r/TradLifeSanctuary

I'm struggling sexually with my husband. While we have a wonderful sex life and a beautiful home and family he's blessed us with ... there's ONE part thats more so causing me physical pain..

He has an anal kink. While that's absolutely fine, he's incredibly impatient. To the point where I am getting hurt more often than not. He's respectful of that of course and allows me to heal but, I am to the point where Im so turned off by the pain and bleeding that I feel like everytime I communicate it with him he gets disappointed.

We've been together almost 10 years.. we have a very traditional relationship and family set up. I want him to be satisfied and happy with me.. how do I navigate this?

I'm mainly asking women who entered marriage expecting it to be monogamous not those who are already open to a polygamous marriage.

This is purely a hypothetical question. I'm not assuming anyone's husband actually wants this in fact many of your husbands may be completely happy being in a monogamous marriage and may never want another wife.

I've come across some men arguing that feminism is one of the reasons monogamy became the dominant expectation and that in their view a truly submissive wife shouldn't object if her husband wanted to take another wife. I've also seen some men argue that having multiple wives is a sign of greater masculinity. That made me wonder how traditional wives themselves feel about this.

If hypothetically, your husband told you he wanted to marry a second wife:

- Would you stay or leave?

- If you stayed do you think your relationship with him would ever feel the same?

- Would you feel that accepting it is part of being a submissive wife or do you think submission has limits?

- What factors would influence your decision?

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When you’re home alone and he isn’t there, is something missing? The empty space in the air where He should be? As you’re washing the laundry, or drying the dishes, do you feel it in your stomach? That ping of loneliness? When the car pulls into the drive, the door slams shut, and the jingle of the keys rings out into the air, where are you? Are you right there? Waiting in excitement to escape the absence? Embracing him for gracing you with his presence, his scent, his aura?

Does he look you in the eye and know that because you’re there, his day just got easier? That the woman who was born to serve only him is there to take the burden off his shoulder? You made a vow to carry that weight. True femininity is about holding his world on your back with his seed growing in your stomach. You are his female Atlas. Every grueling minute he spends at work he is holding the cruelty of capital at bay from touching a hair on your head. He suffers to provide for you. Are you sure you provide in equal measure?

Is the house clean? Is the sink empty? Children taken care of? When he goes to rest his aching body, are you there to sustain him? Feed him, give him cool drinks, and be a soft comfort on his side? Have you thanked him today? When he wakes is he serviced in the morning? Before he goes to bed is he pleased? Balls empty and belly full. You get to stay home all day, you should provide him these comforts not out of demand or expectation, but out of love.

And in return, like a bulwark against the world, your rock stands tall. Guiding you through the abyss of our planet. Stand behind him as he pushes forward in society for the both of you. He knows where you’re going. So just be sure to follow, and follow close. Hold his hand as he pulls you along. And he will guide you to peace in eternity.

What rules do you all have in your relationship? What are your favorites?

My husband and I have been wanting to add a couple of new rules to our dynamic.

Mine are:

I have to send a nude photograph every day

I can edge while husband is gone but not cum without permission.

Always swallow

Free use when our baby is not home with us

Follow direct orders

I just stumbled on this thread and appreciate its positive vibe and the 1950s aesthetic! I wanted to chime in with my own perspective as a girl raised in a patriarchal house where my mom and dad had very clear roles. For me, it always made absolute sense and created this feeling of total security. I loved shadowing my mom (she joked I was her "intern") and learning how to be a homemaker. I never thought she oppressed, and she always told me it was so liberating for her to get to focus on creating a beautiful home for us.

I know that's not for everybody, and I love the emphasis on this being freely chosen, but for me it's definitely the model that makes the most sense.