Humility begets wifely submission
I often see conversations around submission in trad/male-led relationships. I think it’s also important to highlight the importance of humility as a precursor to a wife’s successful submission.
Humility allows you to quiet the drive to do things your way, and to put your interests and ideas first. It pushes you to center your family and elevate your Husbands needs above your own.
When a wife humbles herself to her Husband she makes herself vulnerable and allows Him to see her most naked, raw self (physically and metaphorically), trusting that He will care for her, protect her, and use His best judgement to know what’s best her. Humility is needed to accept a Husbands decision with grace, even when you would have chosen otherwise. A humble wife can voice her opinion respectively, while remaining deferential to her Husband’s vision. A humble wife quiets her ego and embarrassment and caters to her Husband’s desires.
Humility, in all its forms, allows a wife to thrive and find pleasure under, rather than buck against, her Husbands authority.
I do believe that finding this humility is a challenge however, and requires strength and courage and determination. While the desire is always there, there are times when i personally do need my Husband’s help and guidance to get in touch with this most vulnerable part of myself. I’m grateful to have a Husband who can lead me in this way and provide and structure and accountability i need to be my best self for Him and our marriage.
While different, i think there’s a parallel whereby a Husband’s leadership is also strengthened by a sort of humility. I don’t think it’s my place to speak to this, but i’m interested to hear what others think.