Ruined my sex life
My wife, early 30s, has a big hairy pussy. I’ve always used big dildos on her as she at one point in time, several years ago, had a BBC porn fetish, and was a believer in bigger is better (despite only having been with me).
I am average size, a good size even, but still I’ve used sleeves etc on her. This was always pushed by me. Sometimes she’s required convincing / persuasion.
Now I don’t even try to pleasure her with my penis. I fuck her with only the head / tip of my penis so that she doesn’t feel me and then asks for fingers almost right away. I’ve done this to reinforce the psychological element that my penis is redundant, not big or good enough to fill her up. Seems to have worked and this is now accepted. She thinks my full cock is inside her.
Our normal sex now is, my cock, 4 fingers, and pushing down and up on her perineum with great force. Not even thrusting, just up and down stretching out her bottom floor.
She can’t even tell the difference, even when I go limp, or fall out, I just keep pushing down on her perineum. This is what sex is for her now I guess…