couldn’t help but think she was starting at his package.
After I found out in our pass she was “cheating on me” I was hurt but after a while I found myself getting around by the idea of her fucking another man.
When I brought up the idea of Hotwifing she was hurt and cried about it. And was very angry at me.
In conclusion I know I’m not naive, she probably cheated on me many times. (I did my dirt too out of hurt) but we’re good and in a great place now, but I’m still disappointed because I still don’t know the truth or I still do t o ow my wife fully. If you’re a believer please pray for me and my marriage.
Either her experiences made her a sex addict and she needs help. She covers her hurt with success.There ‘s definitely something spiritual and psychologically wrong with my wife and love her so much I just want her to heal and give me her all. No matter what 😢
Ladies and prayer warriors advice please
Everytime I look at them I can't help but feel aroused. Even though I don't love her in that way anymore, her body... her body still turns me on
I've used our old pics and vids to masturbate to still. When I try to delete them, I play them and get hard, and look through all we did together. Leading me to not follow through.
Any advice or probing questions to help would be great. Make me think outside of my cock please..
Being hypersexual is bad enough but being muslim as well means the shame and guilt is so much worse. I feel like I am living a double life. On the outside I’m a good practicing muslim but on the inside I have these rampant desires and urges that I shelter from the rest of the world. Reddit is a safe space for me to explore it in a safe way. I feel frustrated though and I wish there were more Muslims open about hypersexuality