u/CheekyCharliesSpace

你好.

I've been studying a couple languages passively for a while but kind of fell off for a while. I started with Korean and Japanese, but eventually settled on Chinese because I actually enjoy it and I love watching cdramas. I had a language partner, but she lives in China so it was difficult to get our timing, then we lost touch after the new year.

Looking for older, 40+, ABDL that either speak or want to learn Chinese together. I practice writing and reading, but don't get much speaking practice. I use Duolingo, sometimes memories, and the DuChinese graded reader app. I'd also be happy just watching and discussing dramas together (I like anime too, though I prefer eng sub)

I just finished Ashes to Crown and Key to the Phoenix Heart. I also started watching The Prosecutor's Proposal, but that's an LGBT kdrama lol.

"don't tell me I deserve better, just be better"... I often hear how I deserve "better". How cute, wonderful, sweet, perfect I am, but..... I deserve better.. yet no one has actually shown me what better is or has been willing to be the better I supposedly deserve.. so I'm prefacing this with, I already know I deserve better. I'd like to finally meet someone willing to give it to me.

In my vanilla life - I'm a mildly attractive, chubby single mom of one with no intention of having more. In fact, I'm preparing for a hysterectomy. I'm black, I work from home. Have a plethora of misfortune that I try to crack jokes about to keep the misery that is my life light and fun. Self depreciation, sarcasm, and dry humor. I don't pretend to know anything, but I DO like discussing politics and current events. Ethics and morals are important to me. So.... No red pill, maga, Republicans, EXTREME liberals that are so far gone you may as well be maga 🫠

I am not a super energetic person, so sadly I am not one that will join you for hikes, gym days, or 6am trips to the farmers market on a Sunday. But I will complain about how much I hate cooking, then feed you a flavorful meal. I will force you to sit with me and watch anime and Chinese dramas, then tell you how good the story is while crying my eyes out. I will also climb all over you, poke at you, and ask a lot of questions during times you kindly convince me to do something you enjoy that I don't quite understand. I do enough exercise to say I did something, but not enough that I can claim to be in shape anymore lol.

ABDL - both in and out of kink, I'm a bit of a spoiled princess that has a love hate relationship with praise. I do wear diapers, but honestly they are only a small portion of the whole picture. I wet but don't mess, so let's get that out of the way. I don't really have a "little age" perse, but I do have a sort of whimsical headspace and then I have the full on triggered regression. Please understand the differences. One is fun, one is not so fun and requires a different level of care and interaction.

To be honest, my little side and my "big" side are pretty similar. I like to give and receive attention. I love talking all day. I love being taken care of and taking care of my partner. I can be a bit standoffish and shy, but I can also be equally clingy and needy. Please don't bother if you can't handle both, specifically the clingy, needy, anxious parts of me.

Ideal partner - I'm looking for someone my age or older that does NOT wear diapers. So, at least 40 and doesn't wear diapers. I'm hoping to meet someone that complements my personality and vice versa. Someone that is ready for a commitment, but isn't necessarily wanting to jump into anything right away. Just intentionally dating and wanting to build something. I'm hoping for someone sincere, transparent, and nurturing. Funny and natural.

Anyway, I'm hoping to find equal parts "adult/vanilla" and "CGL". Id love a relationship where everything flows easily. I'm looking for that deeper connection that pulls us together. I want someone that is just as excited about me as I am about them. You're always my CG, and I'm always your little. It's not a roleplay, just who we are as people. Not sure how this post will come off but hopefully you actually read it and got a little glimpse into who I am.

Not sure you can predict what to expect from me.. I will warn you, there's a lot of crying for attention though.

What I need most right now is a nonsexual CG friend I can talk to and trust. Someone my age or older that just gets it. It doesn't seem I'll ever find a relationship, but I'd really love to have someone consistent in my life..

Writing this at 3am so I know it's lacking in substance and creativity. I'm just lonely and kind of tired of regressing and crying to myself most nights 😅...